Age 40, married 12yrs, together 17, 3 kids under 6. 6'4" 255 lb (down from 283) body fat percentage still too high to bother measuring. Doing SL 5x5, solid early gains, but I'm still a fatass. Unplugged in January. I was a physically fit alpha when we met, quickly turned into a beta bitch after developing oneitis. Sex life has improved drastically since implementing MRP. From starfish 2x/mo to enthusiastic fucking 2-3x/wk...and I don't even look good yet!
A couple of months ago, I planned a trip with 2 friends to tent camp and kayak fish (. Leading up to the trip, she was obviously hamstering, shit tests galore and it was shark week pin to of that. I half expected an unsolicited BJ (these are not frequent, but happen sometimes) given that by the time I returned from my trip would be like 10 days since we last had sex... but that didn't happen, oh well...I didn't ask for it, and wasn't butthurt, it was an experiment to test my SMV, I'm obviously not there yet since she let me leave fully loaded.
The day I left, the forecast was calling for heavy rain, as women with beta husbands do, she threw out a few tests- "are you really going to camp in the rain" me: "yep" and just kept packing. Her: "what if the storms get bad" me: "I'm well prepared for anything that could come my way, don't worry about us."
The trip was amazing - awesome kayak fishing, tent camping (far from roughing it), reconnecting with male friends, talking about our goals, struggles, wives (I talked some RP, but they're not ready). Mostly radio silent with the wife except calls home to talk to our oldest kid and to make sure the younger kids were all ok. If wife started talking day-to-day, I simply said I had to run as we were about to do X (insert fun thing here)... I'm on vacation after all.
The last night, while in my tent, I texted logistics (when I planned to get home, I'll pick up lunch on the way, I'll need a couple hours to clean and put away my gear, etc). A few texts back and forth, and she texted me a house listing (we're starting to shop)... My reply was "you should be sending me sexy selfies instead of listings" - a few minutes later she sent a face and small amount of cleavage pic. BTW, I've never asked for, nor received a single sexy pic from her. I decide to press for more...i told her "it is definitely cute, but doesn't look like you really went for sexy...try again!" Next pic had her shirt off, but nipples covered with her "fuck me" face. "Very nice, you're getting warmer" - the next was tits out, and very nice. She asked for a dick pic and I obliged captioned with "do you want this inside you?" Her: "hell yes" me: "it will be 1st chance I get tomorrow" her: "mmmmm, don't you want to just come home tonight?" RECORD SCRATCH...wtf is that? Old me may have packed up my shit and drove the hour home. At the very least I'd have explained how I really wanted to "snuggle with her tonight," but packing, etc was too difficult. I just responded that I loved the pics she sent and was looking forward to the real thing tomorrow. End exchange.
Today, arrived home as planned, worked on my stuff, played with kids, had lunch and helped put kids down for nap time. Took a shower, wife asked about the trip, asked if it was really just the guys or if we all took our side chicks... she's said a few things like this lately... my standard response is to pressure flip "what reason would i have to cheat" but today I just STFU then she said "you all aren't that kind of guys"...I quickly replied, "no, they brought their wives, who really liked my side chick" with a big smirk (A&A - who is this guy with the big balls all of a sudden?). I then grabbed the back of her neck, kissed her and said "why don't you suck my dick" and whipped it out. She pushed me onto the couch and obliged, then great sex followed.
In the old days, she'd have "let me have sex with her" upon my return (starfish/duty). This was very different, almost like the switch flipped and she knows she better fuck me before someone else does. I don't know if it's the cumulative effect of my changes, dread from the get away, the A&A about my side chick, maybe she's just horny after 10 days of no action? Anyone else had similar experiences following a get away like this? A particular moment where you felt the 1000 foot rope tighten?
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Good FR. New guys take note.
Similarly, this is an area to work on. I get that your dipping your toe in the water with a more up-front request like this, but it's still a request with a dainty dollop of domination. Work on being more direct. Don't frame it as a question—it's almost like presenting a shit test for your wife, giving her an opportunity to throw it back at you: "why don't I? because you're a fat fuck, that's why!"
instead be more direct and dominate:
I then grabbed the back of her neck, kissed her and whipped my dick out out and rubbed it against her ass. I turned her around, and told her to get on her knees.
note that this only works if your wife has some level of attraction to you
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