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"I like you because you make me feel good"


submitted by BlueEstee

After having sex with a plate of mine, the oxytocin and dopamine rush made her tell me that she really likes me. "Really really really" likes me.

"Oh yeah?", I asked acting surprised, "Why is that?".

"I like you because...", she made a pause to think about the reasons. Finally she listed them:

  • I like you because you made me a good breakfast.
  • I like you because I sleep really well when you're next to me.
  • I like you because you make me feel safe.
  • I like you because you fuck me really well.

Fun fact: On multiple occasions I saw spicy text notifications on her phone from a guy named Raphael. AWALT, but that's not the point of this post.

Before TRP I would be head over heels, because a girl appreciated my efforts! See, there are so many reasons why I earned her appreciation! So obviously the more I please her, the more she's gonna like me!

However after learning about TRP, here's what I actually heard:

"I like you because you make me feel good".

She didn't mention my character traits, my passions, my actions directed to anything expect herself. She likes me, because I make her feel good. Soon, I will become familiar and thus giving her less intense emotions. My turn will end.

The more I will try to please her to gain her affection, the less she's gonna like me. That's how it works. Thank you TRP for helping me recognize that.

Stay safe, brothers.

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[–]graceful_aggression 170 points171 points  (2 children)

A good reminder that TRP allows a more conscious awareness of common AWALT behavior; over time, occurrences such as these becomes less of a surprise, and you gradually build amused mastery.

[–]dirty_ja_galis 335 points336 points  (25 children)

Yep. She likes you because you validate her.

You validate her simply by being a great catch and she being the lucky girl to suck your dick.

Continue being a great catch.

[–]dev_blockchain_ai 53 points54 points  (23 children)

Yeh dude her reasons for liking YOU were literally nothing about you

But honestly those are the best you’re gonna get from a woman in the modern world for now. Only guys can respect your skills and hobbies and character traits about YOU and how they make you self sufficient

Evolutionarily she’s in love with you precisely because she knows you can knock her up and give her babies and they’d eat well, sleep well, and feel comfortable and low drama around you. So in a way you got the highest compliment possible women are capable of. :/

They just can’t do better. IF you decide to lock this down just warning about Raphael. You better make sure that isn’t going on 100%. Or you’re just gonna get cucked.

[–][deleted] 24 points25 points  (20 children)

I don't think you understand, bud. The thing is, she isn't LTR worthy. Go read the studies of what happens to most women after around the 3 or 4 year mark in relationships. Attraction plummets. So really, optimally, you should at most be looking for an MTR that you switch up every now and then before it sizzles out...

[–]dev_blockchain_ai 31 points32 points  (11 children)

Well I wouldn’t touch her if she’s had too many past ex’s

I married a virgin (first wife was not a virgin and it got me to trp and I figured shit out) and have kids now because I don’t want the entire globe to be Turkmenistan or Zimbabwe in 30 years but if an orgasm with a banging chick keeps the dopamine flowing more power to you. I get more dopamine knowing my genes will live on forever. Dunno why. Also fortunately my wife still asks regularly for sex even at the 8 year mark (of us fucking not how long we’ve been married) and even complains I don’t have sex ENOUGH with her. Also AWALT still applies big league.. this is why I spend a ton of time in the garage building shit, at the gym, or with kids or literally fucking other women :(. If I didn’t I know she’d already be sick of my ass.

End of blog

[–]Scorchyy 8 points9 points  (7 children)

So basically you cheat on your wife and admit it?

[–]dev_blockchain_ai -4 points-3 points  (6 children)

I have a life that would put you into a jealous rage

[–]FalconWrite 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh no. You were doing so well up until this

[–]Scorchyy 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Fuckin looser, those who say that are the most insecure and unhappy

[–]dev_blockchain_ai -3 points-2 points  (2 children)

I’ll show you how to use tinder if you apologize and watch my car so it won’t get towed

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[–]22oregon22 8 points9 points  (6 children)

My last relationship started to implode at around the 3 year mark. Less sex, blow jobs near non existent, GF lazy as hell, holding resentment about me pursuing a doctorate and not giving her enough time, etc. She broke up with me at around the 4.5 year mark because I was a bitch back then. Now she’s dating a more wealthy older guy because she is hot and can get away with whatever she wants.

