Kill the puppy?

fuckmrp · 2018-03-05T04:11:29+00:00

Bro you drove shirtless in the cold, to the hardware store, with your toothbrush. This kind of shit only happens around crazy bitches.

weakandsensitive · 2018-03-05T08:37:40+00:00

16 month, fresh account, and in an abusive relationship where violence is accepted to a woman who keys cars.

fuck your standards are low.

i'd say this is a troll post, but it's too shitty for even that.

Rian_Stone · 2018-03-05T14:26:24+00:00

I know I'm not perfect so advice will be appreciated.

My only question, are you willfully ignorant? Or truly not understanding this whole situation? Do you actually have a way out, or do you want a pretty lie to hang your hat upon?

I will also say it's a great analogy in your post. That dog you hate, and refuse to deal with is pissing all through your house and breaking boundaries. Is that on purpose? Or do you not see that you have two dogs pissing in your house?

and FWIW, sober wife should be ashamed, and apologize in front of the kids for her behavior, and explain it while she does. Your first step here is to keep the kids from having a woman-complex because of their drunken psycho mom. Give that a try, then clean up the piss and stop sabotaging yourself.

JudgeDoom69 · 2018-03-05T03:54:06+00:00

Tomorrow morning she will be hung over and apologetic as hell, if she even remembers what happened. You may need to remind her about her drunken violence in front of your children.

If you decide to keep her around, you'll need to set a firm boundary about drinking. She's a violent drunk and she can't handle her alcohol.

2ndal · 2018-03-05T13:20:50+00:00

I was miserable in high school. My parents were always fighting. Always.

It was never physical between them fortunately. But they never attempted to hide it from me.

They fought constantly. Divorce was always threatened, particularly by my dad, with my mom shouting "please, stay for him [me]!"

Great. I was what was keeping them together, keeping this destructive behavior in the house. How's that for a fucking complex? I wanted the exact opposite.

I used to dream about them getting divorced. I loved spending time with each of them when they weren't together. I would dream about my dad finding an apartment somewhere that I could visit half the time or whatever. It sounded pretty nice.

I learned that this is how marriages were, that adult problems were solved by petty arguments and butt hurt stomping and yelling, tears, pleading, begging. Guess how I acted in my relationships and eventually in marriage?

I wish my parents had the strength to understand how destructive their behavior was to me as a kid, and make the right decision. The decision to either grow the fuck up and learn how to model appropriate behavior, or get divorced.

Fortunately I found this place and understood that it was my sole responsibility to build the type of relationship and marriage and family that I wanted.

I wish my dad would have done the same.

creating_my_life · 2018-03-05T03:20:54+00:00

Any thoughts?

I'd get the fuck out if it was me.

Strategically, she's fucking wacko. Find a lawyer, start getting video, and shoot for full custody to save your kids.

SteelSharpensSteel · 2018-03-05T03:26:18+00:00

Only you can determine whether or not drunk violence is a boundary worth filing divorce over.

Honestly, you might want to talk to a attorney regardless. I have no experience where you're at, but it sounds like you are in serious danger for potential domestic violence charges. They might be false, but you should protect yourself regardless.

Also, she sounds crazy. I mean, really crazy. Sorry dude. Do what's best for yourself and your kids.

tbicwtfh · 2018-03-05T13:00:40+00:00

Go is the new plan. I just need to figure out the kids. Lawyer visits are scheduled this week.

RuleZeroDAD · 2018-03-05T14:05:38+00:00

Mmmmmm Hon, have you tried this new 'taint flavored toothpaste?

She had better be the best fuck ever, because your tolerance for High School crazy girlfriend bullshit borders on fiction.

As it is, no kids, GTFO.

FlyingSexistPig · 2018-03-05T03:24:08+00:00

Yes.

Kill the puppy now. When she assaults you, call the police and say that you have been assaulted, then LEAVE the house, and tell them that you'll meet them somewhere to file the assault paperwork.

You need to get you and your kids out of that situation ASAP.

I have to ask. How did it get this far?

BobbyPeru · 2018-03-05T03:56:10+00:00

About ten minutes later we started discussing summer vacation

After what went down, you thought it was a good time to discuss vacation plans?

She keys cars when people cut her off or drive to close to her while she is cycling. My toothbrush to clean the toilet, etc.

Sounds like you stuck your disco in crazy a few hundred times.

Why would you want to stay with someone of this type of character? Forget the school district at this point - get yourself and your kids out of danger.

Your numbers are not that horrible for a 45 yr old who started 16 months ago. Maybe it’s time to exercise that go plan.

tbicwtfh · 2018-03-05T05:40:39+00:00

First, you still believe that you can have a logical discussion with a woman. This seldom works.

Second, having a logical discussion with a drunk woman. Well, that's a double.

Sounds like you've been planning your divorce. Now you need to get your mindset straight, whether you stay or go.

InChargeMan · 2018-03-05T16:08:22+00:00

Wow...

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2018-03-06T21:47:37+00:00

You intrinsically knew to go rescue your tooth brush from this woman. The only people who would even think of that must be married to crazy.

If she's this vindictive, a divorce is going to be nuts.

Did you tip your hand and apply to much dread in a past exchange and she made these changes out of fear or obligation and now she's cracking?

I feel like there is more to the story. Also, has she poopbrushed any other people or do you just find pubes on your brush once a month?

Do tell.

matrixtospartanatLV · 2018-03-07T01:36:45+00:00

Have her tested for menopause.

Some of them go batshit crazy.

Full blood work-up.

No, it’s not an excuse. But a potential reason and will give you the impetus to lay down the law.

