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Has been some months since i swallowed the pill, im 19 and for me has been like an epiphany...

I admit that i went a little bit "rambo" on this stuff but everyone in my family accepted the "changes" that i made except one, my father.

I never discussed TRP with anyone, i just changed my way to think and act, so far i feel in charge of myself, amazing...

The only problem is my father who shit test me like a girl 24H/week, i adopted the basic stuff "AA and Ignore" but he still keeps going after all this time... i dont mind it, i can manage it, but i would like a little bit of peace (2 weeks and im going away from home for college) so its not like i will deal with this a lot in the future.

My dad is a super bluepill yada yada... what would you do in my pants?


[–]Red-Curious9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I doubt he's s-testing you. The purpose of s-tests is for women to see if you're a strong enough man to be worth their attraction (usually subconsciously). Your dad isn't trying to get attracted to you. He doesn't want to have sex with you.

He's used to having a position of authority. You becoming your own man defies his position. He's testing your frame, but it's not the same type of test as women throw because it's for different motivations. Likewise, you don't respond the same way because you don't want to make your dad sexually attracted to you.

Also, you need to respect the fact that he has legitimate power over you. If your boss starts giving you crap, you don't try to out alpha him the way you would a girl. Again, you're not trying to have sex with him (unless you're working for a hot chick and you really are). You don't want to risk your job to prove a point. Your dad is a resource to you. Trying to out-power him is a quick way to lose what favor he might give you. Instead, he'll probably say, "Fine, go your own way. Don't come crawling back to me until you've learned some humility."

Long story short: Communicate your positions clearly, but respect his authority. If he's giving you crap without a legitimate basis, let him know - but do it with a smile, not in an argumentative way. Master the art of fogging. But perhaps the most important thing you can do is to show him how to be the type of man you want to follow - someone you can respect. Do this through your actions, yes, but don't be afraid to have a conversation with him about why you have trouble respecting him. Don't mention RP, but do let him know: "If you want to get through to me, this is what I need to see in you to know you're worth listening to. If your life is headed a direction I don't want to go right now, I'm not going to follow your lead."

[–]QuasarAL[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I never spoke with him about this stuff, in fact i think it would be an error, you cant change a bluepill mind exposing the reality, you are going to be meet with fire.

[–]Red-Curious2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You can talk to him about stuff without mentioning "the red pill." I've seen lots of minds change on these topics.

[–]swagIord0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I doubt he's s-testing you. The purpose of s-tests is for women to see if you're a strong enough man to be worth their attraction (usually subconsciously). Your dad isn't trying to get attracted to you. He doesn't want to have sex with you.

Bullshit, how do you know his dad isn't a faggot?

[–]redditJ54 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Most important thing you can do it hold your frame. Your dad has at least 2x the experience by age, he's seen a lot of fads, he's calling you out. You have to hold it together, enjoy his shit test.

What I would do, it approach all that tail you can get while you are at college, slay as much as you can, network as much as you can, and take your pants off while doing it. I hate getting smail trails on my pants.

[–]QuasarAL[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, i think the same, i would just like him to chill out... he is a nice person.

[–]UEMcGill4 points5 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

He's your dad, not your mother. He's challenging you to hold your end of the bargain. Instead of treating it like a shit test shut the fuck up instead.

How do you keep your dad from busting your balls? Be a man. Men get shit done. Talk is talk.

Do you have chores? Get them done without asking. Do you have homework? Same there. When you say "I'll do xyz" do you do it right away or does mommy nag the fuck out of you until you do it?

Maybe your dad is just an asshole, but maybe his bullshit meter has gone off and he doesn't trust all the big talk coming out of you is anything more than bluster.

Respect is earned. You've had 19 years of being a boy, just because you read a few books doesn't make you a man. Let your actions prove it to him.

[–]QuasarAL[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Thx for the comment, i never missed anything in my life, i have done good in school, i got my english certificate, i never holded a cigarette in my hand, i never went out with friends late at night and i dont drink any form of alchool since years, im very good at sports etc...

Its the stuff we all know, you are never good enough, i get it, i dont care i think i have been a very good son and i will be in the future.

he is not an asshole, he is very nice, we all know what it means.

Lstly STFU would show resentment, while with (AA and ingore) i can let him see that IDGAF, which is true...

[–]UEMcGill3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

...see that IDGAF, which is true...

So why are you here? When I don't give a fuck about something I put that shit on ignore. Yet you're here. You're desperate to get your dads validation and show him what a man you've become.

Do you tell 3 year olds why they should respect you? Do you tell the dog why he should respect you? No because you don't give a fuck what they think. Yet here you are asking how to make your dad stop busting your balls.

Thx for the comment, i never missed anything in my life, i have done good in school, i got my english certificate, i never holded a cigarette in my hand, i never went out with friends late at night and i dont drink any form of alchool since years, im very good at sports etc...

None of the above matters because it's in the past. Its sunk cost fallacy. You are not the some of your past, only the value you provide in the here and now. So I go back to what I asked, do you provide value in the house? Or are you just a rooster crowing at the sun?

I gave you the recipe. Get shit done, and ignore him. Either the info he's giving you is valid, hence get shit done or it's not; ignore.

[–]QuasarAL[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Im here because i want him to chill out and have a non "forced" rapport with me, basically im here because i want him to relax a little bit.

I get what you want to say, Lastly its up to him, i will keep my frame and get shit done :) .

[–]Rian_Stone1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

The easiest way every man here found, was to be a self-sustaining man.

Relaxing comes after success, what you've described as your accomplishments are the bare minimum required to adult.

And once you're at a point when you've made it, thats when the adult relationships happen

[–]QuasarAL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

very very good point! thx

[–]Rian_Stone3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

You're 19 and you live at home? I don't think anything your dad does is responsible for that one

[–]QuasarAL[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, im going to start college in the very best university of my state, im such a failure xD.

Have a nice day bro!

[–]Rian_Stone4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Best to save your brags until you've actually done the things you brag about.

Good luck with being your own man, realize your dad expects the best out of you, and the grief he gives you is his way of articulating his percieved lack of your work so far.

He may be onto something. Shedding the ego and taking a hard self assessment would be prudent

[–]QuasarAL[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Very good point, im going to get everything in my hands and be engaged... You may have got the point here.

[–]Gawernator1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

How exactly is he bluepill?

[–]BlastCorporation0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

A man can't shit test you what are you talking about. Just ignore him.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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