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Update: She has swung and is killing the puppy... (self.askMRP)

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Gents, Today I was able to finally skype with the wife. Everything was going normal and it was very cordial. I started talking about us finding a house that I have described on here. She went silent and then hit me with the words "I want to find a place for the kid and I". I was flabbergasted by it. I wouldn't say out of the blue but it was it.

She stated that things haven't been good between us, which I would agree to. She went to discuss her independence and all that fun stuff. She stated she regained her old self back and such. I was just sitting there laughing internally but just shocked by it.

I asked point blank "You are talking about separating, taking my kid away from me" She did the hamster bullshit and explained it wasn't taking away and she was going to have her 50% of the time. I just sat there realizing that I am a fucking statistic right now. Got a verbal heads up for a separation/divorce when I get back.

I don't know where I am right now. I am literally mad and I am laughing too at the same time. I'm upset that my wife will make such a self-centered decision but at the same time not shocked due to the readings.

My kid is everything to me and this is what I am dealing with. I need some advice moving forward...this has gone faster than expected.


[–]FoxShitNasty8313 points14 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

This could be a blessing, your turn just ended. Don't act like a pissy cunt and just take it like a man. Continue your map and remember abundance, Lift and stfu still apply.

Your not leaving your kid your just leaving your wife.

[–]broneilbro[S] 4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

This is it. I had the inclination that something was up with the red flags and such. I'm lifting and hit two PRs today. It could be a blessing but boy you think about it and when it happens it goes.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

PRs make everything better. Tied a PR of 315 squat today and felt good enough to go for 2. Didn't have a mirror so I feel like I went way past 90 on 2 and couldn't hit it...what were we talking about again? See I already forgot.

[–]broneilbro[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It does feel good. Given the current revelations and some straight talk from my RP mentor for about an hour I am mixed emotions about being happy and sad for my daughter at the same time.

It does come down to I cannot control the actions of others and only control mine. I can sit and wallow but I am focusing on not doing that.

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret8 points9 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

The universe just gave you a gift.

Yes, it’s a few days late so there is some disappointment mixed with joy as you open it, but it’s still a gift.

Realize a few things;

Your next relationship will be RP, from the beginning, without all the fucking baggage this one would drag around, forever.

If you get anywhere close to 50% custody, or even 40%, you will be AMAZED at the quality as well as quantity of time you get with your daughter, one to one. It’s fucking precious, and priceless without the bitch to fuck it up and over for you.

You get a guilt free reset.

You didn’t cheat. You didn’t fuck up. You were a victim of the system that swallowed TRP. You will be shamed, even reviled by the gynocracy, one woman at a time, as you regain your masculinity, mission, purpose, and direction in life.

Fuck ‘em all. I mean that, literally and figuratively. And deep down, after millennia of biological programming at the DNA level that feminism CANNOT overwrite, they ALL want to be fucked by a real, masculine man, just like you.

So reinforce your frame with titanium, be ready for hysterical bonding, she will try to manipulate you with feelings and sex to feather her new nest, the one she’s creating for her ‘next.’

Fight for what YOU want.

Remember, she has already won in the system.

You will lose everything and half of what you fight for. I cannot stress this enough.

She has fucked you, strung you along, and fucked you over.

Do NOT trust her!!

If you do, you deserve to lose.

Congratulations.

You have received a gift.

Accept it.

[–]DanG33 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

TRUE THIS —> “So reinforce your frame with titanium, be ready for hysterical bonding, she will try to manipulate you with feelings and sex to feather her new nest, the one she’s creating for her ‘next.”

Indeed, as soon as you demonstrate that you DNGAF about her any longer she will feel compelled to test her power one more time. Don’t go there. Leave her feeling powerless and alone - showing her that she has lost, not only her power over you, but how little she is deserving of YOU!

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is so true. I think the fact that I can see through the bullshit and how she can flip from cordial to shittest to nuclear is just amazing. She tried to shit test me for telling her that I noticed that we weren't talking as much which I fogged and negative response it. It slid off of me and caught her off guard but you are right.

I'll have to reinforce the frame as I know she will start to really spin in the wheel as she did not seem confident in it when she said it.

