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FR future ex wife moving out (self.askMRP)

submitted by izual19

I've been fucking up the last few weeks. I've de loaded twice. Used to squat 300 5x5 now I'm back to 250. My diet has been shit. Like gas station pizza level shit. Mostly because I have been that damn busy.

I got my house from looking like something from the show hoarders to show ready in preparation to sell. Progressed the mediation process and have a child care schedule set up. Future ex wife moves out next week. I've started packing and have a plan for where my son and I are going to live.

I've got a good plan for living on the cheap untill I reach my goal of 50k saved and I'll purchase my own home. Shouldn't take more than 10 months. Also have set up a support structure for my son. His grandparents will be watching him while I'm at work. I think having people who love him always around will smooth the transition to divorced life.

Only been putting a small amount of effort towards online dating. It was honestly quite shocking having 26 year olds saying I look hot, or I look like trouble. Like, the best ego kibble ever. But I know I don't have the time right now to waste chasing pus.

Took the advice of others from my last post and have worked towards not having my ex wife see me as an enemy. This has been a huge improvement. She's cordia,l borderline sweet towards me. Gives me some hope that we won't be exposing our son to our toxic bullshit drama anymore. Thank you to those who convinced me this was a good move.

I'm taking thanksgiving week off to go deer hunting. Really looking forward to some solitude and quiet to decompress. I haven't felt this happy in a long time.


[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red12 points13 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

You get to keep the kids?

Fugging congrats man!!! Live your life on your terms. Teach your young boy to be a man when he grows up. Show him what dad can do when he puts his mind to it!

Forget her.

[–]izual19[S] 2 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Yup. 50/50. Thanks man.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red15 points16 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

IDK your history and the cause of the D, all I can say is WATCH FOR THE REBOUND.

Women are crazy. When the harsh reality sets in that she will be alone, potentially post-wall while you OYS and move on, dont be tempted to dig through the trash. Not even once, no matter how bad she might want it.

[–]thatboyjeff3 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I was just wondering about this. I wonder how often this happens to women in her position.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

All the time. My wives grandma did it to her grandpa. They were late 50’s. Divorced for leas than a year while she got some strange than he dumbass married her again.

Her aunt was alpha widowed. She is moving back to the same city her ex lives in to try and break up his current marriage. She is close to 50 and cant stand being alone.

One of my bros had this happen to him just the past two years. Him and his wife got D he OHS and got a new girl. Now she makes his life a living hell with the kids and visitation. He is my age.

[–]thatboyjeff1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Women are fucking insane. I used to say it varied from individual to individual but na. I'd say they all are in their own right.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I wonder how often this happens to women in her position divorcing husbands who are improving.

I think 99% of the time they desperately realize their mistake and try to jump back on the gravy train.

I always say women will jump off a stationary train without a second thought. However they HATE to jump off a moving train. I mean, a girl might get hurt! Especially if that train ends up going somewhere cool after she jumps off- that would REALLY hurt a girl.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Generally women are hesitant to leave a man who doesnt care if she leaves

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Militia0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

And no one walks away from a gravy train with biscuit wheels. Stationary or not.

[–]RedPillAtNight8 points9 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

When I️ was going though my divorce, she resisted any and all of my attempts to prevent it. A year after, once reality set in, she comes begging to get back together, realizing she “destroyed our family and perfect life together”. Needless to say, I didn’t give her the chance to nuke my life from orbit again. Now I’m dating a size 2 sexy doctor.

[–]JudgeDoom690 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Now I’m dating a size 2 sexy doctor

Does she have a sister?

[–]RedPillAtNight1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Sorry, no, but she does have a pussy ex that has a vagina (I think!). When I described him to one of my kids and asked what kind of car the ex drives, my son guessed correctly!

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Ford Festiva or a Prius?

[–]SteelSharpensSteelMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Makes me think of the hybrid episode of South Park.

[–]RedPillAtNight0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Prius!

[–]BobbyPeru4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good, start enjoying your life on your terms.

It’s nice to have FR’s like this.

[–]thunderbeyond2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good work man. Small setbacks like deloading and diet shouldn't get you down - you're dominating the other areas of your life.

Keep on going. You get to move on and carve a new path.

[–]JudgeDoom692 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've de loaded twice

...which means you are at the gym lifting. Still better than 98% of the competition

My diet has been shit

You are in the middle of a separation/divorce. There's no time to be be Betty Crocker right now. Cut yourself a break.

show ready in preparation to sell

Good job, you'll sell it way faster if you've decluttered

Only been putting a small amount of effort towards online dating

The pay sites like Match and Zoosk are the way to go. Way higher quality on there and no scammers

I'm taking thanksgiving week off to go deer hunting

In Steven Covey's "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" he would call this Sharpening the Saw. The analogy is a woodcutter who is sawing for several days straight and is becoming less and less productive because the process of cutting dulls the blade. So the solution is to stop and periodically sharpen the saw. A week in a tree stand is just what you need to sharpen your saw

[–]tacoduck_1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"Took the advice of others from my last post and have worked towards not having my ex wife see me as an enemy. This has been a huge improvement. She's cordia,l borderline sweet towards me. Gives me some hope that we won't be exposing our son to our toxic bullshit drama anymore. Thank you to those who convinced me this was a good move."

“Supreme excellence consists of breaking the enemy's resistance without fighting.” ― Sun Tzu, The Art of War

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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