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Looking to find a great, traditional relationship, though you’re a little bit hesitant on your technological, online dating skills?

That is alright, we’ve got you.

This is a guide on dating online for traditional women, who are hoping to find reliable, traditional guys who they can have a committed relationship with, settle down with, leading to marriage and a family (if preferred). While I’ve normally written other dating guides for my blog That Stepford Gal, unfortunately online dating is not my strength and I’ve barely had any experience with it, really.

This is why today, the advice and wisdom you’re going to hear is from the following members of the subreddits r/RedPillWomen and r/RedPillWives.

u/TheRedPillMonkey

u/ChimericalRequem

u/Kara__El

u/ExceptionalSea

u/gracefulgirl1

u/THEdirtyDotterFUCKr

u/CopperCurls007

u/MakeAmericaRichAgain

u/girlwithabike

u/failingtheturingtest

While some of these tips correspond with general themes and attitudes I’ve endorsed for dating in person, these are more tailored and applicable in the online dating sense. Whether you’re on Tinder, OkCupid, E-Harmony, Bumble, Coffee and Bagel and a bunch of other platforms, hopefully these pointers will raise your online dating success to 100% (or close to)!

  1. Your First Visual Impression Matters
    Ladies, men are very visual and you’ve probably heard this adage a thousand times. In online dating, when they have not had the chance to see you in person, what you choose to present firstly really matters. Your main profile photo is the first visual impression of you so it truly makes an impact. Show only yourself, your whole body if possible, a beautiful and modest look that outlines your feminine personality and domesticity, while being vivacious and fun. It shows you look after yourself while you can also be carefree. Don’t use photos of groups in which men will have to do some digging just to find out which one you are. Most men won’t.
  2. Your Profile Isn’t A Recruitment Resume
    Keep your profile simple and straightforward, without being desperate. You can just state something earnest such as you’re ‘looking to find the right guy’ and that ‘ultimately you’d like to settle and have a family of your own’. You’re not saying that it’s that guy who’s looking at your photo right now, you’re just clarifying that that’s your direction. Phrases and qualities such as ‘family-oriented’ and ‘traditional’ are good in describing yourself and what you’re looking for in others.
  3. What Can You Give?
    People are very focused on demanding things when dating online, having extensive lists and preferences that would only overwhelm those who are looking. It’s a quick turn off. While you are of course, allowed to have some preferences, state what you can offer in return.Are you a good cook?Are you domestic?Are you good with children?Are you a good listener and respectful?These are great points about you that can attract a great guy.
  4. Have A Curious Point For Conversation
    When guys approach you in an online conversation, give them something to work with ahead of time and mention something curious or interesting in your profile. Do you have a quirk or a cool hobby? Is there something hilarious (though appropriate) about you? Something that seems fun and may stand out from the crowd.
  5. Know Your Audience
    If you are looking for a traditional guy who’d want a more domestic girlfriend and wife, he is someone who needs to be mature, a leader and is ready to face the future, including responsibilities for a family. Most guys at that level of their lives are in their 30s and have stable work situations in decent (or higher) fields. What’s most important is their work ethic and consistency. You don’t have to get a high earner or focus on that - it’s how determined he is and his resilience is in his career that matters. That will determine whether he will be resilient and creative when it comes to looking after his family, low or high salary, as a protector and provider.
  6. Ignore Low Quality Guys
    These are the guys who post vain shirtless selfies or send you lame, pick-up messages. These are the guys who barely say anything about themselves and don’t put any effort into dating. Not great relationship/marriage material, for sure. They are looking for fun and to play around, not for someone like you. Watch out for trendy buzzwords like vape, Netflix n’ chill (shudder), as well as other signs of immaturity. Don’t let them get you down, despite how frequent they are.
  7. Don’t Expect Too Much Visually In Profiles
    Guys are not as good as aesthetics as women are. While one of our highlighted strengths is our beauty, guys who are traditional and reliable are more straightforward and functional. They will take simple photos without fancy angles or editing anything. Don’t expect very polished photos (unless you want a metrosexual) since these guys probably find it more worth their time doing other things and taking care of other responsibilities than perfecting their photos. Mirror selfies are alright, they can be in this category, as long as it’s simple and not douchebag-y.
  8. Meet Within 20 Messages or 2 Weeks
    There’s no point dilly-dallying around online. If you want a good guy, he’s not one to waste time or beat around the bush. If a guy you are talking to hasn’t asked to meet in person after roughly 20 messages or up to 2 weeks of messaging, he’s not serious. He’s not really invested or focused enough to want to meet someone and settle down at that time. Move on. When you do meet someone though, a good place to start is a brunch or coffee for at least half an hour just to get know each other face-to-face.
  9. Be Positive
    It sounds corny, though it’s true. While on the whole, dating for traditional people is not looking good, have faith and try your best in your circumstances. When dating, if you emit warmth and positivity, it is more likely you will receive it in turn because people will be attracted to that. No whingeing or passive-commenting on how online dating is the only option left or how the mainstream (as well as feminism) has made everything toxic, etc. We all know that, a good guy would know that already, he just won’t find it a nice image for one of the first things he learns about you is that you’re negative and bitter. Be hopeful and linger on the positive. Be warm.