After that shit show I’d announce you are the proud new owner of a Burger King franchise and from now on you are having it your way, or she can GTFO.

And for the record, if YOU had behaved that way toward her, YOU would be in jail while she was seizing and liquidating your assets.

Life is too short.

I held onto the first wife for 6 non-fucking years....for the kids.

My only regret....

I wish I’d left the fucking cow 5 years sooner.

RedPillCoach · 2018-03-05T04:11:37+00:00

Any thoughts

Since you asked, I wouldn't get divorced just because you are not happy. That is feminine and what women do. A "family alpha would fix it.

Ample research shows that 70% of people in unhappy marriages who manage to stay together are happy 5 years later.

Also, kids in High School are a very difficult time. I have personally witnessed people getting divorced while the kids are in High School and it drives a wedge and destroys the relationship with the kids. They resent that their parents couldn't wait just a few years so they could finish High School and not spend those years trapped in Drama and Hell.

If you can send them an email in their first semester of college it is much easier on them.

I told her to let go and quit being a mean drunk. I would discuss things with her when she was sober. She kept attacking and pulling as I walked down the driveway. I finally let her have the hoody and walked down the street.

Get this on tape and protect yourself- especially the part about being a mean drunk! The domestic violence allegations will fall like rain if the divorce goes forward and this is golden evidence for any court that considers fault. Most No Fault States still consider "fault" in the division of assets and this will keep you out of jail. Make this a priority to get her assaulting you on audiotape or preferably videotape.

drty_pr · 2018-03-05T06:54:36+00:00

Everyone has givin you the advice you already need, but I got one more thing. My wife can become a real mess when she gets drunk. I have a firm boundary of only allowing her to drink beer.

The_Litz · 2018-03-05T12:52:53+00:00

Brother, I guess you are so deep in it you cannot see how fucked up this situation is, or you have grown accustomed to it, which is just as wrong.

I am not going to rehash the good advice already dispensed here, just going to tell you to stand back and look at it from a distance. Hell, even the Bluepill brigade will tell you to leave her ass.

Make your plans, and execute them. If you do it over a period of 1 month or 3 years does not matter, just make your plans to exit this toxic relationship.

Best short term advice, AA meetings.

470_2_700_nm · 2018-03-05T13:06:45+00:00

I don’t think your numbers are that bad.

I do think your wife is a crazy vindictive bitch, from what you have written.

I also think you need camera’s for documentation of her domestic violence. She may destroy you in court otherwise if it comes to that.

Westernhagen · 2018-03-05T14:09:37+00:00

How do you even have a dog that pisses in the house? Huge failure of leadership there.

Why do you even have alcohol in your house given that you know she is a mean drunk? Huge failure of leadership there.

Get rid of the dog and the alcohol.

[deleted] · 2018-03-05T14:26:36+00:00

File a police report and have her charged with assault. But if you can’t do that, at the very least, get rid of any alcohol in the house and don’t buy anymore. Maybe even kick her out of the house? I don’t know. She sounds like she’s hit the wall.

Reach180 · 2018-03-05T14:38:25+00:00

"Everything was perfect until yesterday, when out of the blue my wife accused my kids of plotting our murder and threw dishes at me."

k. Are you just bullshitting us, or are you bullshitting yourself too?

screechhater · 2018-03-05T15:35:11+00:00

when you actually have an hour to yourself, re-read your post and ask what you could have done differently to keep the escalation from happening

Also, do you not see the disparity of "this is your life" and the dog in the house pissing everywhere and ruining it ? Is this for real ? Why are you allowing it ?

Wulfwinterr · 2018-03-06T01:48:27+00:00

Kill the puppy. When your wife tries to strangle you, and you have to guard your toothbrush to keep her from cleaning the toilet with it, it's time to gtfo.

By the way, she was strangling you with the hoodie repeatedly because she wanted you to hit her. Why? So she could use it in court to divorce-rape you. She's practically begging you to kill the puppy.

[deleted] · 2018-03-07T18:24:25+00:00

Yes, kill that puppy. She is borderline psychopathic. She accuses your sons of being parent killers. She goes from weeping and crying that you get on her too much, to grabbing a hoody so hard it chokes you, you stop her, she keeps going, and throws a serving bowl at you and hits you with it. You're so concerned about her mental state you took your toothbrush with you when you left the house.

The puppy's dead. Bury it. See a lawyer today. fight like hell to get custody of your kids.

This is classic borderline personality disorder. She will ruin you and your children. you need to protect yourself and your children.

mrpthrowa · 2018-03-05T06:17:56+00:00

here is what you should do

get another place, call it a love nest or a man cave or whatever

go to it when you want, fuck other women

go to the first house whenever you want and see the kids

gettingmymojoback · 2018-03-05T10:59:07+00:00

Here’s what I don’t get,

Why not just get the fuck out of there and buy a new toothbrush on your way back?

They’re worth what, like $4 bucks?

Your wife is acting like a complete psychopath and you’re worried about a toothbrush?

I smell troll. Something smells shitty and it’s not your toothbrush.

red-sfpplus · 2018-03-05T13:27:01+00:00

First, you are an idiot for not knowing your wives alcohol tolerance and the fact she is a mean drunk. I am sure this is not the first time you have seen her drunk. Your negligence allowed this whole thing to happen.

Second, I struggle to find a scenario where I would allow someone to physically hurt me, throw a glass bowl at me or choke me where they didn’t either get hit back, or I got in their face and made it clear that if they did it again, they would get hit.

Male or female. I don’t fucking care, its a hard line for me. You DO NOT hit people. Period. If you do, you are getting hit back. It is how I was raised, and how I raise my kids.

Gut punches don’t leave bruises.