Hey guys,
A couple of weeks ago I made a thread about some friends I made back in university. These friends would make snide comments about the Red Pill changes I was making to my life style, calling me a Stepford Wife, telling me I was too young to be tied down to this lifestyle, etc.
I got a lot of really good advice, and I decided to sever these relationships. Because I had been friends with these women for a few years, I decided I owed it to them to give them some sort of closure and explain that we were 'over' as friends instead of just refusing to answer texts/disappearing off the face of the Earth.
As a side note: Some people were wondering what changes I've made/if their concern was justified. The changes I've made have been cooking more, spending more time on hair/make up, losing weight, having more sex with my fiance and not allowing myself to use my disability as an excuse, and just generally trying to be a better partner in general. I was not doing anything drastic or dangerous, so their comments were hurtful and unwarranted.
Anyways, I sat down with them and explained the issue - they were saying things that were cruel and disrespectful, and we no longer lived the same kind of life.
They spat back a lot of anger, a lot of hatred, and I think some of it was long-term simmering resentment that had been building up behind my back. I'm not surprised, I'm working as a full time writer/artist and they're all struggling through grad school, I'm getting married in 10 months and they're sleeping around and crying about guys who don't call. They felt left behind, and it's a shame they couldn't handle it as adults.
Anyways, my fiance and I have been going to some Meetup events and branching out. Our relationship feels healthier because I cut that negative influence out of my life and I refused to tolerate any more disrespect against my future husband.
Thanks again for all of your advice and kind words - much appreciated. Here's to the future!
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