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Husband Not Affectionate | Laura Doyle (self.RedPillWives)

submitted by _wingnut_


[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Gold advice from the author of The Surrendered Wife.

Her section on respect is priceless

[–]Camille113252 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What a wonderful post, thank you for sharing it!

[–]StingrayVC0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

You should write a post about how men want to be respected vs how women think men want to be respected.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

yes i should

[–]StingrayVC1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

LOL. So cryptic. . . .

[–]TempestTcup 4 points4 points [recovered] | Copy Link

Being around RPW and reading hundreds of advice posts from women, it's apparent that people don't see that the other person is responding to the way you are acting. Being more distant and standoffish yourself makes your husband more distant and standoffish. Being disrespectful to your husband (he can't see your eyes roll when you turn away but he can sense it) results in dismissal from him.

If you want closeness and affection, then you give closeness and affection, and you will receive it back tenfold.

[–]StingrayVC3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's what happens when you treat your husband like your girlfriend.

And since it works with the GF, women are completely lost when it doesn't work on their husband. A devastating effect of teaching people that men and women are the same.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

So many people seem to miss that important life rule. Many women who are anti-submission always say "well why can't he start first? Why does it have to be me?" Which is the most ignorant response. You can't MAKE him start first. But you can make yourself start first. DUH. I love the picture for this post too. How warm and loving does the woman look in this picture? No wonder he doesn't want to hug her! :-D

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fretting is not going to make your husband more affectionate. But dancing the Macarena at the grocery store? It definitely could.

After all, you were all smiles and laughter when he first put the moves on you.

Aww, that's sweet. Thanks for the reminder to keep this in mind WingN.

[–]Littleknownfacts2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I remember the first time I came across the concept of GOLF. Blew. My. Mind. Suddenly it's okay if not every single chore gets done, or if you accidentally drop dinner on the way to the table (I've really done that before). It's all just opportunities to let him love you more.

[–]Zselda2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree. Sometimes I lean too much in the GOLF direction so I have to check myself to be disciplined. But you can't get too rigid. Being a nanny taught me a lot. If you spill dinner you can't just start getting all tense and breaking down. Kids don't want to deal with that and they still need dinner. Have to say "whoa that was silly! Let's make a new fun dinner together" and move on...can be applied to so many situations.

[–]littleteafox2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Me too! it was a revelation and felt like permission to lighten up and not worry about being perfect all the time.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Could you spell out what the acronym GOLF means? I've never heard it.

[–]tintedlipbalm2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Goddess of Fun and Light, the concept Laura Doyle uses to mean being a spontaneous, lighthearted wife who doesn't take herself too seriously all the time.

She did an AMA some time ago and introduced it to the community, and she refers to it on this article.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Goddes of Fun and Light, thank you! I remember the AMA, I was following it while she was active. Very cool. I do remember it now that you said it. Red Pill loves their acronyms lol

[–]Lin3332 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Legit shit. Happened to me. Can confirm it works 😂

[–]Zselda1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"I have a serious concern about your lack of affection." That should work as well as when a guy with whom you declined a second date presents his manifesto on why you should actually like him and be attracted to him.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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