DAE not have much trouble in their marriage?

Commander_Nomad · 2019-01-18T04:31:21+00:00

Some of us are here because there isn't a good subreddit for discussing evo-bio/ evo-psych. This is the best of what's left because it's at least a steady stream of case studies.

Some of us have "happy, successful marriages". And we mostly do whatever the fuck we want. We have both the burden of performance and the benefit of performance. But that doesn't go over well here.

After getting drowned out by the lifetime betas who want a cheat code to unlock their epiphany phase unicorn's magic box, it becomes a lot less hassle to just lurk, snicker at the lolz, and contribute once in a blue moon.

tspitsatgp · 2019-01-18T01:47:26+00:00

Haha, yeah mate. Good one. You found the “one”. There’s a reason my wife cheating on me and her willingness to throw our marriage away absolutely crushed me. We never argued, she never complained about my long working hours, she never complained about my weight gain, she gave me the porn star sex I wanted, she was/is hot, she had our kids, was a good mother, and then got a good paying full-time job. We were the perfect little family to the outside world.

Except. I thought we were in it together, on the same page, so what if we had become a little distant we have our whole lives together to find our groove again, I didn’t pay attention to her feelz, I didn’t notice she was unhappy, I didn’t realize how unattractive I had become.

And then. Boom.

YMMV and maybe you have found “the one”. Every story is different. Heh. Being MRP aware at some level just means you see a deeper truth and as such you act accordingly.

man_in_the_world · 2019-01-18T05:56:24+00:00

I'm truly wondering how many other married RPers here have happy, successful marriages?

Yes, so far; 30+ years.

I have always had the frame that I would "do whatever the fuck I want whenever I want" within reason of course, but it has remained that way my entire 12 year total relationship, 8 years married

Frame is key.

I know supposedly AWALT, but I feel I might have found one that isn't. Extremely low drama, low maintenance and an amazing woman.

Living in your frame, you likely vetted well, clearsightedly, and from abundance not desperation for yourself.

Once married, you consistently maintained your boundaries and expectations, and continued to OYS, keeping her both on point and satisfied. This, too, is AWALT with a quality man; don't assume she'd remain "low drama, low maintenance and an amazing woman" if you went to shit.

I'm a bit confused as to why the focus is always lift when I feel you need to get your inner/mental game on point before any and all else.

Lifting is the one thing here that is entirely within ones own control and is certain to deliver consistent, measurable, and almost immediate personal improvement in those dark, frustrating early days when one struggles with and often fails with the much more difficult and subtle mental and behavioral changes. Yes, the mental is ultimately more important, but the clear and early physical progress and the confidence that brings is priceless.

IRunYourRiver · 2019-01-18T02:26:43+00:00

I could have written this post two years ago. Now my posts are a lot different.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2019-01-18T00:30:43+00:00

“confused as to why the focus is always lift when I feel”

Lots of us came from deadbedrooms... meaning we were beta chumps. When you see the light through the red pill lens, the anger phase is brutal.

Most productive way to deal with the anger is in the iron temple. Plus all the other benefits of lifting.

“This may seem like a brag/troll post but it is not my intent. ”

Only gay thing you said.

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2019-01-18T00:20:10+00:00

I know supposedly AWALT, but I feel I might have found one that isn't

Jesus man. Comon.

Successful marriage means different things to each of us.

2 years lifting? Show me your abbs!

BluepillProfessor · 2019-01-18T18:03:17+00:00

Define "Happy." If it is a wife who "let's me do whatever I want" then I am guessing about 20% of MRP guys are "happy" and 5% of married guys not in MRP.

Do you not see the incongruence in your post?

My life's passion is personal development so I'm sure that accounts for most of the reason of my success...I technically don't have to work and we are quite comfortable with us both only working part-time, which also probably helps a lot in having a successful relationship.

I know supposedly AWALT, but I feel I might have found one that isn't

The variable in this sordid tale is not the woman. It is YOU! Go ahead and get sick, lose your "comfortable income" or get laid off from your job or just let it slip a tiny bit because your Father died.

When you have gone through a life crisis that makes you lose it, report back to us on your NAWALT unicorn.

Kpwn88 · 2019-01-18T13:35:13+00:00

I'm a bit confused as to why the focus is always lift

Because hormones, motherfucker.

Persaeus · 2019-01-18T19:42:17+00:00

I'm truly wondering how many other married RPers here have happy, successful marriages?

married over 25 years, together almost 30. the first 10 years was great; but i got soft and then it wasn't great. back on the horse now. marriage very happy and successful now, best it's ever been in fact.

I would "do whatever the fuck I want whenever I want"

me too, always have been through both good and bad times.

Extremely low drama, low maintenance and an amazing woman.

me too, i would say she only has one major fault that is not something i "helped" develop in her. i vetted and picked very well from a strong position of abundance.

based on your post and responses, i would guess you have two Achilles heel's

hubris. you have a strong frame and mental point of origin which is a great advantage and as you point out the most important masculine trait. it can be a double-edged sword though if it blinds you to actions, and meaning therein, of those around you. in other words, your frame is so strong that you convince yourself your winning when your actually losing. as simbarlion correctly points out, nature abhors equilibrium; and in the immortal words of Ricky Bobby if you ain't first you're last. if a woman is not striving to add value to your life; she slowly checking out.

presence and feelz to a woman, a strong masculine presence and feelz from said man is critical to meeting her "emotional needs". i could be wrong on this one, but you might be so self centered that over time you neglect her in this way. this is how "emotional affairs" are born.

but I technically don't have to work and we are quite comfortable

you make this money yourself or you a trust fund kid?

DAE

wtf does this mean?

Sepean · 2019-01-18T08:53:01+00:00

That's how life for an alpha is. Our point is not that girls are always shitty company, but that they treat alphas well.

theycallmenubs · 2019-01-18T01:33:47+00:00

Why are you so averse to putting in the work? 5'7" 135 lbs is beanpole scrawny. At 165 without lifting to ensure that is muscle mass youre prolly skinny fat as fuck with awkwardly saggy man breasts and a developed gut.

Get jacked, and observe the world of difference in how people respond to you. Why do you expect anyone to respect you when you dont respect yourself?

weakandsensitive · 2019-01-18T15:57:35+00:00

Look up Anna Karenina Principle.

theycallmenubs · 2019-01-18T03:35:56+00:00

Did YOU find the ONE or are YOU strong enough to hold ONE that aligns well with you?

There are many like her but that one is yours.

My relationship is pretty solid. Happy for you. Hopefully we both continue getting what we want without swapping out women.

Never had shit tests with this one, not since we were in highschool, and then very few. We just agree on most things and she's grateful to have a good man in her life. I dated some bland mentally slow type women before her, she's super sharp witted and works like a fucking animal at everything she puts her mind to.

Fucks like an animal all the time, submissive etc etc etc. I'll have to read down below see how the rest of our people around here are doing.