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For those of you who are at home when your husband/fiancé/boyfriend returns: What are some ways I can greet him at the door and make his return home more pleasant so he knows he is able to relax and calm down from now on?

We're not married yet and I want to stay a virgin until marriage so I'm mostly talking about non-sexual ideas.


[–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I always make sure that the house is extremely clean, organized, and smells good. I also have dinner ready or already cooking. If you don’t have much of dinner ready, a trick I learned is to sauté an onion. The smell brings comfort and makes people feel like dinner is on the way.

[–]LaneysWorld26 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you, that sounds like an amazing trick! I try to always make sure that dinner is ready on time even if other chores have to be put aside for the moment. But I'm generally able to stick to my housework schedule though.

But even if I'm not quite on schedule a cool drink, a kiss and the sight of me in an apron is usually a good way to make him feel content ;)

He told me as much some days ago so I guess it's alright. But I still want to stick to my schedule and not make him wait.

[–]FKAIrisWife (3y) mom (1y) former mod7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't greet him at the door. I usually take the kid into his room to play with toys and give my husband a minute to come home, set his stuff down, go the bathroom, sort the mail (he gets it on his way in) and do other things. Then he usually comes in the room once he has had his minute to switch from work brain to home brain.

[–]powertothemonsters3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

My friend and her boyfriend are in a long distance relationship. Whenever he visits her, after his long journey he naturally wants a shower. She runs his towel through the dryer, and sometimes his blankets too, so that they’re warm and fluffy. I think it’s so sweet!

[–]gracefulgirl11 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's a great idea! I sometimes do this with my hubby's robe or PJs after he showers.

[–]LittleBlackFlats3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Definitely have all the chores done (vacuum, wipe down counters, walk the dog, light his favorite candle).

Does he have a favorite dinner that you cook? I’d do that. At the very least, bake cookies! Your place will smell phenomenal. (OK, I may have learned this from Clueless!)

[–]gracefulgirl17 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I always make sure to give him a hug and kiss whenever we greet each other, no matter who is coming home.

Make sure the house is spotless and have dinner ready and on the table if he's hungry when he gets home. If he needs some veg time, then just greet him and let him be and go do something for yourself until he's ready to interact.

When we lived in an apartment, I would go on the balcony and wave to him as he was walking up to the building. Or jump up and down and smile and show how excited I was to see him.

Wearing a nice outfit is always a plus, making sure you look great and giving him a hug and enveloping him in your softness and femininity, complete with perfume and sweet-smelling hair.

[–]longevity862 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Or jump up and down and smile and show how excited I was to see him.

This (preferably after a trip; probably not everyday) -- but subtle if he's shy or easily embarrassed. (Speaking as a male.) I will even describe a scene that has stuck with me for years. I was getting off the plane after a business trip and noticed a young woman (20s?) who was a bundle of anticipation and energy (childlike excitement). The instant she spotted her significant other, the involuntary release at that moment caused her to give a cute little leap. Completely natural & unforced.

"Wow" I thought to myself. "Very nice."

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