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Just wanted to say thanks for all the ideas and support here.

Although I haven't participated, I have been reading this sub religiously for months, but "unplugging" by my own volition (without knowing what it was) for about a year and a half. Started with reading Athol Kay. No point in spilling the whole tale, I got comfortable and fucked up just like the rest of you guys. Wanted to share this exchange as it may be motivating. Sure straightened me out.

Anyways, a few months ago, when I was sliding back into my old ways, wife tells me that when I was at my beta worst, she complained to her doctor about feeling a low sex drive, thinking it was her pill or something. Doctor responded: "That's impossible, you must be just with the wrong man."

I felt punched in the gut when I heard it but really don't blame my wife for sharing that info, since at that time I was really on a whiny retrograde slide due to an event (admittedly major) I had no control over and caused me to completely loose all frame and sense of stoicism. Atomic shit test? Maybe, but I deserved it.

In short: Don't be the wrong man. Doctor's orders.

Edit: doctor is woman


[–]real-boethius 8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I would like to see the shit-storm that would erupt if a doctor said the corresponding thing to a man. We have even had a few men on saying they "should" be attracted to their wife, who is 60 lb overweight, has a short unattractive hairdo, and a bad attitude. yet they blame themselves and start taking Viagra for "erectile dysfunction".

I acknowledge that an unattractive partner can cause a loss of sexual desire, there actually are other causes. Example: Women's Testosterone levels plummet after menopause and libido often follows. Restoration of Test levels can greatly alleviate the problem.

[–]mrpCamper 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I would like to see the shit-storm that would erupt if a doctor said the corresponding thing to a man.

Me too. But I think one of the basic ideas of this sub is that this will never happen.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

if it did, I would hope the guy has the common sense to keep his mouth shut

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[–]Bruce_Jennder[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks, man.

Interesting how it came up though. no mention of the dr.'s appointment at the time, luckily I was already making improvements, it was when the unexpected happened, and I started to slide into old ways, it was amazing how as soon as I mentioned the doctor, "by the way..."

She held it in reserve for just such an occasion.

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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Imagine if it did? Beta men everywhere rejoice!

[–]jkonrad 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Doctor is woman. Nice.

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