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She has the worst. These are not shit tests... she just turns into a raging bitch for 3-4 days. She just dropped something on her own head, and yelled at me for not catching it.

If anyone has any coping mechanisms please let me know.


[–]average_dudereino24 points25 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Enter your own frame. It won't matter what she does.

[–]Redpillbrigade1714 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This. And keep in mind OP that once you do that it may very well involve that you’re not going to put yourself in that situation. So for example you may just decide to take a trip once a month for a couple days to do something else, or if this is really truly unacceptable to your frame outright leave her. The point is it is 100% your decision what you expose yourself to and what you allow in your life. Treat her moods like a snowstorm. Either you put up with it & it doesn’t really affect you, or you just move to Florida.

[–]470_2_700_nm1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

“Treat her moods like a snowstorm. Either you put up with it & it doesn’t really affect you, or you just move to Florida.”. Nicely written.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill42 points43 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

These are not shit tests... she just turns into a raging bitch for 3-4 days.

Do you think she'd yell at her boss at work for the same thing?

Do you think she'd yell at her old grandma for the same thing?

Do you think she'd yell at a cop on the street for the same thing?

If yes, then she's got mental problems and should seek professional help. If no, then I suggest you look to establish boundaries.

[–]WesternhagenWinner11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

She's not going to shout at someone she fears, respects, or loves. Evidently the OP is not in any of those categories. Sad!

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The irony is she will love, respect and fear a man who does not tolerate this kind of behavior. She will likely despise and loathe someone who does.

[–]gettingmymojobackRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is the answer OP needs to read.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Very important concepts here. It works for pretty much any behavior and can help suss out enabling of disrespect. Related to the "saving her best" concept.

It very well may be that her hormones are out of whack, in fact it is likely. So what? If she can put on the princess act at work she had better keep it on at home. I get her best.

[–]fruitylad1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is how i see things, she only does this to you because she knows she can be a bitch to you and you will accept it without any consequence to her.

This applies to other situations as well, for example when my wife is going mental at me for some stupid reason and her sister turns up at the door she magically stops. If were on the way to her parents house and in the car she moody at me for something, the instant we get there shes fine. She doesn't want her parents or sister to see her acting like a bitch and have a bad opinion of her for it, so she stops, because that behaviour now has a consequence.

It has to either not affect you so she feels shes wasting her energy, like a kid constantly asking for ice cream then giving up when they know you wont give in, or that you will withdraw or leave or something such that there is a negative consequence for her.

[–]redwall920 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Logic chop to end the thread. Well put.

Can't logic chop a woman like this, but damn it's great to see in the locker room.

[–]RedPillCoach11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

When I was 8 I read the first Xanth book: "A Spell for Chameleon." SPOILERS AHEAD Throughout the book Bink searches for his hidden magic power and the perfect woman. He meets and bangs several girls in this Children's book, and eventually narrows it down to 3 of them.

One was super hot and youngie who loved to fuck. Unfortunately she was dumb as a box of rocks and could not hold down a conversation- which wasn't a problem come to think of it.

The second was average intelligence and looks, and kind of, sort of, liked to fuck. She was a pleasant companion most of the time.

The third was an ugly harpy who never fucked and had a sharp, angry tongue- but she was brilliant and rescued Bink from life and death situation several times. Her ideas about where to go next on the quest basically drove the story.

Spoilers

So the secret is that the "3" girls were really just one woman changing along with her menstrual cycle (or changing with "the moon" as described in the book) because that happens to be her magical power (everybody in Xanth has some magical power).

Bink decided to accept all 3 women and marry the 1 because hey, why not, variety is good, right?

His "Spell for Chameleon" was to impregnate her when she is pretty, spend time with her when she is pleasant, and limit contact and go do his own thing when she is ugly.

I think he wrote this book as a metaphor but to me it looks like it might be your reality.

[–]hystericalbonding17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If anyone has any coping mechanisms please let me know

Defuse in the moment with tools from WISNIFG.

AA/AM, tease, provoke like a matador, have fun with it. Surf the waves of her emotions for entertainment, or just ignore them.

Never placate.

Find something better to do.

Her anger isn't your problem. It's not your job to fix it. You can intentionally make it worse for your own entertainment. She's a woman - smaller and weaker. Her anger is a manifestation of that weakness. As long as her name isn't Lorena Bobbitt, you don't need to take her seriously.

[–]SteelToeShitKickerRed Beret7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She just dropped something on her own head, and yelled at me for not catching it.

I'd either laugh, and then laugh through the onslaught that brought on or I'd follow her around with my hands over her head. Pretty sure two minutes wouldn't pass before that became intolerable for her. Then I'd laugh some more.

[–]Fritz_Frauenraub6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dude my wife's PMS would try the patience of a saint. The double binds and frame tests and other weird shit she comes up with that has no name but could only be found in a textbook of graduate-level fucked up female psychology and mindfuckery.

It's nothing but deadlifts for your frame. Every single time you start getting pissed off, STOP, stfu, and ask yourself what your own ego-contribution to incipient frame loss is.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Only Betas need to cope.

[–]justpickanyusernameRed Beret11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Laugh at her accusation. Or even better, amplify it. The more outlandish your comment the better because it puts a spotlight on the absurdity of her accusation. She is acting like a little girl. Treat her just like one. Since you are new, she will flip out. She is used to you walking on eggshells during her period and avoiding anything that will upset her. So, when she inevitably flips her lid you can do this.

