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Now imagine being her and being married to a man she doesn't find remotely attractive?Basic Question (self.sex)

submitted by JameisBong

[19F] Ovulating for the first time since I was 14 and I cannot believe the intense arousal it brings is not more widely spoken about

3,767 points•458 comments•submitted by wtfisgoingondownther to r/sex

I’ve been on birth control since I was 14 (which stopped my ovulation) and just got off it for the first time very recently, and I woke up a day or two ago with my underwear literally soaked through. My first thoughts were honestly that I had wet the bed. On top of that, all I can think of is sex and am constantly aroused. My every second thought is sex-related and I can barely get anything done. Also, clitoral stimulation does absolutely nothing for me and the only way I feel actually satisfied is when there’s something inside of me

I know ovulation is just your body trying to get you pregnant but holy fuck. There’s something about it that’s so primal

I thought there was something wrong with me til I googled it and found out that all women who ovulate go through the same thing every month (though maybe on different levels of intensity). It’s weird how this seemingly isn’t ever discussed


[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Before TRP, my wife had sex with me once a week duty. I used to whine about it like a bitch. I’ll never forget the time we were watching a movie, and the guy was bitching about his wife not having sex. My wife turned to her friend and said “poor girl has to fuck that guy.” Even though it was pre-RP, it was eye opening for me.

Long story short, I stopped whining, and I just take it. Earlier tonight, I grabbed her, bent her over, and gave her a good spanking. She was soaking wet. We normally have sex a minimum of 3 times a week. I’m a lot buffer, but embracing masculinity and strong frame are the real clinchers.

But, yeah back to your point... at some point she’s going to need an alpha if her man is unattractive to her.

[–]JameisBong7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree. My ex wife was borderline and crazy... But she's a woman and she deserved better. I was fat and bitchy (less fat now and less bitchy) but i own my part in the demise of my marriage. I should have been in better shape and more masculine. I am not sure I'll ever get married again, but if i do i will absolutely be on my A game. No fat unattractive shit especially when she's ovulating.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Imagine being a woman?

Id rather spend my time being the man she wants to fuck.

[–]JameisBong0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ahahaha

[–]helaughsinhidden-1 points0 points  (17 children) | Copy Link

Am I the only one using an app to track my initiations, denials, positions, locations, enthusiasm, periods, and as indicated in her post, ovulations?

[–]0io-Tsundere6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

As long as you don't let her know you're doing it, I think it's a good idea (or at least worth doing for a while). There's guys who don't get laid who only initiate every three weeks (and then wonder how come they never seem to get laid or only have sex 6 times a year.) If you're initiating 12 times a week and having sex 8 times a week, that's a lot better than once a week or twice a month with no denials. Even though it's a geeky thing to do, there's a lot of truth to "what gets measured gets managed." Maybe she's always bitchy right before her period and you can just schedule more gym time then. If nothing else, you can keep yourself honest and see how things are changing over time.

[–]helaughsinhidden2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Seems too obvious to write that stuff but it's all correct. I all falls into the umbrella of not talking about fight club.

[–]suprathepeg1 point2 points  (14 children) | Copy Link

There is an app for all that?

[–]fuckmrpRed Beret9 points10 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

Yeah bro it’s called sperg tracker, creepo edition.

[–]RuleZeroDADRed Beret3 points4 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

Does no one remember "Spreadsheet Guy?"

He is literally one of the reasons "keeping score" is mentioned as a fatal "do not," and that women don't care if an unattractive husband finds it unfair.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Spreadsheet guy was the inspiration for me to start my own spreadsheet of the same thing.

However mine was never used to get my wife to have sex.

Mine was used to combat the gaslighting, manipulation and for trending to make sure that divorce was the right move.

You cant see the trees from the forest sometimes.

Spreadsheet guy had the right idea, wrong motivation.

[–]RuleZeroDADRed Beret3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Spreadsheet guy had the right idea, wrong motivation.

Yeah.

Like any tool, spreadsheets are neither good nor bad. "Spreadsheet Guy" is a pussy. Not because he tracks data. If someone wants a dispassionate list of facts, fucking great. Have at it.

I was called a faggot, because I don't track sex, periods, etc..., which is a first for me, but hilarious nonetheless. If I felt the need to collect evidence, keep tight records of interactions, and draw conclusions based on evidence, I kinda have an aptitude for that.

Focusing too much on the utility of a tool v. the mindset of the man. Spreadsheets can be enlightening, or a rabbit hole leading directly into the frame of some woman. I just think that those with a propensity to boil down and pour over data are often those who need to lift their heads from the books and take a "less educated" chance and just kiss the girl.

[–]weakandsensitive1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My wife likes and takes pride in the fact that I use her for my pleasure.

[–]NMMNG_10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

On point.

[–]0io-Tsundere1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Some guys run "clue" and swear by it. I've never tried it. There was some free app called habit bull that was pretty good. You put in goals, It pops up reminders on your phone and then you check off whether or not you met your goals kind of like Stronglifts 5x5. You can put in stuff like cold approach 3 women, or run 2 miles, or whatever you want. All of those "self-improvement" apps are useful to a point if you don't over-do it.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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