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[–]gabilromariz21 points22 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Could it be that the fact that people are willing to stick it out and work on their problems ultimately gives them the tools to make their marriages better and happier?

[–]laurenkkmid 30's, married 7(17 total)7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I think that is a major factor.

Very interesting statistics. I'd like to know if any of those couples who declared as unhappy sought counseling out other assistance?

Also, what happiness rating would their children claim?

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Children are universally happier, more stable, and more successful when they come from intact families. Divorce is one of the single most effective ways to fuck up your kid.

[–]gabilromariz3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I wonder how many couples started out unhappy and then just flat out gave up and divorced, instead

[–]StingrayVC2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Have you seen this?

Go, even though you love him.

Go, even though he’s kind and faithful and dear to you.

Go, even though he’s your best friend and you’re his.

Go, even though you can’t imagine your life without him.

Go, even though he adores you and your leaving will devastate him.

Go, even though your friends will be disappointed or surprised or pissed off or all three.

Go, even though you once said you would stay.

Go, even though you’re afraid of being alone.

Go, even though you’re sure no one will ever love you as well as he does.

Go, even though there is nowhere to go.

Go, even though you don’t know exactly why you can’t stay.

Go, because you want to.

Because wanting to leave is enough.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

YIKES

[–]BellaScarletta0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's unbelievable depressing. I didn't read the whole thing but I skimmed and closed at the line that was something like "because we are the gender with the button 'here to serve' eternally pinned."

Ugh I need relationship eye bleach now.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Wow, imagine if this had been written for men. Ladies would be up in arms about it calling the guy who wrote it an ungrateful dirtbag.

[–]StingrayVC1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hah, yikes.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I wonder how many of these couples were only unhappy for part of the time and had they stuck it out they would have found happiness again - unhappiness can be a phase. A funk in a relationship isn't a reason to leave it. And while we may encourage leaving a dating relationship when things get rocky - marriage should continue to weather the storm. For me and R - divorce just simply isn't a solution to any general marriage problem. It should be reserved for the extreme situations. (unfaithfulness, abuse, etc)

I had lots of families around me where the parents were married 20+ years - and that doesn't mean it was always awesome. If you can stick it out and get past the rockiness then you can enjoy the awesomeness after it passes.

[–]MrsBobberMid 20s, Married <1yr, together 5.5years1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The more I read of this sub the more I know I'm in the right place. So glad to hear other women who agree with the idea of 'divorce is not an option'.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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