Can someone explain to me the reference about loading the dish washer?

fruitylad · 2018-10-04T15:17:54+00:00

She doesn't actually care about you loading the dishwasher wrong, even though shes complaining about it. Shes really just expressing a general negative emotion, which can be due to anything but often because of dissatisfaction with you and the relationship.

Men think more logically and directly, meaning they assume the wife is unhappy about loading the dishwasher because thats what shes saying, but women use language differently, to a woman she will complain about all sorts of crap she dont really care about or be sweet and supportive of everything if she is feeling depending on how shes feeling, the literal content of the words shes saying takes a back seat to the expression she is displaying via her words.

If she consistently complains about all sorts of crap like this to you its most definitely because shes dissatisfied with you and/or the relationship.

hystericalbonding · 2018-10-04T14:41:58+00:00

If she's pissed that you loaded the dishwasher wrong, it's not about the dishwasher.

2ndal · 2018-10-04T14:47:17+00:00

Basically: choreplay doesn't work.

edit: while ^ is true, I was wrong; /u/hystericalbonding is right.

throwawayfaggo · 2018-10-04T15:36:37+00:00

Kindle search for dishwasher in MMSLP 2011:

Section 0.4: what she really wants

> Better understanding her biological wiring means that you can start to adjust your game plan and start doing things that she really wants. Thankfully its not all about learning the correct technique of loading the dishwasher.

Interpretation: you may think that ~~making your wife happy~~ improving your relationship is about choreplay and doing housework better i.e. loading the dishwasher how she likes it. Instead, there's going to be a more fundamental and more radical approach given in the chapters to come.

Section 5.7 female calibration to male

> Of course if she become conscious of her behaviour changing towards her husband, her Rationalization Hamster will come up with several perfectly good reasons for it. Something like his inability to stack the dishwasher right, thus ruining her mood for the evening, would be ideal.

Interpretation: wife starts to feel unconscious loss of attraction to husband after he lets himself go. She doesn't understand this at a conscious level but just feels it somehow. Her conscious mind makes up some bullshit tangible reason she feels bad that she can use to blame it on him. Dishwasher is an exemplar of a whole host of common rationalizations. Others include "he bought the wrong kind of ground beef so I'm angry and not attracted to him", "he plays videogames so much it makes me mad and therefore I'm not in the mood" etc etc.

Section 7.13 You can do this

> Half the time when she's ticked about something minor it's just a symptom of a lack of sexual interest in you. If you were a strapping version of you, do you really think the way you stacked the dishwasher is going to be quite the same drama as if you were a pasty weakling version of you?

Again, dishwasher is being used as an exemplar of common tangible things unhappy wives use to pick on their loser husbands about.

TL;DR seriously, you couldn't have figured this out yourself?

ReddJive · 2018-10-04T14:50:56+00:00

is it really that big a deal for something that takes no time and almost no effort?

Not like anyone is out at the river scrubbing on rocks any more.

HINT: women will always declare housework is so hard.

Yet the general attitude you want is that yes is for women. Practice by telling her to take off her pants.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2018-10-04T23:49:21+00:00

Would Brad Pit get bitched at for loading the dish washer incorrectly?

Fuck no. Only betas do.

Betas have rules, alphas don’t.

She’s not attracted to you faggot.

short_n_harsh_dude · 2018-10-04T14:34:13+00:00

I'm no pro here, but I suspect that it's something about owning your shit. You know, you can always look into the sidebar.