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This week was probably the best week of my life. (self.ThankTRP)

submitted by TheFredPill

I have so much to thank TRP for, but I'm just going to give you a brief run down of my week:

  • Had a mate call me up to see if I wanted to go for some beers and lunch.
  • Had another mate call up that day and ended up going out that with a few old uni buddies.
  • Scripted, shot and began to edit a short documentary as a part of a group working for a local TV station
  • Joined a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu group and completed 3 sessions.
  • Organised to host an Australia Day party
  • Had my first session with a psychologist to help me deal with some shit which had been bothering me for a while.
  • Continued going to the gym and I'm 2 weeks away from completing a 12 week bodybuilding (cutting) program.
  • Made love to my wife 3 times and on the night I got back from my third Jiu Jitsu session, she gave me one of the best blow jobs I've ever received. Quote: "You're looking so good lately. I look at you heaps lately and can't stop thinking about great your body looks."

This time last year, I was literally lying in bed crying because my wife and I had stopped making love, I had zero close male friends (very few friends in general) and I was an overweight, unfit, 94kg pussy.

So... Thank you TRP. You've taught me how to take control over my life and I am forever grateful.


[–]GameboyPATH2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Many obstacles that are difficult to not only acknowledge, but also commit to resolving. Keep in mind: healthy lifestyle choices aren't a weeklong effort.Try not to burn yourself out by setting unrealistic expectations, but like you said, this is more a good week than par for the course.

Good luck with your party!

[–]TheFredPill 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link

I agree. I'm on holidays at the moment so I'm able to fit a little more in to my day than usual. Once work goes back I'll be dropping back my gym time due to Jiu Jitsu as well as committing less time to the other projects I had on the go.

[–]GameboyPATH0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Once work goes back I'll be dropping back my gym time due to Jiu Jitsu...

Oh no, how horrible. :P But hey, if it's something you enjoy and you get as much of a workout from it, that's a good exchange.

I know I'm changing the subject, but I saw your comment in a RP post that asked how you "kept her loyal". It seems like it's a common belief among RPers to assume a woman is disloyal until proven otherwise, when it sounds a lot more reasonable the other way around. While self-maintenance (of both parties) is an important aspect of keeping a good relationship, mutual trust and respect is another. I'm glad to see that you haven't forgotten that.

[–]TheFredPill 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link

I think that's one aspect of The Red Pill that really clicked with me. That is, the idea that I needed to work on MYSELF and do what is right for me first. After reading No More Mr Nice Guy, I decided to try and be a little more selfish. At first it made me sick to my stomach to be so selfish with my time but then my relationship with my wife began to dramatically change. SHE was happier. Then the benefits of me starting to learn a few DIY skills and going to the gym, etc started to show and we were both a lot happier. Now I feel like we have a good rhythm with how we spend our time... a healthy combination of time together and time for working on ourselves. I'd be crazy to want to leave her and I want her to feel the same about me.

[–]GameboyPATH0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That is, the idea that I needed to work on MYSELF and do what is right for me first.

I don't see much wrong with that. I learned in the Boy Scouts that we have a Duty to Self, Duty to Others, and a Duty to God and Country, in that order. We cannot fulfill the latter duties until we can satisfy the basics of the former duties. You can't help others until you have done some introspection and made sure you are a person who is able to help. Granted, one can focus too much on the self - there's certainly such a thing as excessive self-focus - but overall, you gotta be able to support yourself before you can support others.

After reading No More Mr Nice Guy, I decided to try and be a little more selfish.

I strongly disagree with TRP on this - self improvement is NOT selfish, especially if others benefit from it. Red Pill seems to develop this "us vs. them" mentality, developing this context of society viewing self-improvement as selfish and bad for relationships, painting this picture that the societal image of a happy relationship is the guy doing everything for the girl. No one would reject the idea of self-improvement, even in the context of romance. There may be some sacrifice in time spent together, and those should be handled on a case-by-case basis, but no one thinks it's automatically terrible.

TRP is not at all unique in offering the self-improvement advice, even in the "harsh truth" kind of tone used to encourage that self-improvement.

Regardless, I'm genuinely happy for the positive change in your lifestyle and relationship.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

This has been very inspirational to me.

[–]TheFredPill 3 points3 points [recovered] | Copy Link

Cheers mate. Keep in mind this was a VERY gradual process. I just felt that looking back on this particular week that I had come a long way from where I was a year ago. I'll be stripping back some of these activities once I go back to work. If you ever want any advice or tips or resources just send me a PM.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you.

[–]hamsterbator0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

good job bro. love your username btw haha

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