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I just discovered TRP last year and have been actively working to incorporate some of the lessons other men have experienced, and now I’m on here today to share a recent experience of mine.

I’m 44 and have been dating a single mom who’s 38. We agreed (and talked about this at length) that we would not see other people and that we were sexually exclusive. She agreed to this, and since we both work two jobs, there’s not a lot of time in our schedules for dating other people.

Well, it turns out that I discovered that she is dating other people, but this time, as opposed to becoming emotionally compromised, I confronted her and asked her what is going on.

She told me “We’re sexually exclusive, but she still let’s men take her out to lunch and buy her stuff.”

The main reason for posting is to let other men know that time and time again, this is the norm of how women view men. There’s no animosity in this behavior, it’s just a matter of realizing that I’m just one of many resources she has at her disposal.

Now, I only put this in here for anecdotal purposes, but I had convinced myself that all the mind-blowing sex we had every time we’ve been together would of tamed any of her branch-swinging habits. And again, it wasn’t her telling me it was the best she’s ever had, it was her multiple leg-shaking orgasms over the hours of marathon sex. I mean, if she’s being thoroughly sexually satisfied, that should be enough, right? Wrong.

Women are opportunist at any age and just because you can sexually fulfil a woman, has no bearing on how she views you. I have been pleased with myself on how I’ve handed dealing with this discovery--and I think it would have been in a completely different mindset if it wasn’t for TRP.


[–]marxistbacon 2 points2 points [recovered] | Copy Link

Dude... glad to hear you woke up. You may think she's unique. But unique only in decoration, not in essence. Same age bracket as you... you can be at your peak if you chose to be. But for God's sake make your major life decisions based on you, not on her.

[–]johnnight2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If women were giving me free money, it would be foolish to refuse it just because I had a jealous gf.

But you are right that her receiving gifts is indistinguishable from her looking for a branch swing. She might even believe that she is not looking for a swing, but when a better option shows up, she will be tempted to do a swing. This is the perfect form of denial.

A wise traditionalist blogger said that we cannot expect christian women to not fall in love with other men. But a loyal woman knows not to put herself in proximity to other men, where temptation might form.

[–]fnordsnord0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

facepalm

I gotta admit: I wouldn't have seen that one coming. Knowing what I do about the hamster, I get it. But I wouldn't have seen that coming.

So what did you DO? Did you drop her? Or did you talk about your expectations of what "exclusive" is supposed to mean?

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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