Tips for dealing with resentment

LocustOfOrigin · 2019-05-08T18:18:52+00:00

I don't have many expectations of her

And yet...you do.

You have a very large, glaring (and common) life sized covert contract of act and communicate like a man would or I-just-can't-even.

90% of men on here who are "winning yet confused" still can't grasp that a duck quacks, a dog barks, and a woman's moods are not going to based on the same rationale and criteria you set for yourself.

We love them, so we expect more of them instead of DIFFERENT of them.

You're around when the attitude is good. You find other things to do when their attitude is the-suck.

How about try every time she's shitty you fuck off. Eventually she'll curb it to the best of her ability or you will have spent so much time away you've made other plans for yourself.

You stop resenting the moment you stop holding malformed expectations.

It's tricky because you easily get fooled with comfortable good times or conversations that she's on your same wavelength.

She's not.

She'll never be.

Your head gets it, but your heart/spirit...emotions have not.

I don't resent my wife when I realize she's my wife...who is female and feminine.

The other option is grow to like anal intrusion and become the bottom, ya bundle of sticks. Then your top can come here and complain you are an irrational, whimsical, think the universe revolves around and responds to you twat.

RStonePT · 2019-05-08T18:13:47+00:00

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RPeed · 2019-05-08T19:46:40+00:00

Extreme ownership doesn’t mean “it’s all your fault”. It means you take responsibility for every aspect of your life. The difference is not subtle.

In practice that means addressing the shortcomings of others directly. Not working harder and harder in the hope they’ll up their own game. That would be a covert contract which is in fact what you are describing.

It’s at the start of the book. Immediately after the catchy title.

Read the book.

HornsOfApathy · 2019-05-08T17:43:21+00:00

I don't have many expectations of her, she's a SAHM, kids are in school, outside of cooking a meal a couple nights a week and some laundry, she doesn't have much on her.

Here's your problem. Your wife is bored. She will continue to manufacture ways to make her life interesting. Sounds to me like you've been a shitty leader by not giving her an outlet for her need for emotional drama. Have you encouraged her to do.... anything?

Illimitable Men Maxim #59: Women thrive on drama, it allows them to weaponize emotion and push an agenda. Starve them of emotion, and they have nothing to fight with. A woman starved of emotion will become desperate to sustain her psychological onslaught. As such, she will attempt to pry it from the dead, exaggerating observations and manufacturing issues in order to sustain the indignance necessary to maintain her psychological assault.

One last thing - go post in OYS in /r/marriedredpill - we don't know fuckall about you (wtf is run gear?) post some stats.

Sounds to me like you basically have this ego that you're alpha and interesting. If that was the case your wife wouldn't be acting like a spoiled little brat.

Probably time to introduce spankings for her. She doesn't see you as dominant at all, otherwise you would have told her to shut her harpy cunt mouth or you'll have to "work her in sooner".

redwall92 · 2019-05-08T18:15:43+00:00

Have you ever seen your wife contribute to something with her whole self? If you haven't, then I'll predict you're in for a surprise when she gets involve in something ... possibly with a strong male leader like a school headmaster or similar ... and she throws her whole self into that thing (and the people involved).

If she's not a part of what you're doing in life, then she's floating, coasting. Eventually, she's going to attach to something in a heavy way. Maybe you hope it's you or your mission. Maybe you don't care.

SAHM's ... man, when they attach ... it aint pretty when they attach to something other than their husband/husband's mission.

red-sfpplus · 2019-05-08T17:48:56+00:00

Tell her to get a fucking job.

Up the tren faggot.

Add in some HCG so you can find your balls again.

egc6 · 2019-05-08T17:48:44+00:00

It could be that she is just an unhappy fuck with mental issues that everyone, including her family, knows.

I don't have many expectations of her, she's a SAHM, kids are in school, outside of cooking a meal a couple nights a week and some laundry, she doesn't have much on her. I make good money and we have lots of support. She should not be stressed out given the circumstances, I don't know what she resents me for but half of every week is the silent treatment.

Maybe this is it. She could be bored as fuck and has no purpose in life. Does she have a place in your mission? It is captain and first mate after all. Does the first mate have shit to do that actually matters in the larger scheme?

ibelieveican1982 · 2019-05-08T18:49:47+00:00

Send her to work.

wild_deer_man · 2019-05-09T08:47:39+00:00

she knows her sister is an entitled selfish brat

So many people come here claiming they want the truth, yet they deny what is right in front of them.

So she hid from you her shitty parts while dating. How is that relevant now?

Do you think you can change her?

hystericalbonding · 2019-05-08T18:08:56+00:00

Maybe she should post.

You used the term resentment. I expect that you have a shitty track record, but the post is about her instead of yourself. Nobody can help you with only a thought fragment to go on, beyond telling you to OYS and read the sidebar books.

Realworld52 · 2019-05-08T21:20:25+00:00

Your SIL sure has you on a string