Ok, unsure how much time I'll have. I'll get done what I can now, comeback again later in needed. Weight- when I started I weighed 245lbs, all fat. Now I weigh 225lbs and I've lost more fat than just the 20lbs. My beginning workout stats were not horrible, but I've gone up a lot in weight I lift. I don't have stats in front of me, I actually did record my exercise stats. But beginning bench was 1rm 150 or so, squat 175 or so. Last time I tried my barbell bench was 250 at 10 reps. My current regimen is strong lifts 5x5. But I do dumbbell bench instead of barbell. Bench 200lbs, squat 260, deadlift 325, military press 150, dumbbell row 200, I think that's it. Sorry if this is too much info about all this. I've had some joints not cooperate do I was lifting more but pulled back some due to shoulders and hips not liking what I was doing, so I'm slowly pushing weight back up in hopes they feel better this time.

Milestones- I can only think of a few. She told me a few months ago my butt looked good like when we first got married.
The biggest was deciding I was in charge of my family. I took someone's advice to heart on here. I decided she could make the decisions on all things around the house. She's there more than me. But anything with money, job, etc, I made the decisions for what was best for me and my family. My life has drastically been altered because of this. I owned my own business before but I hated what I did, debt was always high, we lived in an area where I knew it was not a great situation for my family. So, instead of deliberating as I always did with her because she did not want changes to occur due to being scared of unknown, I just made changes anyways. Sold my business, got a new job in a new state, we are currently selling out old home and will be getting one in the new location, while Fam is excited for the change. I decided I would rather be happy on my own if in fact she did not follow than to suffer for the rest of my life due to previous beta mistakes. I'm happy she followed. All the changes have been positive, she sees that, she now has a leader to follow, not a full beta jackass. I still have a tendency to fall back into it so I'm constantly on guard. I now look at my friends differently. They all want to change too but are too damn scared, they have complimented me on having balls to fix my shit. My wife has noticed as well.

What didn't work? Lots of stuff. But it's s learning process and I'm still learning as much as I can. There was a point when I thought I was alpha enough to pull shit off and I wasn't. I as trying to lead and prove I was the man, but in reality I was still a sloppy fat ass. So she didn't listen. That's when I began to hit the gym hard and lift hard. Before she complained I was going to the gym and not being with the kids. Now she says go get your workout in! She knows it makes me better and I feel more fucking manlier. When we first married I was a strong shit. I let it all go to waste. I'm stronger now. Not quite as thin yet. I mean, my bf% is still like 20%. So you see the good bumps and my body outline looks strong, but I still have plenty of fat to loose. It's coming off though. So I'm not all the way there, but I've made big changes and I will complete them. But I'm already starting to reap the rewards of it all. Other benefits from all this- in the bedroom she used to be very vanilla due to her upbringing. Now we try and do it all. She used to never touch herself. She knows it turns me on and she will touch herself for me to watch, wear whatever I want her too, even sexy or slutty jewelry in certain places of she thinks that's what I'm in the mood for. I can't say enough about how the changes have been good for both of us. I don't beg at all for sex now. I say I want it and I get it 9/10 times. I don't if she truly feels shitty but that's it.
Hard core red pillers will see I have room to improve and I do and I am, but it's already been a huge difference and great to experience.