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ADVICEAdvice for a Ex feminist teenage girl (self.RedPillWives)

submitted by AmbitiousQueen

Any advice for me particularly in personality and looks. Also can I be a red pill wife if I’m a lawyer at a top firm?

Thanks in advance


[–]BlancaBianca12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Wow a really insecure guy who has a problem with women earning a paycheck in the comments here. The way you act at work doesn't have to affect how you act with your husband. I'm not saying women should or shouldn't work outside the home (I prefer working in the home only, myself), but it's possible to have a relationship where you respect your husband and still have an intense job. It would be pretty important to vet your future husband properly to ensure you two have the same goals. If he wants you to eventually stay home exclusively and you intend to work into a late retirement, that is a huge issue. Just as it would be if you couldn't agree on the number of children, religious issues, etc.

[–]AmbitiousQueen3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great advice thank you ! I find it really hard to be interested in any of the guys my age I actually considered myself an asexual and after discovering MGTOW first and the way they talked about females I lost hope on finding a nice man and getting courted ( I think that’s what’s its called) .

[–]jack_hammarred25 LTR 4yrs7 points8 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

Hi, and welcome!

Head on over to r/femininenotfeminist for some input on style/beauty :) it’s our sister sub!

You may get a little bit of blow back, the way you’ve phrased your question and the newness of your account... people might think you’re trolling but I’m assuming you aren’t 🙂

Incorporating red pill theory in a relationship is possible for any couple in any scenario. Being the breadwinner as the girlfriend/fiancée/wife =\= being blue pill 😊 If your description and understanding of yourself as an ENTJ is accurate, you’ll have some clarity about the effect you do/don’t want a man to have on you. With the right red pill frame of mind, you should be able to make a beautiful life with a man. With a suitable partnership, it’ll be relatively easier to have a healthy red pill relationship.

We have quite a bit of content here on psychological femininity. Reading other advice posts will also be helpful, to familiarize yourself with things that do and don’t work and to also see what you connect with that might be a challenge for you down the road.

Working on developing virtues like receptiveness, listening, empathy, etc. would be good for you. You can set goals for yourself in certain situations to react with these values instead of any unfeminine qualities you find yourself responding with. Explore loving people through their struggles and challenges rather than trying to jump in and solve things for them.

[–]AmbitiousQueen4 points5 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

Hello, Thank you for the welcome. I promise I’m not trolling I have been lurking for a couple of weeks and I find that the red pill wives view line up similarly with what my mother is trying to teach me.

I was wondering do you have any advice on how to be firm and assertive but still pleasant? Also on how to dress conservatively but still flattering?

[–]BlancaBianca8 points9 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

One of the biggest things for me personally when dressing conservatively but femininely is that I can show off my hourglass shape while still being covered up. This is especially easy with a cinched waist and flowy skirt. Depending on your shape, you may have to find a cut that works on you but I like circle skirts that hit a few inches below the knee.

Many of the mods and members of this forum past and present have been professional and high earning women. You absolutely can be a leader at work but defer to your husband at home.

[–]AmbitiousQueen1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Okay thank you I’ll definitely research different cuts and styles

[–]TheYekke-3 points-2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/?s=Lawyercunt+&submit=Search

[–]BlancaBianca12 points13 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Nobody here gives a shit if you hate female lawyers. At the end of the day, single women may try to appeal to the broadest range of men possible to cast a wide net and find their future husband but married women only need to please one man.

If you're a pick up artist, no one here is interested in you

If you don't have anything helpful to say, no one here is interested in your comments.

This is a forum for women's interests. We are here to discuss well functioning marriage and how to achieve or maintain those, and any tangentially related topics.

[–]TheYekke-2 points-1 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

The highest amount of flak is received right over the target. It doesn’t matter how well you package, we men choose.

[–]BlancaBianca8 points9 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

The married women of this forum don't care whether a mgtow would choose them.

[–]TheYekke 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

The married women on this sub divorce their men >80% of the time. Why would I need to sign up for that? My wallet, my choice(TM)

[–]teaandtalk30, married 7 years4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This user has been banned.

[–]TheYekke1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Pass me whatever you’re using to distort reality please. Then get thee to chateau heartiste and search the word “lawyer”. That is how we see you.

[–]BlancaBianca2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"you" LMAO I'm not a lawyer

[–]FKAIrisWife (3y) mom (1y) former mod5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Have you read anything from the side bar?

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[–]JustScrollOnward0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I would not advise you to change your personality but you can become the best version of yourself that you can be. Men appreciate virtue in a woman, which is a woman who is grounded, joyful and modest in personality (modesty itself is a virtue, not just how you dress. Think of a woman who is kind and warm and joyful, not ostentatious or shy). As far as being a lawyer, my own MIL was a lawyer before she chose to stay at home with her children. I think a lot of redpilled, masculine men would be looking for a wife who will stay home and raise children, as there are many benefits to the children and family when the mother is able to dedicate herself solely to the family.

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