We will see. I can only control my actions and reactions to what I cannot control.

[–]broneilbro[S] 3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I would give you gold. I didn't get much sleep last night because of thinking of my child but I slowly realized she could have been planning this for a year but lead me on, even though I saw the signs.

I did get amused when she said we weren't as good as we were which I responded was "you can't fix without acknowledging it's broken"

I'm going to ghost her for now, which she might take me as being butt hurt but it's to avoid saying anything stupid.

I'm going to talk to a lawyer tomorrow and work from there. I'm going to get my shit in a row before I get back.

[–]rp_findingmyway2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I wouldn't completely ghost her yet, even though this is a severe betrayal. As Matrix says, this is a gift particularly given the developments in your life you mentioned recently. I would get the divorce details locked down first (with the help of an attorney if need be), including asset division, parenting plan, etc. While you're working through all that, of course don't be a bitch supplicating to her but make her feel that you're going to do this amicably and help her swing. When it's all been agreed-upon and signed, then ghost her if that's what you want.

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I meant by ghosting as not chasing her. Not running to be BP take me back because this could be a farce and falling into her frame.

I have spent the day looking at my options and reading up on many great posts here about the movements. I honestly think that it will be amicably because her parents divorce was nasty as fuck but I could leverage that if it gets to that point.

We will see if it is a separation morphing into a divorce which I think it will be given the possible CC but as of now I have generated my resignation letter to my job, rental termination for our house, and an excel of assets and obligations which shows a good amount that is covered by the prenup (Net worth prior to marriage).

I will avoid ghosting as I will be a great coparent, per the recommendations and advice on here how to be the Ex she'll miss but it is definitely an unknown path as of now.

[–]WesternhagenWinner2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I wonder if she has sat down and calculated how much child support she will be getting from you. If she decides it's "not enough" that could tip the balance between amicable and nasty, as she may decide to demand more custody (because that gets her more money). Nothing you can do about that except prepare the best case you can that you are a great dad who wants (and deserves) 50/50.

[–]broneilbro[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That could be the case. Right now it would be about $900 a month per the official Florida calculator. She makes very emotional decisions (AWALT) before realizing the cost. If it gets nasty, it is self inflicting as lawyer costs take away from her cut.

I will get 50/50...plain and simple. I won't take anything less and I would not hesitate to leverage her father to obtain it.

[–]hack3ge3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Remember no one can control how great of a dad you are - 50% amazing dad time is better than 100% mediocre dad time.

Don’t even give it a second thought and focus on you - maybe she didn’t cheat maybe she did but doesn’t matter because she isn’t part of your map.

My wife was filing papers and going to open houses - I just went and lived my life and she decided to come back. She’s threatened to leave once since and I laughed in her face and walked away. I could give two fucks if she walks out stay plan is the go plan and once you really understand it deep down everything else is just there for your amusement.

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is what I was developing because of the red flags and energy. I had planned on working when I got back but I guess she got antsy that old me was coming back. I won't fault her for that. I was a codependent groomed BP motherfucker. I mean it was dark Navy blue but now its different.

[–]alpha-zach2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I was you a year ago. It’s hell. Take it one day at a time. Ghost her, as best you can. If you want her back, it’s your best chance. If you don’t, it’s your best option for healing quickly.

Don’t attack her or text stupid shit. She’ll use it against you court. GFTOW

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

That is my plan right now. I am going to call up some lawyers tomorrow and start my go plan. She is already removing family members from her Facebook because of the impending "WTF?" from them. Can't fault her.

I'm going to focus on MAP, lifting, learning and living. I do have a chance to reset my life and reading MAP a Red Energy was our relationship.

[–]mindfulbutgutlessRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

'm going to focus on MAP, lifting, learning and living. I do have a chance to reset my life and reading MAP a Red Energy was our relationship.

This seems like a very cookie cutter response/thought process. This is were you really need to narrow down and create the path to your MAP.

MAP- what are your top 3 priorities that you can control right now?

Lifting- Whats the goal? to exercise or to train?

Learning- I am going to assume you mean reading. What do you need to learn? How will you learn it?

