Feminine Asian Wives?

pushajudas · 2014-06-18T13:33:38+00:00

My mom is a Filipino woman who moved to Manila as a child, and lived on the second floor of a comic shop. Every Tuesday after school, she'd go home with some of her friends and they'd read comics before they came out; she told me about her favorite comic, which went generally like this:

A filipino girl grows up poor, then becomes a maid for a rich American man who lived there. He and his friends raped her, leaving her with a half-white blond-haired blue-eyed baby. She fell into depression, but watched as her kid grew into a beautiful Filipino mestizo (half-native half-white). The mestizo girl becomes the protagonist when she grows up, and the rest of the story is a romance where the mestizo chick meets a rich American who falls in love with her and takes her to America.

My mother told me that after reading that, she decided she would only marry a white American, move to the states, and have beautiful mestizo kids.

Ain her late twenties, she met an Englishman who was friends with her sister's husband. He fell in love and eventually proposed. She almost didn't marry him because he wasn't American, but decided to go ahead with it when she found out he was moving to the United States for work. Twenty-something years later, they now have two awkward-looking beta sons (one swallowing the pill- me) and an entitled daughter.

So no, fuck that shit. American women are shitty, but Asians aren't any better if you can't hold frame. They might not cheat (might), but you best be damn sure to make it abundantly clear you are not her green card. Don't marry in general, but especially an immigrant or aspiring immigrant. Entitlement is a trait amongst women regardless of nationality, no matter how crap of a country they come from.

SouthwellR · 2014-06-18T11:59:26+00:00

nawalt - no really some asian girls dont want to live up to the stereotype and try to act dominant to counter it. IMO yes asians do tend to be more submissive but don't assume so as there are lots who are not. Also they tend to be quite hypergamous (in my experience) in terms of wealth and social status.

ProjectWheee · 2014-06-18T06:38:23+00:00

Share parts of your culture that they probably haven't been exposed to, and may find surprising. Ask about their culture. Don't be obnoxious about all this, though.

Study their culture on your free time, but don't come at them like, "Hey, guess what I know about your people!" Don't use this knowledge unless it is appropriate for the conversation. And use it sparingly, and subtly. It's worth it because it will often blow her mind when you throw out random historical facts about her country/culture.

It always seemed to me that many of them wanted an American boyfriend so they could perfect their English speaking skills, so try to be a good teacher. Be patient and encouraging when you do this.

Foreign girls will come down with a case of the crazys just as often as anyone else. My biggest nightmare was with a Guatemalan girl who had me feeling really sorry for her. She was the closest thing to a master manipulator I've ever met. God damned brilliant, in fact. It's a long and fruitless story.

One last thing; Everyone comes to the USA with expectations of what we are like. It's almost never a very flattering expectation. DON'T MEET THAT EXPECTATION. Give them a reason to love the ol' red, white, and blue.

[deleted] · 2014-06-19T14:43:06+00:00

This is so funny, when I got into uni last september I saw this beautiful asian chick that was living in the same flat as me. Once I got her I realized that she was super femine and submissive and totally my type.

It's funny how fast a man feels at ease when the girl is girly submissive and almost motherly.