Anyways, loved the write. Even though my example is anecdotal I see it all the time.

TRP changed my mode of thinking and quite frankly my life.


[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (5 children)

Like I said man, don't take it personally. That's how women are wired. Wouldn't have mattered if you were Brad Pitt. Hell, look what happened to him...

[–]22oregon22 5 points6 points  (4 children)

Absolutely. At 26, just starting my career, I’ll be that man in my mid to late thirties who is established financially with status and doing the same thing to guys like me at my age. Women can’t fight hypergamous inclinations— it’s biology.

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[–]22oregon22 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Haha well done my friend. At what city is this taking place in?

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[–]Incel9876 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go read the studies of what happens to most women after around the 3 or 4 year mark in relationships. Attraction plummets. So really, optimally

Women are meant to be getting pregnant on around a semi-annual basis. And if a man hasn't knocked her up after 3 or 4 years, then historically he was probably infertile and she should move on.

[–]mtriad 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree, except to the nowadays part. Women always been like this and it will always be, it is part of their nature and logically, I don't think there's anything wrong with it, just live with it.

[–]∞ Mod | RP Vanguardbsutansalt[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeh dude her reasons for liking YOU were literally nothing about you

The inverse is also true. So many times guys get wrapped around the axle because they got rejected, but in many instances it had no thing to even do with the guy. Could be anything from bad logistics, her dog just died, parents announced a divorce, whatever. My point is never take rejection personally.

A/B test your methodology and if you're getting consistent results and something of an outlier happens, you can lay even odds it wasn't something you did or didn't do.

[–]deterlaettis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Am i the only one here who would feel rage to my stomach for hearing "her" spout nonsense like that. Reading it and internalizing it in my head just feels wrong to me, l just feel like saying some truth to her, give her some guidance, I embrace Patrice O'Neals wisdom in saying "guide the bitch" because it is what it is. AWALT and it's our job to make them housewives instead of hoes by giving them the proper mental stoic guidance. Do not sugarcoat nothing.

[–]syf3r 68 points69 points  (2 children)

From Rian Stone, add "right now" at the end of positive statements...

I like you because you make me feel good right now.

[–]sebastianconcept 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Male mind wants to go timeless and her mind is deeply contextual and transient.

[–]MrAnderzon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's the best response to this post

[–]Andgelyo 118 points119 points  (4 children)

Underrated post here. This is a great reminder that women only like how you make them feel. Feels before reals. We must continue to shoot “feel good” bullets at them to succeed with women.

[–]bouncypoo 0 points1 point  (2 children)

intermittently of course, as too much feel good leads to Mr. Nice guy aka Mr. Friendzone. As long as you make them feel something

[–]ChesterRickman 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I don't think he means the blue-pill idea of feel good bullets, rather the red pill ones, which involve red pill behaviours.

[–]Andgelyo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I meant the drug inducing euphoria like bullets from us, not the fake, insincere bullshit blue pill subhumans pull

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[–]sebastianconcept 5 points6 points  (4 children)

Link to that 2/3 golden rule?

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[–]sebastianconcept 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh nice. Good to keep frame and for ongoing plates.

[–]nicktesoriero 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Great post highlighting something many guys and myself used to not understand

[–]5Imperator_Red 58 points59 points  (19 children)

I like you because I sleep really well when you're next to me. I like you because you make me feel safe. I like you because you fuck me really well.

Haha wow. Got these exact 3 from my LTR.

