Where can i add some dread?

BarracudaRP · 2019-04-29T11:08:36+00:00

There's no sense of dread at all

Dread has nothing to do with schedules or logistics. Your wife's hamster will take care of the details if you are a desirable man that could fuck other women. Stop trying to blame your busy schedule - the real problem is that your wife doesn't see you as being capable of getting pussy anywhere else, for whatever reason. Maybe it's not because you are unattractive, maybe it's because she sees you as being predictable. Is she right?

I was predictable. I generated little dread, because my wife knew that my lifestyle left no room for secret adventures. So I started going out more, sometimes by myself, sometimes with people who are strangers to her. I have a busy life that does not always include her, even though our schedules are often like your own. Now the dread comes fast when I'm out of the house.

Redpillbrigade17 · 2019-04-29T11:32:15+00:00

BarracudaRP advice is spot on: you need to think more strategically about dread.

But if you’re looking for small tweaks and tactics (without going overboard and overthinking the Machiavellinism), look to put some distance and longer lag in your call backs/ text replies. Just a bit in the beginning, to give her time to miss you more, wonder more what are you up to. Don’t go Rambo, autist robot asshole. Just subtly communicate you have better and more important things to do than communicate your whereabouts or be in touch with her at all times. Maybe every now and then let a call go unanswered. Call her back in an hour. Be diplomatic, suave and sweet, apply amused mastery etc if she’s acting pissy (if you do it right, she shouldn’t: it should go unnoticed).

Ideally all this should happen naturally because you’re busy doing what’s most important to you. That’s where dread comes in with power: her resizing you’re a man with lots of options because of your high value.

Also: take her out in public where there are lots of attractive women. Then watch how other women will put themselves in your orbit, may even hit on you openly. Do not discourage them. Enjoy the attention. Then watch your wife get a little crazy inside and the social dynamic which is fundamental to women. No woman wants a man who is not wanted by other women. So give her a chance to see for herself how other women chase you or make themselves available to you. That should get the hamster going and working nicely for you. Then enjoy the results - in bed.

Good luck.

Trtntrenbrah · 2019-04-29T12:53:29+00:00

best dread imo are female acquaintances

hamster will do the rest.

thunderbeyond · 2019-04-29T12:22:28+00:00

Are you even gaming your wife?

Does she even see you as someone who wants sex, or just a co-parent that she sees one day a week?

stoicstephen · 2019-04-29T10:47:55+00:00

How's your sex life?

Sounds like you don't have a Mission.

InChargeMan · 2019-04-29T13:32:43+00:00

Well, knowing nothing about you or your situation, I can tell you that I have made my needs and priorities clear to my wife, and good frequent sex is near the top. I can always "make" time for good sex. Your wife should understand this, so it can be assumed that she doesn't see you as somebody who is able to obtain the sex.

She knows I'm rolling around the floor with men in the evenings

Why does she know this? Is there a webcam at the place or some sort of tracker? Put another way, if your wife left the house three times a week and came back smelly and covered with bodily fluids, would you be so sure that some of those times it wasn't something else? Again, why is she so sure? You need to look at yourself to figure this out, my guess is you just have to look down.

hack3ge · 2019-04-29T18:34:31+00:00

There's no sense of dread at all. She knows I'm rolling around the floor with men in the evenings, or looking after the kids when she's working. When I'm home from jiu-jitsu and showered it's pretty close to bed time (1030)

You are trying too hard and worrying about using active dread. Just be a high value man and let passive dread happen.

For example, I do BJJ too and wife had no idea classes were co-ed. One day we are out walking around downtown and a chick from the class comes up gives me a hug and says hi to my sons by name and gives them hi fives (they come to class sometimes when my wife works late). I didn't try to orchestrate any of this it just happened because I am a high value man who has fun hobbies and am not an autistic faggot who doesn't socialize with people. Needless to say wife shit tested and fucked like a champ that night - don't worry about her and just live a fun, exciting life and dread will happen naturally.

