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To the wives whose husbands "bother" them for sex:

Many of us find your sense of entitlement to all of the other things a marriage has to offer truly frightening... all he wants is sex. Your pussy is not a unicorn pussy; there are thousands out there that feel basically the same, but there is something about you your husband likes. There is something about you your husband suffers through in the hopes of maybe-trickle sex in the future. In return for this, you spit on him, and demonize his libido.

Congratulations, you are the jailer in a Stockholm syndrome scenario.

The fact is that you got married with the understanding that your husband would provide financial security, social stability, and children for you; that your future husband would stay with you and only you during the duration of that marriage (which typically is regarded as "forever") and that he would be with you and you alone, in all things, emotional AND physical. (faithful.)

If he were to step out of the marriage (without your "consent") you'd divorce him in an instant. I mean how can he possibly want to be with anyone else when he has you -a sexless shell of the woman he married?

No, the divorce comes not because of the sex with someone else (you don't like sex, after all... otherwise you'd be having it), the divorce comes so you can cut your losses and get your share of the marriage without the marriage. The divorce comes because he may be sharing resources and financial security and social stability with some other woman. This is amplified if you have kids.

However, if you stepped out of the marriage on him, on some level you'd expect him to divorce you as well, even though you'd attempt to rationalize it in some way, you'd still expect him to stay with you and you'd be horrified if he tried to leave you following that dalliance because he supplies that financial security and that social stability you married him for.

But he's done nothing wrong but want to fuck his wife.

If he stepped out, he'd simply say, "my wife doesn't fuck me enough, so I fucked another woman." That's it. It's that simple. But we all know, wives who don't fuck their husbands don't respect their husbands, they don't actively listen to their husbands, they loathe their husbands touches, caresses, kisses, and hugs.

The problem, and you know it doesn't end there, is that his heart, as it were, will follow his dick. And this scares the shit out of you. But why should he sacrifice his energy, time, effort, and resources on a woman who does not respect his side of the relationship. Here's a woman he's with, now, who fucks his brains out, sucks his dick, and makes him feel like a man... he's in bed with her now... why the fuck would he leave that paradise to return to a sexless harpy who literally sucks the energy and resources out of him?

Marriage is an exchange, at it's core. He chooses a life-mate, sacrifices his ability to fuck whomever and whenever so that he could fuck only you. Something about you, made him want to fuck you and ONLY you. That was the deal on marriage day. That was the person he wanted to marry. That was the package you advertised. Now you decided that we don't support that model any longer and all he gets is what you offer.

You changed the deal, and you wonder why he resents you for it. He makes the sacrifices, and you can't even get his dick wet a little bit.

And I'm not 1-sided: Your husband probably changed on some level:

He probably doesn't lead He probably doesn't make decisions He probably just lets you run things instead of being the captain of your ship (the household/family) He probably let his body go a bit (and you probably did too) He probably isn't active any more He probably lacks hobbies He probably doesn't spend time on his own, and instead... He probably clings to you, expecting the extra attention to lead to sex... He probably acts needy and validates his emotions through you (you're sad, he's sad, you're happy, he's happy....) He probably has lost most of the things you recognize as the man you married...

In effect, he has become yet another child, you have to raise. I understand that.

But the fact remains, he can only be pushed so far before he does one of two things (and you have no way to direct this course:)

He will either:

A. Simply call it a day an divorce you. Simple as that. He will decide that no amount of divorce pay-rape forced by the state is worth being in a sexless marriage when he knows he can get better elsewhere. You don't want this, but probably can't stop it.

OR

B. Decide that he no longer needs sex with you. He won't look elsewhere (if he is a man of value and honor) but he will stop trying. He will stop paying you affections and attention as well; no more hugs, cuddles, kisses, "how's your day?", etc. He will detach and basically become a monk moving through the house around you. In this, he will find peace and fulfillment in doing things for himself and only himself.

