How I failed and passed a shit test by being a grumpy bitch and losing frame.

Cloudy_Pirate · 2019-02-23T12:46:49+00:00

You didn't pass.

When she switches over from covert to overt communication, she is basically saying "you are such a dumbass, you are never going to understand unless I completely spell it out for you."

You would know this if you were reading the sidebar.

From The Rational Male (year 1): "Lastly, I should add that women are not above using overt communication when it serves their purposes. When a woman comes out and says something in such a fashion so as to leave no margin for misinterpretation, you can bet she’s been pushed to that point out of either fear or sheer exasperation when her covert methods wont work."

https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/06/the-medium-is-the-message/

The good news is that you know that she loves you and she really wants this to work out.

The bad news is that she has lost a ton of respect for you and you have many, many, many more shit tests coming. Time to man up. Start reading.

BobbyPeru · 2019-02-23T05:10:29+00:00

It sounds like she was looking for comfort at the end. Sometimes shit tests can turn into comfort tests like that. But, as you alluded, it’s not necessary to have a big fight to get there. General rule, don’t DEER or argue with a woman. It puts you in her frame because you are playing in her field (emotions). Don’t be surprised if this generates even more shit tests.

red-sfpplus · 2019-02-23T14:24:15+00:00

2 hour fight. I bet you average 4 of those a month.

Add in 3-5 30 minute fights per month.

Add in 8 hours lost post fight to recover and reboot.

That is 9 fights a month for an average of 10-12 hours plus an additional 56 hours a month of recovery time.

So figure 70 hours a month in bullshit fights and wife drama.

Out of approx 720 hours a month you are spending at least 10% of your time fighting.

Do you want me to continue to do math?

Or do you get the fucking point?

SKRedPill · 2019-02-23T11:06:43+00:00

Careful about the pain field that exists in the air at these times. I've seen this phenomenon happen too many times and have lost my frame and gotten sucked into it on many an occasion. IMHO no one ever described it better than Eckhart Tolle. It's a real thing, it happened today with my folks at lunch (since taking TRP I've had to accept that my dad's failings because in him I see a lot beta qualities). The thing is that women are sometimes aware of what's going on, but they can't control themselves rationally at that moment. It's literally a mind puke / victim puke at that moment.

Those are moments where it's very easy to lose frame and your own energy and get sucked into a vortex of negativity, reactivity and neediness. I just use these words because it is that bad.

It takes a lot of awareness to stay stoic and present in tough times, but again and again you realize that's exactly where you need to be at your strongest.

Life tests you hard where it needs you to be most aware.

Stress happens when you really want to be in a better place, while you're really in a shitty one - a lot of past baggage and future worries about the what ifs that you can't control anyway. A lot of it goes away if you accept that the only way out is through, put some distance between you and the past and stop trying to control what you can't.

And that's where women shit test you to the max, they'll relive the entire past and all their fears of the future and test your frame to the hilt. That's not easy, but just tell yourself one sentence in the future "This is not me, it's the pain. I'm present and just the witness" and stay in that. This is the masculine mechanism to shrug off pain and negativity, the stuff that APA and the media (who just want men to lose it and start crying like women) will never tell ya about.

redpillcad · 2019-02-24T22:10:15+00:00

Passing Shit tests should be fun. Whether you deflect, crush, sidestep or flip.

Think of it this way. Woman dont even know they are doing this. Its instinctive because they dont want weak ass beta sperm in their womb and they enjoy watching a dominant man in action

When a man sees a milf in tight Jean's bend over and whale tail, he likes it. He stares.

Same thing when women shit test, and get a playful ZFG response from a dude who knows women well and had seen it all before.

A womans insult or challenge should roll off your back smoooooooooth

ChokingDownRP · 2019-02-25T11:47:15+00:00

Sounds like you talked to much during the argument. I'd wager most anything that her words were just her regurgitating things you said to her in an effort to appease you. Her words say that she trusts you and recognizes you as captain. Her words, her words, her words.... You know what a woman's words are worth around here, right? She was just echoing the fight club talk you shared with her. Also, it's telling that OP considers this exchange a win for him... Since she provided some word validation.

SrsWHATISWRONGWITHU · 2019-02-26T04:27:31+00:00

I ultimately came away with a new sense and perspective of why my wife shit-tests.

She may just actually give you valuable information that you may have never even considered.

I can't believe no one here has pointed this out yet so.

ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME WITH THIS? "NEW INFORMATION" JFC

Spend TWO FUCKING HOURS reading mrp or the gd sidebar instead of TWO FUCKING HOURS (proudly!!!) arguing with your wife and you would have already KNOWN THAT "gold nugget of info that you never even considered" that she spelled out for you out of pity you gd idiot got damn.

markpf73 · 2019-02-23T15:56:10+00:00

So your wife was watching a graphic story about rape? Maybe that’s her fetish? Or maybe it’s her warmup porn to get herself warmed up to fuck her fatty...never forget how bad you suck right now.