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Year One (Update) (self.marriedredpill)

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[–]Snowdog19733 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm pretty new to all this - found NMMNG a few months ago, started doing the work; lifting, reading, learning, lurking, etc. First, the original "Year One" post was one I saved off to Evernote for posterity and go back to occasionally and reread - the content, the tone, the voice, the message all spoke to me - it made me realize (even more than previously) that I have not been living the life I deserve to live. So for that, thank you. It also reaffirmed that this is a journey that I will take alone - I will not speak of my efforts at transformation - my wife will see action, results, and change but not why or how or when.

EDIT: Typo

[–]BobbyPeruMRP Approved15 points16 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

I think you would have been better off changing your username and laying low for a while. It's kind of weird that half of your post was written with your wife in mind - that she might be reading it. It affects what and how you write.

1st rule of fight club.

[–]weakandsensitive19 points20 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Wrong. This is really wrong. If you actually own your shit and have a solid frame, the truth will shine irrespective. Hiding your values and passions b/c of anyone else, much less your wife, is such a bitch move I'm kinda disappointed it's even suggested. Just because a message can be marketed hard or soft, doesn't take away from the message itself if you're smart.

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[–]bowhunter60 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think you did/are doing the right thing. OYS in this instance was/is probably hard as fuck, but getting easier over time. Stay strong. I wish you the best, brother.

[–]Aaren_Augustine3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

TFA is a clear example of this.

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[–]weakandsensitive1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

is from a fictional movie/book to serve an explicit purpose. it's not run away and hide like a little bitch when you're discovered.

[–]Aaren_Augustine3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

He needs to stay brutally honest. More fun at home that way.

[–]BobbyPeruMRP Approved-2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Mrs. SubPrimeMate, is that you?

[–]Aaren_Augustine1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Missed the point.

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You u/seapen would be better pkaced to talk about a girl fibding fight club

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[–]Aaren_Augustine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Purple.

[–]Aaren_Augustine4 points5 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

The firestorm has been purifying.

My wife as well. Care to elaborate on what your firestorm looked like?

And for the record, like marriage, I can not condone telling a wife about MRP.

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[–]Aaren_Augustine1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

My uncle is gay. My grandfather disowned him for a while. The topic came up once with my wife when there was news about a politician, who predominately fought against gay rights...well he switched when his son came out as gay. My wife thought it was stupid of both my grandfather and the politician for being so close minded.

Guess how she acted when I came out of the "closet" as MRP.

Everyone's got a quaint opinion until their personally effected. So how do you think your wife will act with this power struggle in the years to come? I'd like to believe we don't have clashing sexual strategies between husband and wife, but we do.

[–]PersaeusMRP APPROVED1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I'd like to believe we don't have clashing sexual strategies between husband and wife, but we do.

Beyond hypergamy, are you eluding to something else?

[–]Aaren_Augustine1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I'm eluding to a husband's need for sexual expression and a wife's sexual suppression. Which is why a lot of MRP guys had dead bedrooms.

[–]PersaeusMRP APPROVED6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

The husband almost always has an actual strategy, blue pill, red pill, or dumb luck he is scheming on how to get in his wife's pants.

IMHO most married women have no conscious sexual strategy of suppression or otherwise. I am sure there more than a few that use it for choreplay, cash and prizes; but this is the exception (i.e. your wife is whoring herself to you). What they have is their hypergamous instincts that suppresses attraction for weak males. A woman's sexual strategy in marriage is equivalent to your strategy for getting water out of the tap. You turn it on, and it flows out.

[–]Aaren_Augustine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great way of putting it. Especially with the weak male part.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This insightful; suppression is not a plan but a reaction to a weak blue pill males sexual strategy approach. Suppression is just a woman following her hypergamous instinct in the face of male weakness and lack of leadership.

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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If you took her here, then you are a validation seeking beta and doomed.
If you left your stuff on, and she invaded your privacy and read your post, then you can get a job at the State dept. handling emails for the secretary of state.