[–]rygy3 87 points88 points  (3 children)

Looks like you gotta step up your breakfast game

[–]dev_blockchain_ai 6 points7 points  (2 children)

lol I’ve never once made breakfast for LTR, but she makes me crepes or eggs or oatmeal literally every morning. I made myself a giant bacon omelet several times and only offered her some when she sat next to me. guess I need to step up the breakfast game too :(

[–]Shtafoo 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Wow dude you actually transcended being a human being and are now a god in her eyes. Congratulations your life and omelette must be great.

[–]dev_blockchain_ai -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My life is so good you’d go into a jealous rage if you saw it

Don’t worry I don’t visit here to argue w jealous ppl like you

I’m here to see how close we are to a full collapse of civilization

[–]redvelvet_oreo 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m in a LTR but still game other women for fun. Recently some young chick told me “I like you. Your like the cool guy from a TV show that says ‘come here dumb slut, go and do this’” (I didn’t call her dumb slut. I just a nick name I made up for her and started calling her it)

The stupid shit that attracts women. Gotta love it.

[–]hidemyface1234 4 points5 points  (1 child)

She said them to every guy before you too

[–]FractalNerve 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Exactly the same 3 from my Ex.. Wow

[–]Gr0o0vy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you guys sure you were not banging the same girl lol?

[–]ethical_pa 0 points1 point  (6 children)

Hmm... I will try asking my FB why she likes me.

[–]5Imperator_Red 18 points19 points  (2 children)

I've heard the sleeping better thing from multiple girls. It's probably a primal instinct. In prehistoric times they were actually safer if they were sleeping next to a man.

[–]Shako12 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Same. I wonder if there has been a study on this.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Better not bring it up, makes you look insecure.

[–]sebastianconcept 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure about it. Depending on how you ask it can, but you could do it very securely and in a tone in which you subcomunicate that you know what works on you but you are either playfully testing her or curious about what in your arsenal worked on her. I ask this to every plate. For example I show the girl a bunch of my pictures and I ask which one likes more and why? They reveal a lot. And with Instagram, many times they take the initiative reacting with emojis of hearts eyes, kiss or fire

[–]ethical_pa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah. I can say whatever I want to her. Insecurity isn't in what you say it's in the place it's coming from. I'm fine.

[–]Flying_Wingback 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yup, I’ve heard the exact same things from a recent LTR but I think I finally arrived at that point of too much familiarity and a slight loss of frame this weekend. All that talk seems to be a thing of the past now and shit tests were off the charts just last night. Time to look for some new challenges.

[–]Lubomir1994 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Underrated post. Simple but of eternal wisdom.

[–]JimiJons 16 points17 points  (1 child)

Always remember: Familiarity breeds contempt.

[–]TheTrenTrannyTrain 36 points37 points  (5 children)

Women love opportunistically; they love you for WHAT you can do for her.

[–]Scorchyy -3 points-2 points  (3 children)

Men do too, if the girl wasn’t giving you sex you’d get rid of her

[–]toobass 9 points10 points  (2 children)

Have you ever heard of an orbiter?

[–]Scorchyy -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Yeah, the moon is an orbiter of earth

[–]Snowaey 4 points5 points  (0 children)

and so are beta men around girls they are interested in

[–]Nov51605 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It doesn't get any more rational male than that. As real deal men, we have to be just as icy as we are seductive and passionate. This is prob the point where you wanna do a massive week long pull back / ghost just to stretch things out. seems like it would be good timing

[–][deleted] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I really really really like this post

[–]beachbbqlover 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I unironically just texted my LTR something kind of similar because her parents are separating - telling her that her cooking and cleaning for me is actually just icing on the cake. That the big thing is intimacy, and I think we'll be alright.

Im not saying itll work for any of you, but for some reason she ate that up.

[–]oooKenshiooo 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Yep. Right on the money.

Hence, when vetting for LTR material, ask her what she likes about you. If has not figured out the positive sides of your character well enough to turn that into a compliment, she is no more than a plate.

[–]metallicdrama 10 points11 points  (0 children)

In the end it's all about her. If you serve her needs you're still relevant. Women always resent you for having to be loyal when they're locked into marriage and family.

