•How old are you and how familiar are you with RPW? 35 years, RPW 6 weeks
•What is your relationship status? Married
•What is the problem? (Don’t badmouth your SO!) I keep having this conversation with my SO. I feel compelled to be lead by him, however, he tells me I'm doing a good job at following, but I won't let him lead me. I am having trouble knowing the difference and wanted to get clarification and direction from this subreddit. I know trust has a lot to do with letting someone lead you. For example; he sends me posts (from MRP) about female behavior and tells me that I fit this to a T. I read them and then try and apply it to how I have behaved and then question that all of the theory presented in the post is true. He tells me the fact that I am questioning him means I cannot be lead. I don't want to follow blindly and want to be well informed, however my questioning of these theory's (which is what he believes) feels fear based (still analyzing what I am afraid of). Any help on this is appreciated.
•How have you contributed to the problem? I don't trust him completely and I question.
•How long has this been an issue? Our whole relationship, 9 years
•What have you done to resolve this problem? Trying to be more vulnerable. Be a high value spouse, defer, self improve.
If married or in a committed, monogamous relationship: •How long have you been together? 9 years
•Is your relationship long-distance? No
•Do you have an active bedroom life? We do now, not always this way.
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