One Year On TRP - Updates & Lots Of Soul Searching

its-mystery · 2019-06-03T12:32:20+00:00

I respect you for realising your 3rd problem. Many people have it but not many realise it

HumanSockPuppet · 2019-06-03T13:47:31+00:00

(1) Understand the dynamic of bosses and underlings. The chain of command is really a food chain. When you do well, you make your boss look good to his bosses. When you do poorly, you make your boss look bad.

The real job of an underling is to make his boss look good. The real job of a boss is to make his employee's job easier, so they can make him look good.

To start out this process, think of yourself as your boss's wingman. You're trying to make him look good so he can get credit with his bosses. When you think of yourself as a wingman, it's easier to think of yourself as his peer rather than his bitch.

Don't let him exploit you, of course. Make sure he's doing what he needs in order to improve your quality of worklife as well, such as addressing problems in the workplace, protecting you from problems that crawl down the food chain, increasing pay, or whatever else falls under his authority.

(2) Keep your fucking mouth shut. Everyone has doubts. Just don't speak them aloud and know one will know for sure you have them. You will appear invincible.

You will gain confidence as you gain experience. If you need to gain confidence in a certain area, expose yourself to experiences in that area.

(3) See (2). Wisdom, and your own insightful ideas, will come from experience.

(4) See (3). When you become wise from experience and develop a reputation for reliability, other men will respect the value you have to offer.

Respect is the act of recognizing value.

Keep at it. As you said, there's no going back.

IvyExcess · 2019-06-03T13:45:35+00:00

DUDE! You are crushing it. Keep it up. Keep trying things with girls, keep asking questions. You are doing fantastic

omega_dawg93 · 2019-06-03T13:53:43+00:00

number 3 will be fixed when you develop a true, natural, organic, IDGAF attitude about everything, esp. women.

_-resonance-_ · 2019-06-03T18:52:40+00:00

1) Whoever needs the relationship less is in control. Develop your self professionally in the same manner you do personally; this way you are never afraid to “lose” your job. They’d be afraid to lose you. This is the only way I imagine you could genuinely hold frame without bluffing. The other option is to basically “risk it,” in other words, not have a backup plan, and figure that if they do “let you go” for whatever reason, that you will have the motivation and confidence to get where you need to be (since the old job isn’t tying you down any more).

2) Observing your thoughts (being conscious) is step one. Give yourself credit. The best way to inspire growth is remind yourself of how far you’ve come, and step 1 is arguably the hardest. Nice work. Moving on, don’t fight or argue with negative thought patterns. Merely observe them in the same manner that you DARE (not DEER) with women. It’s the exact same, and most effective at rewiring neural networks.

3) Mystery, man. You don’t need to talk. Spend this chapter of your life listening. Work on the “half-smile smirk” that says to those in your presence, “Something about this situation is hilarious. I’m not quite cracking up though because that would be inappropriate.” Develop body/facial language (demeanor) that 1) actually allows you yourself to enjoy the situation. Remember, you have nothing to prove. 2) could potentially inspire others to ask your thoughts, or why you’re smirking. “I’m just listening. I enjoy your company so much and it makes me a better person.” True facts.

4) I don’t respect you because you care if I respect you.

Love you brother.

soundspoon · 2019-06-03T13:10:35+00:00

I need help for the 3rd problem too!

ZR1987 · 2019-06-03T17:15:51+00:00

Way to go!!! This is inspiring! Your outlook is going to carry you further than you imagined.

_Ulan_ · 2019-06-03T14:13:43+00:00

My frame doesn't hold

I admire how you understand that you frame is fragile - but you don't pity over it. That alone is a great mentality, everyone fails to maintain it at some point in their lives.

WillSalt · 2019-06-03T15:31:12+00:00

There's thin self confidence you get from just thinking well about yourself, and there is true self confidence you get from actually getting good at stuff. You are already taking the right steps by becoming better at things. Just be stoic about your self doubts and they will take less space.

swervoooo · 2019-06-03T14:15:55+00:00

Start doing affirmations about yourself, there allot of videos on youtube that will help you and do them everyday!

