New Wife Tips

stevierose789 · 2019-04-15T22:44:33+00:00

There will be the RPW standards that everyone will point out:

take care of yourself and stay fit,

be a soft place to land,

be his cheerleader,

be sexually available and be an active participant,

put healthy meals on the table that he will enjoy,

make your home a place he wants to come home to,

Now I am giving my advice which I think is the most important thing to a happy marriage:

Find passions in life that you both can enjoy and grow in as couple. This does not mean making his passions your passions, or vice versa. This means that each person has to make their favorite things known to the other and then you compare notes. Find things you both like.

Find a passion that is your own. One that gives you ownership, satisfaction and alone time when you need it. This does not mean that you are not entirely devoted ( well, yes I guess It does) when it comes to your husband and family. They do not need you one hundred percent of the time and it isn't even healthy. What is healthy is finding a sense of satisfaction and achievement in something you take on on your own.

Kara__El · 2019-04-16T00:53:55+00:00

Turn off the TV. Delete your social media. It's so easy to waste your life together on fiction. It doesn't have to be all or none, but be very aware of how much time you spend on these time suckers.

artemis286 · 2019-04-16T00:59:04+00:00

Communication! I highly recommend the book "Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work" by Dr. John Gottman. He has done extensive research on communication and divorce, and breaks down common communication pitfalls that can make or break a marriage. He makes it easy to understand and apply. Learning to communicate effectively, kindly, and respectfully, while making the other person feel listened to and respected is an invaluable skill! And do it now before any major issues come up, as preventative medicine, instead of waiting and putting out fires later. And congratulations!

loneliness-inc · 2019-04-15T23:27:58+00:00

Search the posting history of u/girlwithabike from about a year ago where she did a book review on the book: for women only. If you relate, buy the book itself and read through it. It's a goldmine of information on how to be the best wife you can be.

raeonmon · 2019-04-16T17:16:54+00:00

I've been married for a year and a half now. Here's my take:

if you haven't lived together yet, there will be growing pains. Sit tight, it will pass. Be vulnerable, and communicative. Set the tone for your marriage. This is the time where the patterns of your marriage will form. Meal planning cuts down on food waste, financial waste, and time waste. Set out defined roles for chores, and get into a cleaning schedule. Figure out your finances and budget now, if you haven't already. Learn your husband's moods and adjust your behavior accordingly. Sometimes he will be in a bad mood. Let him. Don't take his stress or irritation personally or let it affect yours. He is not a child that needs emotional management.

If he's partial to a certain food or sweet, make it every so often. My hubs likes nothing more than when I bake for him and he loves to brag about my cooking. *Date each other still. Dress up when you go out together. Anything can be a date. My husband and I like take our dog on walks by the river for some quality time.

moonchildcountrygirl · 2019-04-16T11:44:19+00:00

I'm not married so can't give you much advice, but congratulations!It makes me so happy to see people commit to one another and be willing to make an effort. How did you find an RP relationship?