The importance of how we dress

QueenBee126 · 2016-09-20T12:27:42+00:00

I may have stressed a bit here about that process (sorry!), but it all worked out :)

Heheheh I remember! ;-)

On the drive back hubs said something like "you looked gorgeous, I really liked your dress, and you didn't look like you were going clubbing." Later he said that it I looked like a wife, not a girlfriend.

This is such a nice compliment!

So, anyway, I think that dressing appropriately is part of unspoken communication which men really pick up on and it would be good to hear other ladies ideas on this.

This comment reminds me of another comment I heard one time; that men struck put women in two categories, wives and flings. None are more beautiful than the other, the fling gets more attention on average because men are trying to get with her. But the wife type gets respect (and the better deal in the end!)

littleeggwyf · 2016-09-20T14:45:28+00:00

I can see some merit to this thinking. I went to what I thought was advertised as a semi-formal gala last Saturday. To my SHOCK, there were so many women there dressed in club clothes. Like very raunchy club clothes.

One the way out, I happened to meet a really REALLY (like laawwwd, this man is beautiful) man who I gave my number to and spoke to on the phone a few times now. We plan on a date tomorrow.

But he told me, at the gala, he felt like getting women is easy for him but the women there were too "aggressive" with their intentions. He felt it was a turn off, because he doesn't like women pushing to call the shots. Dressing up SO provocatively means you want to direct the engagement with him. He isn't a fan.

I happened to be wearing a full gown (thanks for the tip /u/Camille11325 !!) so men treated me very differently and I appreciated that.

I thought that was an interesting way for him to put it.

littleeggwyf · 2016-09-20T14:04:28+00:00

For R, he likes that I know how to dress for whatever it is that we're doing. If we're going to the gun range on a day date I'm not in a sundress and sandals, but riding boots, jeans and a cute sweater - layers since we are outside. If our day date is the zoo then it's a great opportunity to throw on the sundress and walk-able sandals.

So many women flop when it comes to dressing for the event. There is a time and a place for lots of outfits sounds like something you grasp and your husband appreciates :)

sunfloweries · 2016-09-20T15:39:18+00:00

But maybe on a young woman that is fine?

I think that even for a young woman, it can say a lot about who she is if she doesn't know how to dress well for an occasion.

A lot of young women I've known take any opportunity to play dress up with towering heels and creeping mini-skirts to show off and seek attention. And there's a difference between playing dress up and dressing well.

You can step into a pair of $600 heels and a $300 mini dress, but if all the guys see is a piece of meat rather than the whole pictures when they see you, you're going to leave a certain impression.

RedPillRhonda · 2016-09-20T19:20:21+00:00

What a compliment! I'm glad my mother taught me the importance of modesty from a young age. I've never been one to show excess skin, even when others were. It's served me well! My partner has called me classy on several occasions and it's incredibly flattering.

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Later he said that it I looked like a wife, not a girlfriend

That's a great compliment! Love it.

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