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[–]violetpiecrisis3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I love this article, as a SAHM. I can chuckle at the "I have cheerios in my hair, but their smile makes it worth it." posts on facebook and the like. But, I do get tired of the validation fishing "BEING A MOM IS THE HARDEST JOB EVER!" posts that come with it.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Don't get me wrong I can totally relate to the article and understand and take on a lot of points. But damn does this person not have a sense of humour

[–]Kittenkajira[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think what the author is saying is that we complain in the guise of humor rather than admitting we need help or learning to do better.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I really liked this part

Rather than considering the idea that their lives could perhaps be better if they would only learn new skills and habits (or, more radically, that perhaps contemporary models of childrearing and housekeeping have failed them and they ought to seek help from different, older sources), adherents of “the myth” are more likely to lash out in fury at those who suggest it is entirely possible to overcome their maternal roadblocks.

I find a lot of friends who will say "I don't know how my mom did it" "How the hell did my grandma put up with 6 kids" Instead of going -- Mom, how did you do it? They just sulk on facebook. They don't ask for help. And then they turn around 3 days later bitching about all this unwanted advice.

My mom was a super woman because was also very good at knowing when it was the time and place to say "HELP! I have 5 kids and I need help". My dad was helpful, she had a church of helpful women. They all were there for each other. We all need to be there to help. Moms today don't NEED to do it alone.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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