He will start working out and getting in shape. He will start looking better and feeling better about himself. He will start dressing better and you will be simultaneously aroused and alarmed by it; his body is looking good and he grooms well and you know you fucking like it. But now you begin see that he is way more attractive than you and he can pull younger women... and you're just a post-partum shrew who has replaced your attachment to your husband with your children. You realize he's in shape and you're not. You realize that in his mid-thirties, he is at his sexual attractive peak... and your sexual attractiveness is fading quickly. You'll panic, you'll harp at him, you'll try to make him stop... because ultimately you need him more than he needs you.

He will start ignoring your shrill requests and harping and complaints. He will spend more time away from you, doing his hobbies, hanging out with his friends, and noticing that younger women pay him attention in public. He will begin flirting with those younger, more attractive women (who he knows will drain his balls) and sometimes he will do it in front of you. He won't care what you think; in his head, you lost that ability to control that when you locked the pussy up. He is basically training himself to be single again. Your panic and internal dread is so high now: he is literally pulling younger women, doesn't try to have sex with you any more, and ignores your arguing and bantering.

"Is he cheating?" "Has he cheated?" "Why is he such an asshole?" You will ask these things to yourself, but when you look in the mirror, you'll realize he's not the asshole. He got pushed too far, didn't get the wife he married any more and is probably going to leave you.

This nightmare of emotions may last for a year... a year of a man who is looking better, acting better, and being better and you now have no sexual or emotional access to him. He won't allow it until you allow him the access he wants.

In the first option above, he just leaves, cuts you off, and probably leaves you more relieved in the short term, but lonely in the long term; dating is hard at your age, especially with kids. Most men who you'd like to be in relationships with are taken or are never going to be interested in a mid-thirties single mother. Instead you end up snatching up a guy who is largely ignored by younger women. You'll fuck him early and often, get married, and then realize that you married a guy far worse than your ex-husband. There's many reasons why he wasn't acting like other guys his age and pulling younger women. He can't, and you are discovering those reasons day in and day out. You stop fucking your new husband, and the cycle continues.

But the second option horrifies you; you see his positive changes and what he is capable of and that he may send that energy towards a younger, hotter, girl who regularly sucks his dick, fucks him silly, and occasionally gives him anal. You may get a temporary respite when you tell yourself that he still stays married to you, but you know, that thread is running out fast.

So he's basically a married bachelor at this point. No sex from you, but still married. And your marriage feels like it's on a balance where you have a choice:

On one side you can realize that you like what you see in the new husband, remember that he is your husband, suck his dick and fuck his brains out... reminding him that he is married and if he wants to have mind blowing sex you are there for him. Suddenly your sexual menu opens up and he is thrilled... and for good reason: he is fucking the woman he married like the girlfriend he knew! The upshot: he stays happy, which makes you happy, and he will literally do anything for you. But know this: he will be forever be changed. He will recognize trickle sex, he will recognize when he is being gamed by you to simply retain him, he will never settle for "fine." He will always want more. But he will always want more from you.

The other side sees you continuing to take him for granted and he takes his new alpha body and his new alpha attitude and leaves you, divorces you, and showers any number of younger, hotter, and sexually-adventurous women with his money, time, energy, and happiness. Meanwhile you resent him but he doesn't care... and you know you missed the fucking boat.

And maybe none of this is true and doesn't apply to you... but why take the chance of all that? Why not remember that your husband gives to you and you don't return the one thing he really wants?

Your pussy can literally save a marriage. Remember that.


[–]Leastohm19 points20 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I liked the MMSLP's section, withholding sex is cheating. If one partner isn't putting out, the other should be free to get it from wherever he/she can and the privilege is NOT reciprocal.

The promise of sexual exclusivity is implied there will be sexual availability, you take away the availability and the deal is broken. If you're no longer attracted to your spouse, man/woman up and either find a way to become attracted again or file for divorce.

[–]RPAlternate42MRP APPROVED[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree. I never whipped out the "open relationship" question... I just turned the nuke on in front of her and walked away... only she had the key to disarm it and she knew what that was. This was 14 years married, 2 years DB... pre RP.