Living- you stated elsewhere in this thread that "you are going home to nothing", this sir is not living, its your ego trying to play you the victim. Matrix said it best, you are going home to a huge gift. It is time to learn to "smile in the rubble".

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

To clarify some things - MAP - My finances, relationship with my daughter, my gameplan. Lifting - Goal is to train - I have cut weight and gain sized. I workout 6 days a week and I'm finally balancing my diet. Learning - Finishing MAP, reading the stoics, and completing my college courses. Living - For going home to nothing, I meant starting new in a new city. I have been cracking smiles knowing that RP is better preparing me than those BP.

I'm going to see where it goes, but I think I know the ending of the story. I'm excited and anxious but still Matrix said it is a gift to a degree.

[–]mindfulbutgutlessRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You are listing goals, which are good to have;however I have learned that goals just don't happen. You need to get under a microscope on what needs to be done to accomplish them. Finances, daughter and gameplan are the results of what actions? Your goal to train, is there anything specific you are trying to accomplish? what steps are needed to get there?

I meant starting new in a new city. I have been cracking smiles knowing that RP is better preparing me than those BP.

This is like the breaking free activity from NMMNG to travel somewhere that no one knows you, so you can focus on how you want to be as opposed to being how everyone thinks you are.

Not expecting an answer, just giving you something to think about.

[–]justpickanyusernameRed Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Your spidey sense has been tingling for a while. Don’t root through the garbage and be a good dad to your daughter. You know what to do.

[–]broneilbro[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You are correct. I'm not going to root. I know she has swung and this is a way to clear her conscience.

I'm going to focus on myself and be the best damn dad.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is a woman who is saying all the things to indicate that she is back on the CC.

>She went to discuss her independence and all that fun stuff. She stated she regained her old self back....

Beyond doubt. Fight for your right to see your child. Cut back on your work and income earning, and don't forget:

"It's only when we have lost everything that we're free to do anything."

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I feel that you are correct. My wife thinks very emotional with little regard like most women. The amusing thing is that I took this deployment for us to be able to reset and next thing she is on CC and out the door. AWALT.

I am going to be finding a new job because I quit my old one to allow us to move back to our old town. I will fight for 50/50 and so I am avoiding doing anything stupid and just ghosting her.

[–]BobbyPeru2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If they want to know where the door is, I always say show em. Go out and live your life single. You will be surprised when she comes running back to you. It may be too late for her at that point

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Protect your pension. Offer cash up front in lieu of retirement benefits. Lawyer up.

[–]broneilbro[S] 2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I'm going to play the "I'm independent" and offer a lump sum, and I'll pay the child support along with the college. We will discuss it and if it is amicably I'll try to avoid the lawyers but we will see. Hypergamy can be a bitch.

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

disguise your intentions. Offer under the guise of "Well let's get you and baby safe, and we can do it this way better..."

Most lawyers don't even think about FV of money...

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That is the thing. I know the FV of money as I am transitioning to be a Financial Advisor and studying the cost of college and FV. I'm going to lump sum it because it will benefit both of us, but at the same time make it simpler. Again if it gets to that point I will be ready. Who knows...maybe the hamster will die, which it won't.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Make her pay for half of the college. Why should that cheating whore get a free ride? She doesn't mind fucking you over, and her paying half is only fair.

Don't be a 'big man'-be a wise one.

[–]broneilbro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Agreed. I was more thinking about doing the FV of the college tution and apply that to the "package". Minimize the raping if it comes to it.

[–]izual191 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree with the previous post, don't waste your time attacking her thru text messaging. None of it will stick because they are utterly incapable of taking responsibility for their own actions thanks to the hamster.

Focus on coming up with a plan for your new life as a single dad. How will daycare work, what kind of house can you afford, how is the school district ect ect. Much more useful and productive use of your time. Dont give her the gratification and power to hurt you.

[–]SgtSilverBack1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I agree with stone. Reviewing your posts since your deployment started is a rollercoaster of thinking you have this figured out until something happens that makes you have to use your skills.

You say you are shocked at how self centered she is when you have expressed the same "go plan". That tells me your go plan was a covert contract bluff. It was all to win her back and now that she doesn't want you your ego is hurt.

