Wife accused me of having crush on her sister

abdada · 2017-03-20T20:03:11+00:00

Wife has a crush on sister's boyfriend and is projecting.

nastynickdr · 2017-03-20T20:55:05+00:00

Wow she accused you! Thats so serious! You´d better explain yourself right now! You dont look at her sister that way!

Give less fucks man.

"Problem with your sister is that birthmark she has just beside her cunt, instant boner killer"

[deleted] · 2017-03-20T20:39:13+00:00

Best way to win this one is to not play.

donedreadpirate · 2017-03-20T22:01:33+00:00

I stopped describing guys as "a bit of a dick" or "douchebags" or "players" when I realized that usually those feelings came from my feelings of inadequacy when my drive and initiative to succeed were compared to theirs. Often, my insults would be based on a moral high ground on my part...as in "I'd never be like that to get what I want."

And if they really are being a bit of a dick...in particular to me...I handle it. Kill your ego.

cholomite · 2017-03-20T20:48:55+00:00

First off, /u/abdada is 100% onto something about your wife projecting. The way you describe this guy, I'm about to get a crush on him. You could probably stand to learn a thing or two from him tbh.

Secondly, never ever say anything negative about this guy again unless he absolutely deserves it. From now on, he's like your best bro. Beta males talk negatively about alpha males because they are insecure around them. So seriously, STFU.

This isn't about the sister at all, but if she makes it a point to bring it up, just tell her "yea, she's hot" or "I wouldn't kick her out of bed" or whatever that game of thrones chick said. DO NOT BRING UP ANY POSSIBLE FEELINGS YOUR WIFE MIGHT HAVE FOR THIS GUY. I can't stress that enough. If you mention any of that shit you're going to look like an even bigger bitch than you already are. One more thing, don't ever refer to any feelings you have as a "crush". I know your wife brought it up, but "crush" is just a word girls use to downplay the fact that they really want to fuck a guy. Guys don't get crushes, they either want to fuck a girl or they don't.

*edit

One more thing, your wife asking you what you thought of him was a test. It was a test to see if you feel threatened or insecure around this guy. She desperately wanted you to like him and get along, because that would mean you're on his level, but instead you got insecure and started throwing shade and your giant beta flag went up and dried her vagina in an instant. If she didn't have a crush on him before, your insecurity will probably push her there anyway. Sisters compare their men all the time. Your wife flipped out because your answer made it certain in her mind that her sister has a better man than she does. Your insecurity proved it. That's the real reason she flipped out, she's married to the bitch man while her sister gets her cool "asshole" boyfriend. Wew boy.

Good luck buddy.

zurgenfloggin · 2017-03-20T20:53:51+00:00

When they are riled up, remember to initiate soon afterwards. DNGAF when they get mad. Shrug, perhaps smirk, and fog (WISNIFG).

Stop explaining yourself. Stop arguing. Stop justifying what you said.

You have the right to think whatever you want about people. You have the right to not justify your thoughts or actions. You have the right to change your mind (about saying you'd talk about it).

screechhater · 2017-03-20T21:08:29+00:00

Your SO is "tingleishis" for the BIL

Better step back and remember, mate guarding is Unattractive, so is DEERING

weakandsensitive · 2017-03-21T04:56:12+00:00

Do you have a crush on the sister?

hibloodstevia · 2017-03-20T23:21:41+00:00

This guy is going to enjoy fucking your wife.

BobbyPeru · 2017-03-21T03:32:27+00:00

This is dread.

Bask in it.

Amused mastery.

It may be projection also, like abdada suggested. I'm thinking it's both dread and projection.

TheLionQueen111 · 2017-03-27T01:27:31+00:00

Tell her to stop speaking to you that way.

And ya, you do have a crush on her sister, but you choose to be with her, but she better cut that attitude out right now, or you are going to find a better girl. Oh, and your not jealous of her sisters boyfriends, she is just projecting.

That will set her straight, and if it does not, leave her. Find a better women, and this time don't get married, so she can't try to be a parasite.

Edit: And if she acts huffy-puffy over it, ignore it, if she wont stop tell her to cut it out or you will never speak to her again, she is to act right, or you will find a women that does. Simple as that. She either acts right, or start looking for a better women and find one.