That’s all, folks! I hope this has given you some basic pointers about online dating and looking for the right person who you can share a lovely relationship and future with. It can be daunting as online dating isn’t really so simple, there’s so many systems and things to look out for, you can get lost in the thick of it.

Just remember, you won’t find anyone if you don’t try. Believe in yourself. Believe in your chances since you’ve made the decision and put in the effort to try. You owe yourself that, at the very least. Think of all the wonderful possibilities and smile.


[–]basedItem4 points5 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Is there any advice you can give to men at University who want a more traditional relationship? No matter how hard I try, I can't seem to find like minded women.

Excellent advice from my perspective by the way.

[–]ThatStepfordGalEarly 20s, LTR[S] 4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Thank you! Actually, I've written up a basic Dating Guide for guys looking for traditional relationships, I hope it will be useful to you! I do think University is a tricky place to start, though it's all about discerning the right groups and types of women.

[–]basedItem1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thank you very much! You have excellent advice. University is definitely tricky, but this gives me a little more hope.

[–]ThatStepfordGalEarly 20s, LTR[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No worries! I really want to help both sides if I can. Just remember that what you broadcast is what you get. It’s a cliche though be true to yourself and live to your traditional values, then that’s what you will attract. :)

[–]nattybbthrowawy 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link

Where can you find traditional women at? Only place I can think of is at church and tennis country clubs.

[–]ThatStepfordGalEarly 20s, LTR[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

To be honest I don’t know. I have one friend like me but we’ve been friends since high school. I’m not Christian either so I don’t go to church. My best bet is online and see who likes your profile when you’re proud of being traditional.

[–]ExceptionalSea2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well said! 👏🏽

[–]Zegiknie1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I'm so glad I don't have to date. Meet within 20 messages or 2 weeks? I'd take a half year at minimum to feel comfortable meeting a stranger!

Good luck to all the single ladies out there. My heart goes out to the introverts among you!

[–]ThatStepfordGalEarly 20s, LTR[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Well you know it’s only common courtesy for women who do want to be serious and settle down for people to be straight to the point and not waste time, you know? You do get used to it!

[–]Zegiknie0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Being married, I don't have to :-) but yes, I do see why it is needful.

[–]ThatStepfordGalEarly 20s, LTR[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ohhh whoops 😬 Well then those days are past for you, you can take it easy in that sense

[–]shivaay691 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Women are just as visual https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/5-myths-about-female-desire and women react equally strongly to watching porn and get as aroused as guys https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn10213-women-become-sexually-aroused-as-quickly-as-men/ and women watch porn more than we think but are embarrassed to admit https://www.bustle.com/articles/118394-this-is-how-many-women-watch-porn-every-week so kindly stop perpetuating these

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