She has been dealing with you sucking longer than you have dealt with her NOT sucking.

At least now, if you can get your head on straight, you can get divorced before that huge inheritance is even an issue. Silver lining.

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You are right. I guess it comes down to the application while thousand of miles away.

I never presented the go plan, it was planning for it as the advice her is to have a stay/go plan instead of being caught with the pants down.

I'm going to get my head straight and luckily have the cushion there.

[–]wkndatbernardus1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Best thing is to stay cool right now thru physical activity/emotional dumping on other men because you're walking into a shitstorm of emotions that could cause you to make rash decisions. She won't be able to get more than 50/50 custody unless you're some kind of junky/criminal so, put your mind at ease about that. Plus, this whole scenario will probably make for a better relationship with your kid long-term. I know it did for me.

[–]broneilbro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is it. I was initially shocked but looking at the silver linings is that the RP me has a reset opportunity. I'm going to go full into myself as there is no more reason to have a covert contracts.

[–]broneilbro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm not going to attack her. I'm going to focus on me and my daughter. This will make her head spin. Old BP me would have me chasing her but talking to my mentor.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Full stop, next chapter.

In fact it's a new book. New life when you're back, best shape you've ever been, inheritance, world is your oyster. Lessons learnt. Be humble, STFU to wife.

Buy yourself a new cabinet for all your new plates.

Enjoy.

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is the silver lining. Old me would have been "Jesus, WTF" new me saw it coming to a degree during our conversation. I just STFU when she started talking about "Her independence..." etc which works really well within the Rollo timeline of epiphany as she is turning 29 and we are around the 7 year mark together.

I'm going to focus on myself and my daughter in this next chapter.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

She has said a lot, but has she actually done anything yet? Her "brave" talk in this moment may just be all smoke that blows away when you actually get home. Action not words is the male motto, words is the female motto.

This isn't to give you some BS Bluepill false hope in "true-love" but it's one possible outcome to be considered. Consider that you need to game her to ensure a favorable outcome no matter what it is. Having an IDGAF attitude and outlook is needed.

She said 50/50, "now", but later that may change with her emotions in the minute. Once hypergamy cuts the cord, she is a ruthless bitch.

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

She hasn't done anything yet. I think when she takes action or thinks about it in the grand scheme her father who she looks to will question her and she will question herself.

It is something I considered since she didn't seem prepared for me to pull it out. It seemed half assed but we will see.

She can change her mind anytime but that is why I'm not going ballistic or anything stupid like that. She thinks she is still dealing with the old me, not the newer me (not the best me), so again it's something interesting. She did talk a fair amount about independence and such and funny thing is that this is described by Rollo in near same detail as she is hitting 29, we are at 7 year mark together, and she is finally getting her stride.

Time to make my life what I want.

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Be the man in this story.

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you. I have to say that my RP mentor brought me back to earth when he explained the same story through the eyes of his friends that were divorced by their wives only for the ex-wives to come back and realize they had gone and fucked up. I read the "How to Divorce your Wife" post and it was a good read too.

As an earlier poster stated it could be smoke and mirrors but we will see as women talk emotions vs actions. We will see but I'm going to remain focused and work on myself. When I return if I return to an empty house so be it, it will be a restart and I can set the foundation of clean green energy per Athol.

[–]broneilbro[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

You are right on that. When I started to pull the string because she beat around the bush she couldn't call it what it was.

I won't be holding out but I'll game a bit. The issue I have is she is literally holding communication with my daughter hostage effectively.

I'll check her actions but she does tend to talk a great game but hypergamy is real and true. She could be on CC right now for all I know but she did pretty much blame me for the some of the shortcomings in our marriage which I fogged and AA.

We will see. Unable to sleep due to this outcome because I'm only thinking of my daughter now. Lift, learn, live.

[–]CaliEd2561 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

My ex played the same communication game with me. Your daughter will be your daughter forever. A few short months of hardship and then you will have the time you need with her.

Fatherhood is a marathon, not a sprint.

