Wife Checking on Where I Am

justpickanyusername · 2019-03-16T14:35:15+00:00

And this is a problem? I will offer you my congratulations. DREAD achieved. Nice work.

In this scenario, you STFU and do nothing different. DREAD is the healthy undercurrent in the relationship. It doesn’t mean you are cheating or that you will cheat. But, it is always in the back of her mind, “what if some 20 year old hot chick puts some moves on my man while he is away?” It’s competition anxiety and it pushes her to wrap her lips around your cock to “remind” you she is still there.

You are wise to keep your eye out for comfort tests as these will increase the harder you push DREAD. Comfort should only go as far as to let her know that if she does her part in the relationship she has nothing to worry about, but as a man with options she can always be replaced.

Keep on the gas and provide comfort if she comes seeking it from you. Don’t be uncomfortable because she is uncomfortable.

SorcererKing · 2019-03-16T15:31:35+00:00

But why not just ask me?

Because she knows it's the hamster, she knows it's crazy, and she doesn't want you to know she's jealous/worried. To admit these things would be to give you more power in the relationship.

Don't get complacent. Instead, keep on the program and monitor her so you don't over-dread (i.e. add comfort in metered doses).

EDIT: Oh, and in this particular instance, you had argued earlier in the day, so you were elsewhere. She probably realized her role in being shitty, and the dread made her think you might be interviewing new vendors, as it were.

SteelSharpensSteel · 2019-03-16T14:33:27+00:00

Hamsters gonna hamster.

Try not to think about it too much. Women will always talk. If she has something to say, she can say it.

And don't bring it up. Keep foot on gas. Rinse and repeat.

Middle_Aged_Child · 2019-03-16T14:12:17+00:00

I’d generally take that as a good sign that things are working.

boy_named_su · 2019-03-17T05:30:23+00:00

This guy thinks women should communicate overtly lol

Dude, you're doing it right. Anxiety makes their cooters moist

RPWolf · 2019-03-18T12:42:19+00:00

But why not just ask me?

This is the hamster game all women play. You have to act like you don't care even though you do. As much as women say marriage isnt about power, it is.

My wife did this exact scenario this weekend. I made plans with my brother this weekend. My brother is older, single, doctor etc. He is a natural alpha. My wife always goes full hamster when I hang out with him. I met him for his birthday. I get home late and the next day no questions about the night before, until there were. Throughout the day she sets up questions to dig about the night before that seem nonchalant but I can see what they are. I can also see her hamster going off the rails over it. I let her spin away for a while and then finally wait till all the kids are occupied and fuck her silly. No more questions.

0io- · 2019-03-16T14:41:14+00:00

Her checking up on you is a good thing. She sees you getting in shape, wearing new clothes, going out on your own... naturally she's going to wonder if you've got a young girlfriend or are having a "midlife crisis" or something.

Keep your foot on the gas. If she's crying and losing sleep and convinced that you're cheating on her then you'd be wanting to apply more comfort. But if she's just asking her sister, "Hey, is he really out fishing with your husband? What are the boys really up to?" then everything is working great. Soon (if all goes well) she should start getting in better shape herself and dressing / acting sexier for you in an effort to chase you a little bit and make sure you stick around.

Keep up the good work!

MrChad_Thundercock · 2019-03-16T14:35:33+00:00

Welcome to Married Game.

Let that hamster run wild. It’s feelzing the dread.. and now sniffing out the competition.

That’s why she’s aiming to please you. Every relationship needs a healthy dose of dread. Makes everyone happy. If she’s behaving, give her a little comfort.

You’re finally getting what you always wanted so shut the fuck up.

mrpthrowa · 2019-03-16T14:32:36+00:00

Why is this phasing you so much?

[deleted] · 2019-03-19T13:46:20+00:00

Women do love Nancy Drew. This is not a problem this is a sign that she is invested. Ignore.

As a sidenote... both my wife and I have Google location sharing turned on as I am a "safety freak". I'm sure she checks when she wants. I don't really care and it saves a text or call.

RedPillCoach · 2019-03-17T02:13:19+00:00

Do I need to offer more comfort, or just STFU and keep my foot on the gas?

That depends on what you want. Your choice.

I think that sounds....right.

Why don't you?

Imaginary_Historian · 2019-03-16T15:47:08+00:00

You need to stop going through her phone. The only thing that does is drive you crazy, gets your own hamster wheel turning. I think the true RP man doesn't give two shits about what's in his wife's phone or what she talks about with her friends, sister or whoever. So just keep doing as you do and STFU.

Redpillbrigade17 · 2019-03-16T15:14:57+00:00

You haven’t unplugged.