In one or two sentences, what is the best relationship advice you have received?

2016-08-17T02:00:47+00:00

I'll say it again and again...

Focus less on finding the one, and more on being the one.

ragnarockette · 2016-08-17T02:59:43+00:00

"The one who loves the least controls the relationship." Pretty morbid advice, and not super applicable to my marriage, but learning that was a sea-change for me overall.

BrittSprink · 2016-08-17T13:02:19+00:00

"You can restart a blazing fire from a few embers."

My parents have been together since they were 12 and 13, so they have certainly had their ups and downs. My mom always warned me that a long term relationship will have low points, but with hard work, you can make it amazing again.

Camille11325 · 2016-08-17T02:09:40+00:00

"The way to a man's heart is through his stomach" is so true! Cultivate your skills in the kitchen and it will set you apart and keep him hooked :)

StingrayVC · 2016-08-17T01:59:22+00:00

Be grateful.

2016-08-17T05:51:12+00:00

from my dad on why he and my mother's marriage was so strong and harmonious:

"we never tried to be one another. we were different creatures and we liked that."

they were wildly different people in terms of personality, but had the same solid principles and complemented each other very well.

rialuxe · 2016-08-17T14:34:01+00:00

"It's not about me. It's about us."

2016-08-17T12:01:48+00:00

Nagging can and often does come from a place of altruism.

I think that hearing that made me reevaluate a lot about how I communicate. Those gentle reminders are still nagging.

sexyshoulderdevil · 2016-08-17T11:21:58+00:00

"If he complains give him head"

This might require me to edit and add the back story. I can later today 😊

2016-08-17T19:58:11+00:00

From my grandmother: Don't be a bulldozer like your mother.

MyRPWAccount · 2016-08-17T22:34:19+00:00

"Once you say yes, you can't take it back." (said in the context of cheating, but I've applied it to quite a few things in my life)

Either that, or "Please, don't be like your mother."

(Backstory on the second: Growing up, I was my mother's showpony, basically existing only to make her look good and to parrot everything she said. When I met my husband, who is exactly like my dad in more ways than one, my mom gave me advice on how to 'tame' him. On my wedding day, my dad gave me a hug and told me the above sentence. It's stuck with me, not in the least because it gave me insight into how he feels about his marriage, and it saddens me. I hope my husband never feels that way.)

Gravida · 2016-08-17T18:31:53+00:00

Communication is key. That means knowing when to keep quiet and how to bring up concerns in a thoughtful manner (don't nag, don't complain, don't use "communication is key" as a means to control things).

Seeking to understand is better than seeking to be understood as "being understood" in our minds likely equates to having your man back down on an issue and agree with you rather than stepping down and realizing what is truly right.

TheTerrorSquad · 2016-08-18T21:09:46+00:00

It was ironically from my husband and he said "never explain yourself and NEVER justify your actions.

BellaScarletta · 2016-08-17T01:55:15+00:00

Input = Output

It's never you versus me, it's always us versus the problem

2016-08-18T19:28:22+00:00

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