[–]redvelvet_oreo 15 points16 points  (1 child)

Lol anytime a plate or LTR tells me this shit I just acknowledge it with yeah I know I’m awesome. Haha the irriational self confidence makes that pussy wet.

[–]5Imperator_Red 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In earlier times irrational self confidence would get your head caved in by superior men, so a woman observing such self confidence could be reasonably certain that it was not irrational and he was a high quality male. Now there are no penalties for irrational self confidence. Their brains are tricked.

[–]redbearsociety 7 points8 points  (0 children)

To be fair, you have complete control over how you make her feel. Girls get bored of guys because the guys stop engaging with them, they just think 'I have the woman part of my life ticked so I don't need to do anything now'. Trying to gain affection doesn't make her feel good so don't get stuck in that validation cycle. But you can 'own' a girl so to speak by keeping her excited.

[–]piggiebiggie 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Why shouldn't she like you because you make her feel good though? This is a serious question. The reasons she listed, did you ask why those things made her feel good? You say that she didn't mention your character traits, but look at the list of things you provided.

breakfast, sleep well, feel safe, good fucks

The things she listed speak to what she thinks of you at a deeper level. It may be good to ask.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Appreciate it for as long as you can, then let it slide away. Some gals will be done in a week, some may last many months. Stay aware and observant....you're know when it's time to move on.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Before I found trp, a girl I was seeing wrote me a list of 150ish reasons she loved me.

At the time, I was pleased as I viewed this as proof that I was appreciated - however reading this list now, I realize that, without exception, every point boiled down to:

you make me feel good, because you are a high value man whose validation is important to me

Seriously. That was pretty much it. She's now one of my most obnoxious widows, and bounces wildly back and forth between 'you're such a great guy I wish we'd worked out' and 'you're a literal psychopath and I'm well rid of you'.

(And before any of you tell me I shouldn't be responding to her: I don't, unless she's in my town and offering a 'catch up over coffee' which is her code for 'the best goddamn blow job you've ever received'. Sue me, but even with the enormous amount of women I've bedded, her head skills remain completely untouchable, and I'm more than happy to benefit from that every so often when she's in town without her husband's oversight)

[–]fryhldrew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man, I would give you gold if I had some

[–]ExpresssMess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love you because I need you < I need you because I love you

[–]Razkolol 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Turn on some negative emotions, you’ve left that whole part untouched. Drop in some dread, ignore some messages/calls, small negs, etc. She’ll like you because you make her feel good/bad/anxious/etc., give her the whole range, especially since she’s already talking with some other guy.

[–]TheCookShow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You make, you fuck, you make... All things that you do, not something that you ARE.

A sad truth that I accepted only recently... Thank you for sharing.

[–]foxhound525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I learned this lesson the hard way many years ago. Men love women for who and what they are, women love men for what they can do for them. We're simply tools to them, and worthy of no more consideration than that.

[–]Crixusgannicus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True Red Pill will have you realize there are only two reasons ANYONE likes ANYTHING or ANYONE ever.

  1. You like the way it/someone makes you feel.
  2. You like it/someone because it/someone prevents you from feeling some feeling you don't want to feel.

That's why you like your car, your food, your clothes, your significant other, your dog. Think it over and realize I'm right. Try in vain to think of one thing that you like that doesn't either fall under number 1 or 2.

[–]Lieisnotreal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Soon, I will become familiar and thus giving her less intense emotions. My turn will end. "That's not necessarily true you can maintain the intensity of her emotions by creating mystery or just generally making her idealize yourself.

[–]juanwonone1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just exactly like a bitch....me me me.

[–]HarringtonHouseGuy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm browsing this Sub because I'm post-breakup and trying to motivate myself, and I guess it's doing that in a way but damn...It's also just really depressing, eh?

[–]scorpionkg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, after you telling that, what are you going to do? Use TRP in your favor, maintain the frame, go cold e make her start to feeling mix feelings!

Game her, dont match all her needs!

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