But the important part is "not reciprocal" She's not putting out, I should get a free pussy pass (If I want) If she wants a free dick pass, then we get divorced; she doesn't get to fuck other dudes and not me... I'm simply fucking other girls because she won't fuck me. As soon as she says "let's fuck," I'd stop fucking other girls.

Preaching, gospel, choir, etc...

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I thought the general consensus of MRP was that if she isn't having sex with you, it's your fault. She isn't attracted to you and you need to make yourself attractive.

I think I'd be disgusted if my wife were a 350 lb screaming harpy of a woman and "expected" sex from me. (Which, btw, she is not)

Do you want to have sex with this woman??

Edit: After reading those comments, holy fuck!!! Those women are the most self centered, ego-manical harpy bitches I've ever had the displeasure of reading. Fuck all of them!!!!

[–]RPAlternate42MRP APPROVED[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Don't confuse our desire to maintain a marriage through RP sexual strategy with staying in a marriage at all costs while we continue to better ourselves.

We know that when we get better, we get attention from other women and our wives.

But what if we are getting better and we have peaked. what if we are the best we can be, and she still doesn't put out. Do we blame us or her?

There is a point where I no longer blame me for her not wanting to have sex with me. I reach this conclusion when I can easily pull pussy with a smile and a nod; probably at some point before that.

This is where dread comes in, but after level 10, it's clear that she must simply not give a shit. That's why in levels 11 and 12 we have basically lined up the next sexual companion. The other general consensus is not to deploy the nuke without a solid exit strategy for better pussy. Even pre-RP I knew this... released the D-word talk and I already had pussy lined up (it's more or less lined up to this day.)

So while I gather your intent... it has a tipping point: when I am clearly far superior to who I was and am getting IOIs from others regularly. Consider the second half of the letter that recognizes that he may be a piece of shit... but if she doesn't hop on board he will leave.

[–]Chuckit_Married0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Fuck, man. Put a warning on that video. That shrieking quite literally sent chills up my spine.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

But would you fuck her?

[–]Chuckit_Married1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Gonna need some more beer.

[–]RPcoyoteUnplugging-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hilarious.. "Dark sided"!!! Hahaha

[–]JonnyJadedUnplugging5 points6 points  (21 children) | Copy Link

This. Is. Gold! I have to fight the almost over powering urge to copy/paste this on my Facebook and let as many people as possible read this. Thank you for writing this!

[–]RPAlternate42MRP APPROVED[S] 0 points1 point  (20 children) | Copy Link

Do it. The SJWs and WKs you think are friends will pour out of the woodwork.

[–]JonnyJadedUnplugging0 points1 point  (19 children) | Copy Link

YES! Did you write this or did you find it somewhere?

[–]RPAlternate42MRP APPROVED[S] 1 point2 points  (18 children) | Copy Link

I wrote this. It actually came after an article I read in the following blog... and then read the mess of comments that followed.

http://www.scarymommy.com/night-gave-my-husband-a-free-pass/

[–]JonnyJadedUnplugging3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I pretty much told my ex wife this same shit years after the divorce. "Ya know, I would have put up with all your nonsense. I mean ALL of it, if you would have just fucked me."

[–]RPAlternate42MRP APPROVED[S] 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Before I say what I am replying to this for, I'll preface:

I generally get sex when I want it. I'd get a BJ if asked, no problem. I don't get shit tested (I mean, I can't remember the last one or they fly under the radar because I'm that good,) she doesn't harp on me, she doesn't be little me, she respects me, she follows me, she asks for permission to do things (if for nothing else than as a courtesy,) but the enthusiasm in sex lacks.

This past week was an odd one. I was starting to loathe the sexual intensity from her: it was starfish, but it had dropped in enthusiasm given the previous months. I wouldn't have minded if it was sudden, but it was gradual.

I didn't want to get angry, because I was staying with the sex and my stoic affirmations help, but I wasn't feeling particularly connected with her.