Once shit like this happens even something as simple as you saying - hey going to go train with a few friends from the gym creates dread as my wife will even say have fun with your girlfriends.

[deleted] · 2019-04-29T18:35:05+00:00

When you watch the kids, take them out with you. Engage with women at the parks or whatever you do with your kids.

RPWolf · 2019-04-29T19:29:15+00:00

Story time. One of my best friends is a natural alpha. He gets laid at will and has options and IDGAF in spades. All of the married guys in our friends circles wives hate him. Let me rephrase, they actually love him and wish their husbands were him but what they hate is when their husbands go out with him.

Since I have discovered RP and reconnected with a lot of friends I lost because I gave up my hobbies and social circle, this buddy is one of them. My wife gives me zero shit for going out now but I can always tell when I let her know I am going out with him because her hamster goes into overdrive. This is amped up 10 times now that I am not a fat fuck and look good and handle myself even better. Without fail when I am out with him my phone is blowing up which I ignore or will delay a response. Without fail when I come home I get the fucked like a porn star. This is dread. I dont come home and tell her "hey all these chicks hit on me tonight." Shit half the time we might just have a beer and talk and not even interact with women.

Red-Curious · 2019-04-29T17:32:39+00:00

The point of dread isn't to make her think you're screwing around with other women. It's for her to know that you could if you wanted to. The thought that you could get a better woman than her at the drop of a hat keeps her motivated - it means that you're the desirable one in the relationship, which affects her desire for you. Jealousy for jealousy's own sake doesn't do squat for your sex life. Even if you were actually cheating on her, that fact alone isn't what makes her attracted to you - jealousy just makes a person emotionally hysterical. The attractive factor that accompanies jealousy isn't the jealousy itself, but the reason why the jealousy crept up in the first place. That's why we don't call it jealousy game. Dread encompasses more than the dread of what you might be doing when you're gone - it's the dread of recognizing the relational imbalance and the fact that you can get all your needs met elsewhere, making her either (1) expendable, or (2) step up her game so she becomes indispensable.

FoxShitNasty83 · 2019-04-29T10:41:08+00:00

Do what you want to do, be attractive don't be unattractive, own your shit, be fun... The list goes on....

SidMRP · 2019-04-29T18:03:12+00:00

This sounds more like a lack of flirting/gaming her than lack of dread.

gettingmymojoback · 2019-04-29T21:18:59+00:00

You’ve already got a lot of advice on what’s missing in your social life.

My question is, as a self employed tiler who is in other women’s homes every day...why isn’t your wife’s hamster wondering about you laying some pipe while you’re there?

My old man is a tradesperson, I’ve seen women openly hitting on him when I would go to job sites with him as a kid. I remember him asking me to wait outside in the van on more than one occasion when he needed to go “look at a few other jobs” the lady of the house needed looked after. Looking back now, I realize the old man was fucking the shit out of these housewives while their white collar husbands were working and his kid was waiting in the van.

Something is missing in your SMV, your built in occupational dread should be through the roof. Women love to get off on the strong hands, rough around the edges type. Your job should be creating tons of dread on it’s own.

ReddJive · 2019-04-29T14:25:17+00:00

i mainly lurk, read the top posts of the week ect... But I'm hoping for a bit of advice

Hope isn't method. Either do this or not. My advice? get your dick out of the dirt and start really working on the program. You are insulting all the men here doing real work.

She knows I'm rolling around the floor with men in the evenings,

There's your dread only it's not gay if you don't look them in the eyes.

[deleted] · 2019-04-29T18:50:33+00:00

I have a similar scenario in that I go to the gym 4-5 times a week... After a 8+ months she came over and sniffed me to make sure I went where I said i was.

BobbyPeru · 2019-04-29T17:53:42+00:00

Nothing in your post about lifting... jitz alone will not get you a body women want to fuck. My gut tells me you’re a fat fuck or skinny-fat. She knows no women wants to fuck an unattractive married guy

Also, are you gaming random chicks while your out? Abundance bs scarcity. I can smell your scarcity over the internet, so I’m sure the stench is overwhelming to her.