[–]broneilbro[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

My ex played the same communication game with me. Your daughter will be your daughter forever. A few short months of hardship and then you will have the time you need with her.

Fatherhood is a marathon, not a sprint.

This is it. It really shows where I need to focus and I will.

[–]matrixtospartanatLVRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes. So much this.

10 years after the divorce and my daughter seeks my attention EVERY DAY.

Her mother is the whole entire pile of shit.

And even my daughter knows it.

Be awesome.

Let the mother...be.

Your daughter WILL figure it out.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (19 children) | Copy Link

5 months, and you have the same lack of agency you had at the start. No one cares about your fucking sad lifes story.

Everyone has said the obvious, and you've ignored them every step of the way.

[–]broneilbro[S] 1 point2 points  (16 children) | Copy Link

You are right. It is hard to have agency when you are deployed but you are correct. Implementing RP when away for a year does have it's difficulties.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (15 children) | Copy Link

This was decided long before your deployment.

Though you do have something other than yourself to hang it on now

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (14 children) | Copy Link

I believe that. She mentioned we weren't good for a while which I agree with, but given that she is a kid of divorce I think she like every woman would be willing to shed emotionally faster than the typical woman.

I'll take responsibility where it is due, but my main focus right now is making myself into a man that I am proud of and be the best father I can be to my daughter.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (13 children) | Copy Link

Better late than never I guess...

[–]broneilbro[S] 1 point2 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

It is. An hour ago I was pissed but her dad summed it up "Better to have two happy but separated parents than two unhappy parents together.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret3 points4 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

Youre pissed because you're letting life happen to you.

Had you listened 5 months ago, you would have removed the umbilical cord and kicked her to the curb, instead you hired a PI, and stewed when you should have had mission focus.

If you want to learn to cope, /r/divorce. We don't do coping here

[–]redpillcad1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

An unplugged man may not want divorce but he is sure as shit is prepared for it. Mentally, Physically, Emotionally and financially.

Bring it on bitch

[–]rp_findingmyway0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

100%

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

It is hard to kick to the curb when deployed as I would literally have nothing to come back to. That could be me making excuses but if I was back stateside it could have been different. I guess next step is stay focused on the mission of being the best man I can be and father too.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

You know about 1/4 subscribers have deployed right? You can stop throwing it around like a crutch. At least if you blamed it on alcoholism you'd have a point.

As for its difficulty, you're not exactly a role model and you seem like you're doing the separation part just fine.

[–]broneilbro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Didn't know that. It is something that is different to say the least. A year ago I was blind and lost and now that I can see for what it's worth it's something perplexing.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

I'm never one to pass out sympathy on here. It sounds like he's taking this twist in stride. Curious how this'll play out. I'd take a guess wife is running from something. My guess of that something is that she cheated.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Who gives a shit? This guy was paranoid, needy, and Co dependant. He hired a PI to catch her cheating on him, and instead found out she was just getting away from him so she could sit around quietly and work on a car engine.

He's taking it in stride because he doesn't have a choice. I've yet to see any hint of I. Prove meant in over half a year, he still. Blames it on the deployment.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I give a shit. Bnb has played this out in front of us and didn't get it right.

Well guess what, part of being a man is outstretching your hand when another man is down, Not kicking him in the balls. Much like being deployed I can only assume.

[–]broneilbro[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You are right. I was. I don't blame in on the deployment. The deployment is something I cannot control. I can only control what I have the abilty to. I do have to say I have made I. provement but it is not where it needs to be. You have to start somewhere.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

although i don't really believe https://www.reddit.com/user/broneilbro is a troll, almost every post of his trigger's my troll spidey senses. it's just so unattractive, i think this has to be made up as a "strawman"

not that it matters now; but my guess is OP's wife was on the fence of some strange dick and his neediness pushed her off the fence.

[–]Rian_StoneMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

From what I remember she didn't even want that, his PI found she used to go and tinker with cars alone ibstead of hanging with him

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

The stay plan has always been the same as the go plan.

And personally, I wouldn't define myself by a label. Are you a statistic? Or are you someone who has a opportunity to make a better life for you and your daughter?

Also, make sure she can't access a cent of that inheritance. STFU about the inheritance. Don't do anything against your best interests, and contact a lawyer.

