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I get it. Lift, tests, some game. I go out a little on my own. Need to do more of that. Had a decent weekend. Some sex. She made some overtures last night, thought cool, business time. When she went to get ready for bed I came in the bathroom and said put on something sexy and walked upstairs to kiss my daughter good night.

I come down and she has the not sexy pajamas on and a facial mask. I say what the hell and pull out a book. Eventually she says I'm going to bed, wanna cuddle. I say, that means I would have to stop reading. Not now. She falls asleep.

I mean I hate that I have to cut her off from affection. But I hate it more that she wants to manipulate me and try and control the frame. Like I'm dealing with my 10 year old. You can get the reward when you do you chores. Such a journey. Thanks for listening.


[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Welcome to the real world.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Manipulated Man

read it, read it again until you've internalized it. you'll notice that guilt you feel washes away

[–]SpyderMaybe[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Much appreciated. WTF, is that beauteous or what?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It really drives home the point of 'you are the only one who will take care of you' and the selfishness you have to harbour, the depressing, sad life of a man who lights himself on fire to keep everyone warm. I tend to pick it up every 6 months or so, as a reminder as to why I am here

[–]Griever11412 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Tis the world of being married to children. Remember, NO ONE (including your wife) gives two shits about your happiness.

Let me repeat, NO ONE.

Worry about yourself, when you start pulling away, she will likely shit-test but begrudgingly follow along.

[–]mrpCamper2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

NO ONE (including your wife) gives two shits about your happiness.

Amen brother

[–]SepeanRed Beret1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Lift and lead more. Be more dominant. Tease her more. Read the Sex God Method.

There is a point where she wants sex more than you. The games don't stop, but she stops sabotaging sex.

[–]SpyderMaybe[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yes. I haven't gotten through SGM. I don't have enough outside hobbies yet. This is 15 years together, 1 kid. 54/47. Still a way to go. TRP is mind blowingly gut wrenchingly devastating. I always knew but never had anyone say it. I get to live the rest of my life better informed. You young whipper snappers get to have more of your life better informed. The past is no more, there is only now. Thanks.

[–]SepeanRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

SGM was a gamechanger for me.

[–]mrprm0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

I just want to clarify, did she turn you down for sex or did you just not initiate because she didn't put on something sexy? My wife sometimes pulls shit like that but I just view it as LMR and blow through it or get a hard no.

[–]dandar46004 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Not sexy pajamas and a face mask equals hard no in 99% of cases. Having said that after harping on her about her unsexy pajamas she finally bought some sexy ones instead. Still with the long pants, but more form fitting and a tighter T accentuating her curves. Yay for small victories.

[–]SepeanRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It should be a hard no. The pyjamas is one thing, that just comes off, but if she took off her makeup and smeared some mask on that smells and tastes weird, that's a total turnoff.

[–]SpyderMaybe[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Not a hard no, but I figured I made a request/directive and it was not honored. It was a shit test yes and I could have carried on and through. But I chose to take it as disrespect and her trying to run the frame so I got busy doing something else.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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