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I’m not sure if this is the right sub to ask this, point me in the right direction if it isn’t, but this is something I’m curious about.

I tend to get stared at quite a lot, but is there a way to tell if people are staring because they think you are gross, or because they think you are good looking? Is there a visual way to distinguish those kinds of stares?


[–]genericlatino7 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Very difficult to tell actually. I would say almost impossible. For the ones that like you its hard because some women are just friendly. Others are shy and feel embarrassed easily if they are attracted to you. The only way of knowing is basically approaching them and getting a feel if they want to talk to you through body language. If they get overly excited for a second only to seem cold that might mean they like you alot but are playing it cool or non nonchalant.

The best way is to approach them and see whether they give you one word answers and(this is very important) appear distracted. Some women are shy and will naturally give you one word answers but they usually wont be able to take their eyes off you or will be looking down to the ground. So if they give like one word answers + distracted it usually a no 100%. Still its hard cuz some women are just really friendly.

[–]CommonMisspellingBot2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

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[–]BooCMB4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

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[–]Tiber-Septimus0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is good advice thanks.

[–]bathorygoat0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

High iq autismcel

[–]PovertyRyanGosling2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's difficult but go talk to them

[–]SinglehoodVeteran1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Looking at the rest of the face can help a bit. If the person has a slight scowl, furrowed brown, downturned lips, narrowed eyes, or one side of lop pulled up as if in displeasure/disgust, that's obviously a bad stare. The person doesn't look away as often either.

A good stare will have wider eyes, bigger pupils, a slight smile or upward quirk to the lips, smooth brow, slightly raised eyebrows, and will be willing to make intermittent eye contact, but not constant.

Remember, for both sexes prolonged direct eye contact can be viewed as threatening or challenging, so if a woman was staring at you in a friendly way and you "catch" her doing so, she'll look away so as to not come off as aggressive or assertive. If she doesn't give a shit or actually wants to be viewed as intimidating, she'll just keep staring rudely. This is also why some awkward men, who unintentionally keep staring at or maintaining unblinking eye contact with a woman even when being friendly otherwise, might be seen as "creepy" since their eye language is coming off as aggressive.

[–]PovertyRyanGosling0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Good answer, but I don't know about the first part man. I've seen girls have that stare at actual good looking men before (when i say theyre good looking, theyre good looking, 6 foot buff strong jaw, nice hair and eyes etc)

[–]SinglehoodVeteran1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

You've seen women who stare at stereotypically attractive men with the negative indicators mentioned in my first paragraph? In that case, perhaps they know the guy personally and don't like him, or maybe he's unattractive to them. Not all of us are attracted to the same type...in fact, 6' with a buff body and strong jaw is rather the opposite of what I find sexy. The other possibility is they're a misandric Feminist or lesbian, and just are disgusted by men in general. Unfortunately there are quite a number of those women nowadays.

[–]PovertyRyanGosling1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Idk, some women just dont know how to give off signals tbh.

[–]SinglehoodVeteran1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Also true. To be fair, nonverbal signals aren't taught to us or to men, and some interactions can be extremely confusing if you don't know them. Or you get accused of flirting by random dudes when you're literally just being kind. So much miscommunication, when actual words work far better.

[–]PovertyRyanGosling0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

true lol

[–]bathorygoat1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Old post, but you'll just know.

If you're saying "that doesn't make sense because I've never had that feeling", then you know what means.

[–]JazzonBH0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm gonna assume we're talking about girls here.

Not much science behind it. If you can, try to soft-approach a girl that looks at you trough a friend or something. If you have no leads to grab onto just go and introduce yourself. From that point on it should be fairly easy to decipher what kind of a stare it was.

Once things work out enough times, or you get rejected enough times, your assumptions are gonna start becoming more and more precise.

Just analysing your looks based on the lookism principles should make it easy enough to determine if you look bad enough that people would stare at you for it, but since you're having a dilemma I'd assume that's most likely not to case. But you can't be sure until you man up.

[–]circlingldn0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

if you dont look like a freak, they look at you because you catch their eye, could be clothing or cause they like you

For most guys, women will never acknowledge their existance

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