Closing your account upon discovery would have been weak, IMO. Honestly, who really cares if she read your shit or not. She might have better ammo for a shit test now, so you'll just have to be even more on your toes. Also don't write a post based upon the fact the MRs may be reading it that reeks of validation seeking again.

[–]weakandsensitive1 point2 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

you find a bunch of guys trying to save their marriages, to stick around for their wives and kids. Instead of packing up the truck to go fuck hookers in Boomtown.

why not both?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

upvoted- because I like amoral options.

[–]nonnimooseFeemale0 points1 point  (10 children) | Copy Link

Because he is describing this sub for his wife. The concept of amorality in MRP is the only part of it that rubs me the wrong way and I imagine most wives/s.o.'s would feel the same. And by that I do not mean the "fuck me or fuck you" dread level, but the idea that you could be a great wife and your RP husband's RP internet buddies would still support his extra-marital sex adventures.

Which is not to say that I think RP guy = greater risk of cheating. In every single friend's marriage I know of where there was infidelity on the husband's part, the guy was a true beta. It could just be that the alphas are too smart to get caught, but the fact remains that beta guys cheat too. They just feel guilty about it.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I'd absolutely support a man in his quest to be authentic. but he'd have to face the consequences. Everyone and their dog knows that men must go to great lengths to suppress their natural desires. Still, women are stuck with the notion of "if he really loved me he wouldn't have eyes for anyone else."

[–]nonnimooseFeemale2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, I used to think that - then I got old, lol.

[–]weakandsensitive2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

the idea that you could be a great wife and your RP husband's RP internet buddies would still support his extra-marital sex adventures.

of course i would.

i support the individual's right to making choices and living with the consequences of said choices. this is how personal responsibility works.

It could just be that the alphas are too smart to get caught

i hate alpha/beta - but the person who owns his shit would be forthright and the whole notion of being "caught" wouldn't even exist.

if we're going to pure biological, what we know is that men recover faster from ejaculation when the opportunity to have sex with a new woman presents itself than with the same woman. there are arguments to be made that monogamy is a social construct and against our nature and that biological fitness dictates we'd be naturally inclined to impregnate as many women as possible. so realistically, our modern societal expectations w.r.t. sexuality is highly malleable depending on subgroups, but I digress.

[–]nonnimooseFeemale0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

of course i would.

Whether you would, wouldn't, should, shouldn't wasn't my point at all - just that the amoral aspect of the sub would likely give a woman pause whereas the rest of it - OYS, be strong!fun!attractive!lead!, etc is pretty easy for a wife to get behind.

but the person who owns his shit would be forthright and the whole notion of being "caught" wouldn't even exist.

You may personally feel this way but there are those here who would not only disagree with this but would advise a guy against being forthright in order to advance his sexual strategy.

[–]weakandsensitive3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Who's morality do you think is worth more? Yours or mine? Because that's the scenario you're positing.

The answer is neither of our moralities are worth a damn.

I continually and repeatedly tell men to fuck other women even if they're married if that's what it takes to solve their mental blocks. How are you helping? Because what you're advocating is a huge covert contract that depends on 1 specific woman responding.

If you're going to let any woman or any man be your judge, jury, and executioner, you've already failed part 1 of being an attractive man.

The long and short of it is that you're wrong. But feel free to think and feel however you want.

just that the amoral aspect of the sub would likely give a woman pause

This is also where you show you know nothing about women. You think any of the women that Tiger Wood's was fucking didn't know he was fucking other attractive women? Common. You're in the realm of listening to what they say versus watching what they do. This is Red Pill 101.

[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Congrats, you are arguing with a feemale.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not for the readers at home. She is not on your team

pretty easy for a wife to get behind.

This is why that part isn't the end all and be all. don't sprinkle alpha on your relationship

For /u/nonnimoose ... take a day, reflect on my advice from last week

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Man stuff...

How much more does one need

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[–]PersaeusMRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

You gotta be the master, and the dog now.

huh?

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[–]PersaeusMRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I like it

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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