So last night I stopped sex, to which the talk started. It tried to become arguments, but I deflected them to stay on point. The last point I made was exactly this:

I know you want to be with me. I know that under the proper circumstances, with the right triggers, I can get you to a point where you want sex bad. I know just saying that made you imagine what those things might be. You may not know them but you know them. I'm still learning, but I have some ideas on what they might be.

Aside: She loves, loves getting caveman'd, picked up, and used. I can do this all the time, but the lack of variety in that bores me sometimes. I've pulled out some SGM stuff... just filthy dirty crap that has been hit or miss. It hasn't been "hit" enough for me to find the pre-cursors that allowed it or the actions I took that maintained it. My current theory is that she likes to be instructed through soft orders. I think asking... even in a teasing way, like: is that what you like?, do want my finger in there? before it all happens is a turn off. Basically, I think she seems to like best what I tell her she likes best. This of course is a common trope in this sub.

Anyways, I told her that I'm finding the triggers and I'm having fun finding them and when I do she will fucking love fucking. Until then as long as she demonstrates that she enjoys sex with me even if it's not on her top list, I can suspend disbelief even after telling her to do this; once the audio-visual stimulus is there and my dick is wet... I don't care about much else.

Now on the surface I basically negotiated desire, but her desire wasn't in question... I more negotiated enthusiasm.

Then left the room, "Where are you going."

I returned moments later, took my shirt and shorts off, pulled the blankets back, pulled her pants off, took her shirt off and started issuing small orders. She responded immediately. Afterwards I knew a lot had to do with what I had just said... but I literally forgot that I told her all that while I was going at it.

Afterwards I rubbed her legs down (we hiked far that day) and told her while doing so that I was going to go for it again. "no..." "yes. When I get into doing your second leg, I'm going to ask what I should do. you will answer me. You will tell me what I will be doing to you. Think about it now while I work your first leg.)

When I got to her second leg, I asked. "I'm going to kneel in front of you and you're going to stick it in..." "and?" "and fuck me."

This is new... dirty talk takes coaxing... and doggy isn't a usual for us because she's tall and I'm tall and the alignment is off... but last night, being her idea, she was way into it... and then we discovered the right angle to make it work (she just sits back on her heels more -her legs between mine.) I was trying to do my thing and she was trying to fuck me instead. So I egged her on.

My bragging aside, the point is I'm now looking at ways to reward this behavior, so all I'm thinking about is how to shower her with affections and attention. Regularity of that magnitude is enough for me to put up with most things.

Pussy can literally save a marriage.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Pussy can literally save a marriage.

Damn straight it can.

It sounds like your wife like sex, but she's not an initiator. She likes masculine confident sexual assertiveness. You're OK with that, but eventually it feels like you're doing all the work.

It would be nice if once in a while she initiated and showed you a little bit of the vixen - that would really make you feel sexually desired. Being the aggressor is fun and all, but even filet mignon gets old if you eat it every night. It would be awesome if she would grab your cock without any help or suggestion from you and give you a nice handy that turns into a BJ and then a fuck.

Look man this the shit we all deal with. Ask any dude... Blow jobs without asking is the holy grail.

I flat out told my wife, I don't want to be the one always initiating. I don't mind doing to lions share of initiating, but maybe a 80-20 would be ideal. In actuality, I probably get a 90-10 ratio, but that's good. That 10% of her pulling me into the bedroom is nice.

I got it to be that way by stating my desire, fucking her a couple of times as normal, then holding out like two weeks maybe a little more. I went fishing. Went to a game with my bros. I did other fun shit without her without paying any attention to sex or projecting any anxiety about it. Then came the "surprise I'm initiating and acting all wanton and naughty" come on. I made sure I rewarded her by giving my A+ swordsman fuck and busting her out. She was like "oooh" excited wiggle when I dialed up the intensity and then pounded her like a jackhammer in that perfect angle she loves. Came away with a big ole wet spot on the bed - the kind you look down at and then at her with a big smirk and she sees and gets all flushed like "oh my yeah I guess I really did like that".

