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First Major Victory (self.marriedredpill)

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I know newbs are not supposed to post much, and I have been posting a lot, but I just had my first major breakthrough last night. I actually fucked my wife last night after 12+ months of nothing since our son was born....and not starfish sex or caveman sex...passionate, hour-long sex at 3:00am (and with mother-in-law sleeping in the next room).

I will try to give the short version. I had to work late. Go to gym, grab a beer (bar next to gym) and come home about 1:00. Wife is upset and tries to pick an argument. She then started prodding about all my "new behavior." I did not mention TRP or any specific books. I simply told her I was working on a self-improvement plan and then basically laid out TRP principles--confidence, physique, leadership, and said there are going to be a lot of changes and I am working on being a better man and husband.

I go to get ready for bed. Throughout the day, I had been sending her sexts and suggestive e-mails. I manage to get her in the closet, force her to the ground, and go down on her. She is close to finishing, and then forces me to stop and brings up "the cheating incident." I told her I did not want to speak about it anymore. She persisted. I gave in (but for a reason), and said "last time" and then we are done. I used this opportunity to basically tell her fuck me or fuck you, but not so bluntly. I flat out said not having sex for a year is not acceptable, that men have needs, that I was tired of wacking off to porntube. Talked about marriage vows, mentioned other opportunities I successfully resisted before last week, etc. etc....[yes, I talked too much....but I was trying to get the point across without making her cry]

I walked away and proceeded to take a cold shower. She came in after me (naked--hasn't done that in forever) and started talking about how she needs flowers and romance, etc., etc. to "be in the mood." I said "No. that's what you think you want. What you NEED is a strong man that will fuck your brains out." She then started to guilt me again about "the incident", saying how she doesn't think I like her anymore. I simply responded: "I want to fuck my wife." Finally, I said: "look, do you like my cock inside you or not." She says: "its not that simple." I said: "actually, yes it is."

Get out of shower and proceed to go to bed [showing O.I.]. She follows and keeps shit testing me. I ignored most of it and occasionally would respond: "I want to fuck my wife." By 3:00 a.m. I was ready to call it quits when she suddenly leans over and kisses me. I tell her I am not interested in duty or guilt sex and would just rather go to sleep. She says: "I want you to fuck me."

An hour of the most passionate sex we have had (even better than our wedding night) ensues. I think we actually woke up my mother in law, as I heard her moving about. Shit didn't matter. It was my house and I was fucking my wife.

Fellas, I know I have a heck of a long way to go.....but after 12 months of nothing...W.O.W. This shit DOES work.


[–]BluepillProfessorMarried-MRP MODERATOR18 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

If you think holding frame and (finally!) responding to Shit Tests works so well just wait until you read The Sex God Method.

One thing I would suggest (since you like to talk to your wife so much) is to have a deep, heartfelt conversation. Tell her that today is the first day of the rest of your life. Tell her your relationship begins today. Tell her that WE (see how that frames it as something other than an attack on her personally) are not EVER going to bring up dark days ever again. Reassure her that it is in the past. It is over and done. Then don't let it be brought up again- EVER. Not "I don't want to talk about that right now" but "No, we are not talking about that ever again, that was the old us. Let's focus on the new us."

[–]abdadaHARD CORE RED19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Another deadbedroom slayed because a man decided to be the man he is inside.

Nice work. Don't slack.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

There's never a too-noob to post a successful FR.

[–]UEMcGillMarried- MRP MODERATOR1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Can confirm. I'm a mod.

[–]tiredofindustry0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

True. We can learn from both successes and failures, so don't be shy.

[–]rediscover03Unplugging3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Holy shit man - good job! Nice account and story here. W a y. To. G o !

[–]zxDanKwan6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Does nobody see what's wrong with this? Fine, I'll just call out the elephant in the room...

Beers are just loaded with empty calories, and you're undermining your efforts if you're grabbing beers after your workouts. Make sure you keep that to an appropriate level (because fuck anyone who says no beers at all).

You've got to earn the body you want.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I can only work so many things at once. yes, I need to cut down on beer. ..but I only had 1 last night. If I had not gone to gym, it would have been 3-4.

[–]zxDanKwan2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nah bruh, it was a joke.

I was saying the worst thing you did in that post was have a beer after your workout. It was supposed to encourage you.

If you want to have beers, have beers. You'll just have to work harder at the gym. But that's a choice you get to make for yourself because you're now a grown-ass man.

Welcome aboard, sailor.

[–]jacktenofheartsMarried MRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Haha -- this jumped out at me too. I definitely enjoy a drink now and again, but downing a beer right after working out may be self-defeating.

Unfortunately all the research I've read on "alcohol vs strength training" is very mixed. Lots of contradictory studies on whether alcohol consumption inhibits muscle growth during the recovery period.

I think a lot of setbacks caused by alcohol consumption are second-hand anyway. Get drunk on Saturday night, and you're more likely to eat crap late at night because you're up late, you're hungry, and you have inhibited impulse control. Then you're too hungover to do your Sunday morning workout. IMO, this is really why alcohol prevents guys from achieving gains.

The only real consistent advice I've seen is to avoid beer and wine (ie. drink hard liquor, for fewer net calories), and minimize fat consumption any days you plan to drink that evening.

[–]dandar4600Unplugging2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes this shit does work.

[–]AZTRP1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great fucking story man. This read like the happy ending of a movie, perhaps an alternate ending of American Beauty

[–]spexerMRP APPROVED1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

congrats. yes - too much talking.

but more importantly - congrats.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Silence on a room with 2 attorneys is s rarity.

[–]CaptainWasHereMRP APPROVED / MRP Diplomat0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I said: "actually, yes it is."

Gold. I'll be holding that as a solid comeback to "it's not that simple."

[–]pussypiepussypie0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think one of the most important (and powerful) things you can do is to not engage in arguments with your wife. It sends an immediate message that you are operating on a higher emotional level than she is. It may take a while, but eventually she will parse this as you being more mature and that translates into tingles.

The challenge for you is to always stay in that place of being more emotionally evolved than she is (in her perception).

Nice work.

[–]KyfhoMyobaMRP APPROVED0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I did not mention TRP or any specific books. I simply told her I was working on a self-improvement plan and then basically laid out TRP principles--confidence, physique, leadership, and said there are going to be a lot of changes and I am working on being a better man and husband.

Shoulda just said, "You like it, huh? Get used to it, it's gonna get even better!"

[–]redpilldude0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Congratulations! I hope your marriage and bedroom continues to improve.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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