I was inspired to start a topic about this based on this comment by MsSadieDunham in this thread.
https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWives/comments/4ko9va/the_chair_situation/
The comment was I know I need to cut the bull shit. Why is it so hard for us to do that?
I think most of us here understand the wisdom that abounds in this sub, so why is it so difficult to apply? Why do we keep trying and sometimes failing?
One theory I have is that it's partly because men and women tend to communicate differently. I think a lot more communication between women is non verbal and tone and body language is much more important to women then it is to men. We are much more aware of it and tend to read into situations more deeply.
For example a few years ago my husband and I went out with a large group of his friends. It was a mixture of singles and established couples getting together for a meal. Over the course of the meal I noticed that one of the couples, lets call them A+B had some really bad body language towards each other. I was 99% sure they'd had a row and a big one at that.
After we left the meal and were driving home I was asking my husband if he knew what was wrong with A+B. He hadn't heard that anything was wrong and when I tried to explain what I'd seen he just hadn't seen it and thought I was reading too much into it.
A week or two later A+B split up.
This made me realise that in any given situation, I'm constantly on the lookout for the deeper hidden meaning. My husband is the opposite and he tends to only see what is on the surface.
So whenever he does anything, say something incredibly minor such as forgetting to take the rubbish out, for some reason I'm looking for the deeper meaning behind it. Did he forget because he just doesn't care about me? The truth of course is usually much more simple, he just forgot.
So I constantly have to try to get out of my own mindset and see the world through his way of thinking. Thus I trip myself up and make the same mistakes again and again.
What other reasons do you think make it hard for us to cu the BS?
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