It sucks that we have to play these games with our wives to make them and us happy, but it just is what it is. They are emotional, lizard brained creatures who are manipulative and quite used to getting their own way. Half the time they don't even realize what good is - or that good isn't lazy or comfortable - good is good. Then when you really turn them on, they tend to be a bit more responsive.

Anyways, try what I did. It might work for you.

[–]87GNX1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sounds like my relationship.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Here's my reply to that woman:

You love your situation. You love your kids. You love your marriage. You love your security - but you don't love your husband. You might care about him like a dear friend, but its on your terms and that's not romantic love even though that's what you term it. If you did really love him, then being able to give that happiness to him by sharing intimacy would not repulse you - it would be a welcome respite from your daily grind. It repulses you because you only love what your husband does for you in the marriage, not the man himself. You think offering up the "free pass" is love? It is not. It's a cop out, because you can't bring yourself to do what normal people do in a loving marriage - have sex and enjoy it.

You're completely lying to yourself about what the lack of intimacy will do to your marriage. The moment you end the sex in your marriage and start the celibacy clock for "a year... or two... or five" (egads) the divorce countdown will begin. You don't think so, because your husband is a good person and is trying to hang in there and do what is best for his family, but eventually as the months turn to a year and then years, he will develop a resentment of you and it will grow and fester until it completely erodes away his last sense of duty. He will come to despise you for your selfish expectation that he sacrifice sex for years of his life so you don't have to be repulsed by his touch. He'll figure out that divorce won't be the end of the world, he'll still be able to be a father to his kids (especially when they are a little older) and most of all - he won't have to endure the physical and emotional rejection from the person he made a vow to love forever. He'll be the only one keeping that vow, you having long abandoned it. He will start to long for companionship and intimacy to relieve him of his crushing loneliness and feelings of inadequacy.

If he has any stones at all, he will reach a breaking point and decide its time to find someone else who wants to be intimate with him. He will divorce you - and he will have every right to do so. Everyone has a right to happiness and fulfillment - even your husband.

Then a few years down the line, he will be at those soccer games and graduations loving and supporting his children as you predicted, just not with you. He'll just be on the other side of the crowd, with his new wife who will be by his side cuddling up to his arm, showing her obvious signs of love for him. She'll get to grow old with him as is right. She's not repulsed by his touch. You are. She's happy to participate in intimacy. You're not. She loves him enough to care about his happiness. You don't.

You have this expectation that your husband needs to be self sacrificing and servile to your wishes. He doesn't. He's a person who has an equal right to emotional comfort and happiness as you do. Eventually he'll figure that out. When he does - your marriage will be over.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This proves more than anything that most women are extremely selfish. Nice guys STILL finish last.

[–]jacktenofheartsMarried MRP APPROVED3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Just to let you in on a little secret in the world of "web content media," bloggers are paid to generate intentionally "inflammatory" articles like this. This is the basis of a lot of "social media marketing" and how content companies try to "go viral."

This woman was clearly instructed to write this in the most controversial way possible. I can tell there are certain contradictions in this woman's story. She talks about feeling "repulsive" when she has sex when she's not in the mood, yet defends sex with her husband as being "off the charts" when they do have sex. She also says things like "there's no way she's going back to her old job" but she's stressed trying to perform at her new job. I'm not saying they contradict her story that she's a sexless shrew, just saying this isn't written with a natural tone and message. It's clearly the product of something that has been edited and revised several times.

And if you poke around the author's actual blog though, she doesn't sound much like the sexless shrew she's portraying here. Her kids are a lot older than she implied (WAAAY past breastfeeding age, unless she's breastfeeding a six year old). And she has an entry on the first page about masturbating every day. Maybe she doesn't want to actually fuck her husband, but to say she has a "low libido" is wrong.

Most likely the author was just exaggerating a few post-partum low libido incidents from her past into an article like this. She'll get a chorus of "right on!" from some mommies and a not-quite-as-many-but-probably-even-louder chorus of "the nerve of this woman!" from people like you. This article got you enraged and prompted you to link it here. If a bunch of guys people go on their FB pages to rant about what a shitty wife this woman is, even better.

