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[–]Littleknownfacts14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

The first sales person, whooo they need to go to sensitivity training. I understand the up-sell, but damn you don't insult your customers, before or after the sale!

It's really nice that people are starting to understand that it's not about the ring or the wedding either. It's about the people coming together however makes them happy. I think we should all keep in mind though, that if a couple does want to bring in their new marriage with all the bells and whistles, that you shouldn't shame them either.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think we should all keep in mind though, that if a couple does want to bring in their new marriage with all the bells and whistles, that you shouldn't shame them either.

Agreed. I have two friends who have CZ rings. One is a really sweet couple that always shows respect to each-other in and out of public. The other... doesn't. Having an inexpensive ring does not equal better. It's the gratitude and attitude toward the ring, dress, wedding, flowers, ect that are a better indicator of the relationship

[–]sunfloweriesLate 20s / Engaged / 3 Years10 points11 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

One of my old co-workers gave me such a hard time when I showed up with my ring. And again when she found out we weren't doing an engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette/bachelors parties, big dance party reception, etc. She asked why we were even bothering to get married.

[–]StingrayVC9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

She asked why we were even bothering to get married.

LOL. Right, because what's the point of the next 40-50 years?

[–]sunfloweriesLate 20s / Engaged / 3 Years6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Right??? I thought she was joking at first and laughed, but she was super serious. Mind you, she was also the first person to just complain about her husband all day long.

[–]TempestTcup 8 points8 points [recovered] | Copy Link

LOL! That's ridiculous!

We went to a pawn shop on the way to Las Vegas :)

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I actually find that so fricken romantic!

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't understand why any woman has to defend her ring ever. Like - I'm not asking you to wear it! lol

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

it doesn't make if a ring is $100 or $100,000. the point is that women are putting too much concern into the ring period. Women shouldn't even ask a man how much the ring costs. Who the fuck cares?

Just like these drama queens crying rivers over having a $100 dollar ring, I cringe just as hard over special snowflake women trying to out compete each other over who has the cheaper ring as a way of showing how much they aren't like those other girls

Your man wants to marry you. He buys a ring. He proposes. You say yes. The end.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

yes! I saw a post over in another sub once (ok fine, it was /r/wedding, I lurk there sometimes) and this cow was going on about how her fiance saved and saved and proposed with a ring that just "wasn't her". everyone was telling her to have him return it, or pull out the diamond and have it reset.

disgusting. this guy has given her something that says "I love you enough to have only you forever" and she's worried that the metal is the wrong colour or some shit.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

some broads are dumb.

i used to care about a ring and now i don't even care about that. give me the marriage license and live with meeeeeee!!!

[–]tradmarriageftwEarly 30s, Married, 7 years0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I subscribed to that subreddit when we got engaged. It's not the reason we eventually eloped, but it definitely helped! XD

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

The commentary goes both ways. Women love to comment regardless of ring size. I get questions all the time about how big my center stone really is, or how much my ring is worth. I felt so uncomfortable when I first got engaged and everyone was always asking to see my ring. Especially when women would compare their ring to mine. I never knew what to say, so I would just smile and let them talk. I even got flack from people when I announced my engagement to friends and family on social media, but purposely did not post a photo of my ring, because I didn't think it was anyone's business. I also think that some people who don't know me very well assume that I probably threw a fit and made some bitchy demands for my ring, when actually it was the exact opposite. All I did was provide very, very general style suggestions and my SO did the rest. Everyone has different priorities and different budgets. For my SO and I the ring was high priority, and we were able to stick within a budget that worked for us. No one else, but the insurer, should care!

I know this sounds like one giant humble brag, and for that I apologize. I still just needed to vent about how uncomfortable and self conscious people made me feel after I got engaged.

[–]TempestTcup 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy Link

When a friend got married in the early 80s, her husband proposed with a beautiful ruby ring, and everyone had to talk about how it wasn't a traditional ring. She got pretty tired of that, too!

[–]Nymdox1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The funny thing is that, carat for carat, rubies are way more rare and valuable than diamonds!

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I'm up to 95 carats in my wedding ring joke with my SO. Everytime we mention it it goes up a carat. When someone displays a huge ring on tv or a movie or something I say in an Arnold Schwarzenegger voice "LOOK AT DAT PUNY LITTLE PEBBLE ON HER HAAND? DOESN'T IT LOOK PUNY??" Usually garners some laughs from my SO.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Get you one of those little handtrucks or a dolley to cart it around lol

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm thinking I'll need a ring Sherpa

[–]myrpwi_accountLate 20's, married less then a year2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

My engagement ring is my great-grandmothers. She never divorced, my grandfather and grandmother where married until she died (and he never remarried) and my parents are getting close to their 30 year anniversary. My ring symbolizes a long line of women with long and happy marriages, I just hope I can follow in their foot steps.

It isn't very fancy and was appraised to be about $250. I already had a response if anyone made a snide comment: "Oh you meant to say congratulations! Yes I am very excited to be getting married." However I have heard nothing by compliments about it so I never had to use that line.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

my mother left me her very modest engagement ring when she died. my dad bought it for her from a pawn shop when they were young and had nothing. I love it more than anything and would be thrilled if my SO ever proposed with it.

[–]tradmarriageftwEarly 30s, Married, 7 years2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was always a fan of the inexpensive ring. Like the ring you get out of a bubble gum machine kind of proposal. When we got engaged my husband didn't have a ring so when we were shopping around I chose this $30 ring. He was surprised, but I said the ring didn't matter. I'll be damned if the prongs on the ring didn't get caught on everything. Needless to say when we chose wedding bands I let him lead the way and he ended up choosing the $280 wedding band set on etsy and it is much more comfortable. Go figure!

[–]Starfishlovesu0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

My engagement ring and wedding band were from a pawn shop. They cost 130$. I love them. The fact that he was willing to pick out and purchase rings for me, is enough. He loves me. I love him. The rings are just a symbol.

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