Here’s a coping mechanism for you. Do you see your front door? Go open it. Then walk out of the door. Go to the gym. Lift heavy ass weights until you can’t anymore. Over time you will get stronger. Hopefully, at some point you will walk back in the door not as a pussy and can handle a little girl.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Remove attention to the same measure she is acting cunty.

Plain and simple

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Tea bag her next time.

Helps if your balls are shaved. Use a 1 guard on a Whal trimmer. Man scape everything.

If you want your ass eaten, its the best way.

Make her do the same. Want your ass eaten? OK but there better not be a single hair anywhere.

Two ways to do it. On her back legs up high. I like that because she can grab my hair, I can see her face.

Or bent over. Can get deeper in her ass with your tongue, and make her ass red from slapping it non stop.

Oh wait....what was your faggot question?

[–]FoxShitNasty836 points7 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

I read it somewhere here but you are a duck let her emotions run off you like water.... Quack / AA her shit tests.... What's the worst she will do, if super cunty just withdraw attention (go see a friend, do something you enjoy or rock out to some five finger death punch in your man cave) like I have today and reset tomorrow. I guarantee she won't even remember or mention her cunty behaviour.

[–]RobertCarraway[S] 3 points4 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

"I guarantee she won't even remember or mention her cunty behavior" Lol, well she doesn't remember her behavior, but she sure does mis-remember mine. My frame has been pretty decent given the severity of the period. But she just gave me a full recount of how I've been treating her badly (refusing to engage her when she is vomiting pure hate) and I lost it.

Obviously, it's my fault. My frame is not strong enough. My achilles heel is that the ONE POSITIVE I have from these experiences is when I handle them pretty well and don't totally lose frame. I give myself a mental gold star for it. But when she comes back and attacks me for my behavior I lose it, because it took SO MUCH self control on my end to handle the situation as well as I did.

[–]FoxShitNasty838 points9 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Who gives a fuck, judge your own behaviour. Treat her like a child, when she is trying to scold me I tell her she best behave or I will get squaky out... It's actually just my hand pretending to be a badly behaved parrot with a hand for a beak... he is a biter and generally goes for tits, arse, wrists and exposed skin. I stroke him to calm him down and her bad behaviour disappears quite fast and defuses situations (kids love him)... I'm certain she has the mental hospital on speed dial but that's squaky's problem not mine.

Edit: the squaking noises are the key element you need to be consistent.. because you can start making low level squaking noises without getting squaky out and grinning... "What was that? Did you hear that?" When she is just starting to be pissy

[–]Fritz_Frauenraub1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

haha nice. i use puppets with my daughter to talk about stuff but never thought to do it on the wife!

[–]BostonT000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is amazing.

[–]testy680 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I wish I could upvote this x 10. Squaky the badly behaved parrot. LOL

[–]JudgeDoom698 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You’re still totally in her frame.

When you get to the point that her words do not affect your mood (other than mild amusement) it’ll feel amazing.

[–]BotPaperScissors0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Rock! ✊ We drew

[–]uton_gili2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I lived through something similar. My wife had endometriosis really bad and I thought that was it for a long time. Turned out it was a brain tumor that fed on hormones. So please don't rule out health concerns.

[–]Peter_B_Long4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

LTR? It seems like you let her attitude run past your boundaries. Establish a dynamic. Tell her, “you’re being a brat right now. I’d spank you but I’m afraid you’d like it too much” Lighten the mood, but also get your point across.

[–]creating_my_life1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

things that she drops are not your responsibility, even if they fall on her own head.

manage your own life, she will manage hers.

[–]throwawaystarkness1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Laugh it off and treat her like your six year old daughter having a fit. My wife is the same.

[–]rocknrollchuck0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Go by the Stranger Test.

[–]AustralianArm0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

At this point in my marriage, my wife doesn't take out her PMS on me like she used to.

A woman will not go PMS crazy at people like her supervisor at work, her nanna or her doctor. Why? Because she fears her supervisor, hurting someone she loves or getting someone she respects offside.

Now, why aren't you in any of those three groups?

[–]jakethesnake50000 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Like others have said: you are all in her frame. If you are keeping track of her cycle, which you should be doing, get busier than normal when she is in shark week. This isn’t that hard guys....

[–]gettingmymojobackRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Keeping track of her cycle is the ultimate in her frame move in my opinion.

As yourself why you care where she is in her cycle? Is it because you want to maximize your success odds when initiating? Still fearing her emotions when she is PMSing?

Fuck that noise. That's still revolving everything around her frame and her emotions.

Be the fucking prize. Who gives a shit what time of month it is.

Regardless of my wife's behavior, mine doesn't change.

Busier than normal? Why? What are you afraid of? Pussy.

[–]jakethesnake50000 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Read mmslp and take a chill pill dude

[–]gettingmymojobackRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Read it, 2 years in it’s not an area I agree with Athol on.

There is no way you are in your frame if you are changing your behaviour based on her menstrual cycle.

I literally give it zero thoughts. I could care less. You should too.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

"If it was me, I'd have dropped something heavier."

If you're going to engage at all, you may as well have some fun with it.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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