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I'm always a little sad whenever I see pictures of couples sitting on their couch in sweatpants, old shirts and messy hair. I believe a woman who wants to be high value can't just neglect her appearance just because she's at home with her man and 'nobody sees me anyway'.

Your man sees you! If you dress up and look beautiful for anyone it's him! Not the strangers you encounter outside of your home!

Of course he will appreciate it and think of you as a high value woman when you take the time to take care of your appearance, do your hair, put on a little make up and make sure you are dressed nicely, don't have a bad breath and wear his favorite fragrance.

Another part of this is wearing 'household clothes' to protect your appearance. When I'm at my fiance's place and I'm cooking or doing chores I wear a cute apron that not just protects my clothes and appearance but I also know he enjoys seeing me in them. He didn't like it when I put my hair in a bun so now I wear kerchiefs to protect my hair and look extra cute. I wear gloves to make sure my hands stay soft and don't get rough from the cleaning agent. Those are simple ways to look cute and take care of your appearance at the same time.

There is so much value in keeping up your appearance around him, no matter where you are. What's your opinion on this? And do you also wear aprons or specific clothes for household tasks?


[–]Kara__El45 points46 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is a bit silly. I agree that women can be overly sloppy around the house, but I'm not wearing an adorable hazmat suit over my pearls to keep them clean. Find cute versions of comfy clothes and throw out anything ratty. I live in yoga pants and his flannel t-shirts and hunting socks in the winter and athletic shorts and tank tops in the summer. There is a middle ground.

[–]beersandboobs09836 points37 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I just stumbled upon this, don't know if it's a joke or not, but it's ridiculous. Nothing wrong with looking good for each other, but if you can't be comfortable and unwind and not care about your appearance for a minute, it should be with your S.O.

[–]bambiliftsweights22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I totally agree. Just as a little back story OP is very young and isn’t married yet - relationship maturity will come with time and age.

[–]teaandtalk30, married 7 years9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think the other ladies have made appropriate comments about this being a bit unrealistic for many people. Certainly it is a 'high maintenance' attitude - which some men will like, but many won't.

When I'm around the house, I tend to wear tee-shirt material dresses with a fit-and-flare style, over leggings or tights, and my ugg boots. My husband appreciates the small nod to femininity of the dress, but also the practicality of leggings and materials that can get thrown in the wash easily/I'm not afraid of ruining. I could wear an apron, but I generally only do so for particularly dirty cooking rather than day-to-day housework.

[–]Hartley7Married for 9 years4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't see why your advice is viewed as ridiculous. It's good practice to look as cute as possible all the time. Unfortunately, life gets in the way.

I know my husband doesn't like to come home to me in my pajamas or my robe so I make sure that I dress nicely for him. I also smell lovely when he arrives. Honestly, keeping great hygiene should be important to a woman whether she is married or not.

[–]Kittennoodle5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Hmm, I think I dress to the level my husband dresses for the most part. If he's doing pajamas, you bet I'm joining him in a pajama party.

[–]Austinisfullgohome12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I wear an apron every time I do housework or cook. It's more of a frugality thing, as I'm trying to keep from having to replace clothing due to bleach or food stains. Much easier to just replace the apron.

[–]JustScrollOnward7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree! It’s a nice reminder as a stay at home mom to pay attention to my appearance like I did when we were engaged. Though of course my clothes are now kid-friendly 😆

[–]BePrivateGirl2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It’s not hard either. I wear simple cotton dresses all the time. Same dress with different fabric patterns for $20 each on amazon,

[–]Lonely_Cartographer1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I completely agree with this! It's so important for women (and men) to put in the effort to remain attractive to each other. Clothes have gotten sooo slobby in the last few decades. I also just feel better about life when I put in effort. I think tight yoga clothes work because they are comfy but kinda sexy at the same time. And personally I am not the type of girl to every wake up and NOT put on at least some makeup to make me look alive.

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