Why? Because those ads on her page, they don't really give a shit whether the person that read the blog post is sympathetic or enraged. This is how you get "virality" -- post something, word it controversially, and get a bunch of people to argue about it on FB, Reddit, whatever. For content sites like scarymommy.com, it's all eyeballs and pageviews to them. The website scarymommy.com will get a couple cents every time a page is loaded. One in a five hundred visitors will click on one of those "ONE WEIRD TRICK" ads and they'll make even more money. They probably paid the blogger woman like $200 to write the article. You can see you don't even have to "get that viral" to get a positive ROI on that.

Lastly, the biggest tell is that she could have very easily written this in a much more sympathetic tone. If you take her story at surface value, this is a woman who recognizes her own libido is disappointing her husband, and she's trying to find solutions to mitigate his frustration to save their marriage. If you're trying to do a constructive thing, it's bizarre to write about it in such a hostile tone the way she did. And if you read her blog, there's absolutely none of that aggressive "motherhood martyr" tone in her posts. Her posts and tone are just kind of the usual "having a family with kids can be ridiculous sometimes, amirite!?" you see with mommy blogs.

Anyway, if the shit you read online enrages you, chances are it was produced in a way to invoke that exact feeling. If you feel morally indignant that this way of thinking is destructive and these people are terrible, well rest assured a lot of people writing shit like this don't actually feel this way. Some of their readers might, sure, but the best way to prevent them from sharing content like this is to prevent that content being written. And when you write a "rebuttal" and link to the post on MRP, you are not doing that. You are just giving scarymommy.com a couple hundred pageviews because you linked it to MRP (which, let's face it, probably doesn't have a lot of overlap with their usual demographics) and just encouraging to mass-produce more of this drivel because they know it will enrage people like you, and by proxy lead to more eyeballs and pageviews and ultimately ad impressions/clicks.

[–]BluepillProfessorMarried-MRP MODERATOR1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Holy Moses you do your homework don't you!

You still haven't convinced me this is a manosphere bait and troll post.

I forget how to link to a post and avoid giving them ad revenue?

[–]thisisme0007-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's not ad revenue the link gives, but "google juice". Add the tag rel="nofollow" to take away the Google juice.

<a href="signin.php" rel="nofollow">sign in</a>

[–]RPAlternate42MRP APPROVED[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah.

The letter was in response to the comments, actually... I actually have this same letter in the comments section (with grammar, spelling, and pronoun mismatch errors.)

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was more enraged by the comments than the article.

[–]kjvlv4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

wow...I just read that. what a witch. she says they are not getting divorced. I beg to differ.

"For godssakes, the sex will come. The dates will come. The courtship. The passion. And if they don’t for a year … or two or five … that’s OK."

It is ok for who? All those things will come for the husband and another woman perhaps but not for her. seldom have I seen a more selfish person. yuck

[–]LaPiluleRouge1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

First article will pass at the SJW, but not this one.
But both says the same thing in the end: Respect the contract that is a marriage.

[–]BluepillProfessorMarried-MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Holy Fuck you can HEAR the hamster squeecking all the way through the internet:

I just feel all of this pressure. Pressure to be a good, hot, skinny, sexy wife who knows how to bone you like a freaky prostitute, and put dinner on the table, and ask you how your day was, and be this loving mother to my kids – oh, and kick ass at my job. It’s too much. I just can’t take the pressure anymore.”

Pressure to fuck your husband, make dinner, and be a loving mother. Seriously? So sorry for the imposition M'lady.

My story is no different from that of anyone else with young kids. I’m exhausted. I’m drained. I don’t need the added pressure of givin’ up the almighty (pristine and groomed) pussy every night.

Can you hear it. OMFG.

There are a bazillion reasons why being romantically available can’t happen as often as I’d like – kids, work, travel, activities, etc. We’re all plagued by various family life logistics.