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You are correct. I meant the statistic sarcastically because the laughing at the hypergamy being real.

I will make sure she won't get a cent of the inheritance. I told the trustee to hold on to it. I'll be contacting a lawyer tomorrow.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

You are one lucky SOB.

Too bad you missed your own graduation party.

But wait, there's still time to change your tune and dance a jig to your own good fortune.

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah. the emotions are swinging to say the least but surprisingly I'm finding myself more amused and excited than disappointed. My friend who introduced me the RP pretty much has seen it all. He stated coldly when I told him "Her loss, she will realize it in a couple years" and explained what happened to a bunch of other ex-wives of his friends.

I'm not going to focus on that. I got 75 days to refocus on myself and know what I am going back into. I appreciate all the advice that this place has provided.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I got 75 days to refocus on myself and know what I am going back into. I appreciate all the advice that this place has provided

Make good use of that time. Many here have handed you the keys to your kingdom, pay attention now.

[–]thunderbeyond0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

"When you're going through hell, keep going." Churchill.. But also me to you. Time to continue being an awesome dad.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

YOu're military right? I don't think there is much you are going to be able to do in terms of your pension and such. Sadly the US Military thinks the spouse deserves half. Look into it. Accept what it is.

but....

I'm upset that my wife will make such a self-centered decision but at the same time not shocked due to the readings.

Execute now. Fuck hypergamy is selfishness. The only response is tough love. She wants out. Say no problem. Done deal. If I remember right you are a navy? If so then go to your JAG now. Start the process. Not like you are ankle deep in mud and stuck like a Fobbit.

Make some calls. Get JAG from your base on the line.

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

We need to be married for 10 years for claim of pension. Also JAG avoids divorce cases unless it's abuse of a power of attorney which they don't allow generals anymore.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

wow shit's changed. Well good.

Still make a call. Don't wait. No reason to if you're at sea. Hell your version of a hardship tour is when the ice cream machine breaks.

[–]broneilbro[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Haha, I did 120 days off of Somalia for one deployment in middle of summer on a broke dick Ship. But yes I agree it's different.

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

awww so...what? no laundry service?

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Actually it broke

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

Look up frame.

Look up mission.

I have been married 24 years. Stay plan is the go plan.

This has been a long time coming and you know it. Now wake the fuck up and deal with it.

  1. Hit the gym.

  2. Rational Male. Over and over. Wipe the blood from your eyes into the third week. Read it until you can repeat it back verbatim.

Feel better now. ?

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

Copy. I have been hitting the gym everyday and finished RM all three years.

The question I have is this...when do you decide to fight or go? I think the RP leans toward going but if you want to fight for it do you or just pack sand?

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

There is no fighting

Does frame actually lend itself to fighting for something ? Seriously

What is your mission ?? What exactly do you want ?

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

I was thinking that when they announce that they want to 'excercise their options', find themselves, etc... is when they are tacitly admitting that they already have a new penis upon which they have taken many rides. That being the case, time to go.

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Agreed. That could be it, but I do believe found her new self because she finally got her foot in the door at the career she has always wanted since we first started dating.

I know she is very driven and exact and this was a part of "our" plan for me to deploy and have a reset.

Pretty much she achieved her part of the plan and is now kicking me out so I can't ruin it being the BP bitch that I was. I truly can't fault her, she thinks that I am the same guy that left.

I am finding myself amused by everything in general, and I find myself laughing at the whole situation because its RP to the T. Rollo is the man.

We will see what develops. I have a facetime today with the kid because it's fathers day. How ironic...

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Agreed. That could be it, but I do believe found her new self because she finally got her foot in the door at the career she has always wanted since we first started dating.

I know she is very driven and exact and this was a part of "our" plan for me to deploy and have a reset.

Pretty much she achieved her part of the plan and is now kicking me out

Hmmm...sounds like she could be owing you alimony...don't overlook it!

Best wishes!

[–]broneilbro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Haha thanks. I'm transitioning careers but we have a prenup that says if she leaves no alimony unless after 10 years. I'll have child support but that's no issue.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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