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[–]WorksAtBank[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Possible discussion points:

  • Is selflessness RP?

  • Does selflessness exist in an RP marriage, where the wife is certain to reap benefits from her 'selfless' actions?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Is selflessness RP?

Who are you being selfless toward - Your husband, absolutely! The guy down the street - Maaaaybe not. :) I would add though that you can't pour from a cup that's empty. Self care is an important part of being a RPWife

Does selflessness exist in an RP marriage, where the wife is certain to reap benefits from her 'selfless' actions?

You might be edging toward a covert contract with that thinking. While I do reap certain benefits in my marriage I also have a role to play so we both reap benefits.

[–]WorksAtBank[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

I think selflessness in a lot of ways is the natural result of RPW.

If one uses the thinking and strategies of RPW to find, land, and keep their ideal partner... They will end up with someone they can be respectful towards and attracted to their entire lives. Which would in my mind, lead to selfless actions.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I think selflessness in a lot of ways is the natural result of RPW.

Yes, but WHO you are selfless toward matters. We don't give just anyone respect. We don't defer to just any man. We defer to our husband who earned/got/received our respect during courtship and now has it as our husband.

[–]WorksAtBank[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Oh, I'm sorry I thought the subject of the point was made obvious by the quote.

Naturally I would not ever posit complete selflessness as an RP strategy to win a man over.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Complete selflessness is a RP strategy to keep a husband, not to find one. Being completely selfless while dating will get you walked all over.

[–]WorksAtBank[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

On a different train of thought, u/irisandoleander , I think

  • The selfless actions of a man come from the dutiful love (of family/wife) encouraged by a patriarchal society

  • The selfless actions of a woman can come from the nurturing facet of her feminine personality. Either in response to dread or her own enamored fervor.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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