Logistics, of course. Why didn't I think of that sooner. Every PUA knows that you have to have the logistics handled.

Our marriage isn’t fucked. We’re not getting divorced.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!! The only one needing convincing is her.

And apparently, my husband’s not taking my FREE PASS offer.

Sigh, I wonder if a Mangina move like that will dampen the panties.

Can we just take the romance out of the relationship for a moment?

Guess not.

sex will come. The dates will come. The courtship. The passion. And if they don’t for a year … or two or five … that’s OK.

Because hubby will wait except when it cumz it aint gonna be with hubby.

Yes, I want to share these moments with him, and only him. At the moment, I may not have the hottest sex life, the most full social schedule, the most deep feelings of romantic love … towards my husband......

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHA!!!! That hamster could power a city.

However, when that all changes, my husband will be ready when I am, with his free pass in hand – for me.

Somebody needs to water board hubby with red pills. This is pure unadulterated hamsturbation with a healthy dose of loathing for the husband who cannot, and will not grab her by the back of the head, throw her down and fuck the shit out of her.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Holy fuck. Those comments make me hate women.

My blood pressure is at unhealthy levels right now. Fuck this entitlement era of women. Christ!! I just can't even.... FUCK!!!

[–]RPAlternate42MRP APPROVED[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This "open letter" was how I got mine down.

[–]BluepillProfessorMarried-MRP MODERATOR-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Let us recount them:

Exactly how I feel…like sex is just one more thing on my to do list, and it’s not high priority.

Let me guess this is probably because her husband put his foot down and told her to put out or get the fuck out.

Hubby seems to understand,

Oh, guess not.

Hmm, can we confirm everything Red Pill teaches about women first?

Right now being partners in parenting and being best friends is what we need to focus on.

Most sexless marriages are simply husbands who have let their wife friend zone them. Is your wife your "friend" or your fun loving little fuck buddy?

[–]RPcoyoteUnplugging-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What a bunch of malarkey. Hamster in full play. That's basically her hamster telling her hubby (who badly needs to swallow RP) she wants to feel like he would cheat - that would turn her on. Classic. Confirms everything we're all about here: men should stop being needy bitches and beg for sex, and subtly start dominating the agenda so that hamster-led wives don't end up like this: self absorbed, entitled, rudderless cunts.

[–]dandar4600Unplugging1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

MRP is the right way to go about her not putting out. All those bitches with toxic comments on that site that can't be bothered to fuck their husbands have beta bucks at home. If they had a high value man they would either fuck him because well his looks and behavior or he would be fucking other women and eventually leave them.

This letter is just trying to rationalize and appeal to their logic. Experienced red pillers know that logic appeals in arguments do not work with women. You can't make them feel attracted to you and have tingles with logical speach. Just as your dick ain't gonna get rock hard with a hambeast she isn't going to get wet for her beta buck. As you saw from the comments, they can actually feel disgusted when he's touching them.

You better believe if Channing Tatum or 30 year old Brad Pitt walked into that bedroom they would put the baby in the crib, drop their panties, blow him to get him hard and ride him with wild abandon their husbands could never hope to elicit. All that hamstering there is just rationalizing why they won't fuck a man they never were that attracted to in the first place.

[–]Fapulously 3 points3 points [recovered] | Copy Link

Gentlemen, I raised the kids, paid all of the bills and got super pissed when he withheld the D because he didn't feel like it. I started reading TRP sub and that crap works on he-bitches too. Told him put out or get out. He got a job and I started getting the D. Life is good.

[–]BluepillProfessorMarried-MRP MODERATOR0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

You are female with the handle Fapulously?

