I came here after a really bad breakup and was literally just googling ways to get over an ex.

The relationship was really good early on. I was a professional poker player making money hand over fist, I had a huge circle of friends and was the one that people called to find out what was going on every weekend, and I had been lifting for 2 years with a steady workout routine and good diet (6'3"|210lb|10% body fat). Her and I started while I was in that mental head space. I was an alpha and never even thought about it.

By the time the relationship had dwindled, I had completely supplanted my friend circle with hers, I had quit working out, I was no longer playing poker professionally, and I was basically her bitch. I had lost myself to become everything she wanted. We fought all the time about pointless shit, I cried to her on multiple occasions, she had completely emotionally shut me out, and she eventually cheated on me several times, starting on my birthday of all fucking days. (Didn't find out about the cheating until after the breakup)

So the googling began, I ended up here, began to read, and continued to read. Eventually the clock read 4am and I was so tired that I nearly passed out due to exhaustion. I woke up the next day and everything about what had happened in my last relationship was so incredibly clear to me in that mid morning haze. Every time we got into an argument about something, it was really a shit test that I had failed miserably. Every time I cried to her, she was secretly laughing at me. Every time we hung out with friends, they were her friends and she was losing respect because mine were gone. I was a complete beta bitch, and by the end of it she had more respect for the cockroach under her boot.

Now at the time of the breakup (she left me for another man) I was completely broken, why did the woman who said she loved me so many times do this to me? I was angry, sad, confused, and heartbroken so it was easy to relate to these posts about women being useless, manipulative, and psycho. The posts about their mentality is what appealed to me the most and there were some misogynist comments that I felt myself relating to simply because of how I felt.

Now it only took about a month of reading and introspection to fully move on. I had come to the realization that she was never being manipulative, she was just being a woman. It was I who had just failed at being a man. It was completely my fault that it all went to shit and coming to that realization has been the best thing that has ever happened to me. I am back in the gym (Not lifting but rock climbing now), I have most of my old friend circle back, I am now working at a place where i make good money, and my life is so much better off now than im sure it would be, and it's all thanks to TRP.