[–]rpw111 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Female lurker here, hope it's ok to post. Amazing letter. I found these subs a few days ago .. amazing how accurate this shit is .. I guess I was shit testing for years without realizing what I was doing. I wanted a captain. My question is .. when is it too late to save things. 14 year relationship, 8 years married, 1 kid together, separated 3 months ago. Over the last 6 months my husband has been returning to the Alpha he was back when I met him. Of course I fucking love it. Since he left I let him know he could come to me to fuck at anytime and he has been. And especially the past few weeks its been fucking AMAZING .. he's been dominating and we've been trying new things and I didn't even realize how much I needed it .. I guess I just want to know what else can I do. I don't want to lose my husband. I know redpill is not big on "love" but I do love him and want to be the one to take care of him. He will only say that we are trying to work it out, he doesn't want to lose me, but can't see coming home because he feels things will go back to the old ways. I get that. I have to prove myself. Any advice? Thanks :)

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That was amazing! The thing is, I've seen this story first hand with friends and family that got married so my conclusion has always been to never get married. Like you said, women only get married strictly for financial reasons so once they get what they want, they stop putting out eventually and that would be enough to drive me crazy.

[–]alphabeta49MRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Well written. I wish I could tell the wives of some of my friends.

Also, I shuddered reading some of those comments by the women. Its infuriating. But alas, such is the nature of women. Post-feminist entitlement - and their husbands - have allowed them to become this way. We must take back the power, if only in our own relationships.

Also, hi "Mitch".

[–]RPAlternate42MRP APPROVED[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Also a fake name ;) Regrettably, the version I put in there is rife with spelling and grammar errors.

You know those will be crux for every argument.

[–]alphabeta49MRP APPROVED1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Also a fake name ;)

I figured as much. I was so close to doxxing you too!

You know you've won when they start picking apart your grammar.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

I don't recognize OP but i do get a sense of ...slight complaining about ....AWALT.

That said I am far along in plan b ( I think you inaccurately labeled both plans. -> 1) and except for the fact that I ramped up sex with the wife I can tell you that this prescription works.

Spend 85percent of your time being that monk concerned with self improvement and YOUR passions. Throw a bone from time to time so the woman doesn't feel she "lost you". She needs to have a reason to improve.

Nice rant

[–]RPAlternate42MRP APPROVED[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

The inaccurate label was a result of reddit's edit system... I fixed it.

Wasn't even a personal rant... inasmuch as any RP-laced rant speaks personally to any RP man. This isn't my situation, but it is informed by the experiences of others and myself.

It's impetus was the comments found on this blog page: http://www.scarymommy.com/night-gave-my-husband-a-free-pass/

This rant is what helped calm me down.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I disagree with rant...too gynocentric.

"If only SHE......"

Sounds like "you are a mean mommy"

Still....the post made me think and has real value. Thanks for sharing

[–]Redneck001MRP APPROVED-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

While I think this is sorta of fun read here, I don't know that I like throwing out these concepts for mainstream consumption.

I play a lot of poker. This is like playing with your cards face up. I prefer more of a poker face, and tight-aggressive style. Don't show your cards, don't talk about your cards. Don't react to your opponent playing their hand. Just play your hand when you think you've got the advantage on your opponent.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Nice letter, but women don't really give a shit that you're suffering in silence and that's what you have to accept.

It's always been all about them and will continue to be all about them - that's the way they look at it and that's not going to change.

You have 2 choices:

  1. Do shit to make yourself desirable (self improvement, dread, etc...)
  2. Divorce and find a woman that wants to have sex with you.

[–]RedPillDadMarried- TRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

When a wife decides to take sex off the bargaining table, there is little point in spending time with them unless you enjoy being a beta orbiting bitch.

Build an enriched life for yourself. If she can't make it better, consider other options for your time. It's the guy with no options that gets slowly beaten down to a whiny sap.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Give this man a raise. This is awesome for women to read as it's full of emotions and drives the point home.

[–]RPAlternate42MRP APPROVED[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The question about what you can do... You n fact repost this whole thing, reformed to reference the letter (otherwise they won't know what you are talking about)... Repost this to /r/redpillwomen.

We offer advice for men. We are happy you found us and are encamped with our methods and theory, but RPW is for the feminine advice.

You are basically walking into a locker room of naked me and asking how to save your marriage. The first thing we'd say is, "go into the ladies locker room."

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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