0io- · 2019-06-03T19:05:48+00:00

Hey OP, great work, keep it up!

You'll find things get a whole lot easier when you drop from 27% body fat down to under 15%. You're lifting weights, right? Keep lifting.

With the job, you're already doing great to get your income up 2.5x but to really break out of the issues with your boss you'll need other job offers that pay more. Then it's a lot easier psychologically to push back and request the resources that you need.

Frankly, if I were you, I wouldn't worry too much. Just keep doing what you're doing. You're on a great trajectory right now.

You've gone from "invisible and unfuckable" to "mildly interesting fat guy just appeared on the radar". If you keep it up for another year you'll be at "hot guy with a great job". When you drop below 20% body fat you'll see an uptick in IOI's. When you drop below 15% BF you'll have girls making excuses to come hug you and grab your arms etc.

Never heard IOI's called 101's before. Indicator of Interest.

ogkushinjapan · 2019-06-03T23:34:51+00:00

I hope the 21 numbers you got was out of like a 100 business contacts at the tech con tho. Goal is still to network for prospects.

Pussy should never be the goal but a supplementary to yourself.

mega_kook · 2019-06-04T05:50:23+00:00

This might seem weird , but for problem 3 you need to break down your "filter" so to speak. Start saying what comes to mind instead of what you think you should say. It will be awkward at first but it is a skill you need to practice, just like anything else. I have personally been learning what to observe and how to translate that into words for different social situations.

ThinSpiritual · 2019-06-04T02:00:14+00:00

I'll use an analogy to provide some color on this. Every dancer started off learning basic, standard, moves and sets. Great dancers eventually create their own and develop their own styles. TRP is the same, in fact, don't even need to call it TRP at all, because TRP is just a combination of "moves".

Don't force yourself to absorb everything. Read, verify, practice and then take in those that work for YOU. That's how you develop wisdom and frame. If the words coming out of your mouth sound childish, then you've still internalized nothing. Remember the key is to self-validate. It doesn't matter if something you believe in appears to be contradicting TRP, if it works for you now then use it.

Eventually, you'll have more context on more things, experience builds upon itself as long as you're still walking the path. Until then, just ask yourself a simple question whenever you feel your frame is crumbling:

"What the fuck am I afraid of?"

Did dare to touch that HB9's ass? What are you afraid of? Rejection? Kill your hamster. Didn't dare to speak your mind to another male even though you knew you had a good argument? What are you afraid of? Is he gonna punch you then fuck you in the ass? Let's say he does, because two of your are fighting in prison right now. What are you gonna do? Do you fight or just let him stick his dick in you to destroy your confidence?

If for any reason you die in the next moment, and I mean, the next fucking moment. Can you die free? Visualize that, then do what you wanted to do. Take that first step and walk the fucking path, get there and feel it for yourself what it's like. Don't like it? Turn around at any time.

Bro you just gotta step out of your edge and try things, because that's how you redefine your edge and expand your world and your frame.

a7000-a · 2019-06-03T14:10:46+00:00

Reminds me of Red Pill Dad's post on his year being Red.

Nighthawkdragon8 · 2019-06-03T20:54:08+00:00

Nice! Il give some advice based on your problems you mentioned:

Don't worry about "respect" from other men. More so be authentic, and learn from instances where you get good or bad feedback. Respect is simply ego inflation, does not matter at all.

In terms of substance, focus on trying to enter a creative state when you are out. Like don't necassarily TRY to game, but rather allow game to come to you through your mood your in. Say things to pump your own state rather than to take from the girl.

Standgrounding · 2019-06-03T21:38:55+00:00

Wow, your self-awareness is straight up amazing. It's great to be able to see your problems and progress so far!

redbananaboard · 2019-06-04T00:56:12+00:00

Dude, I think you already got a fair amount of useful advice here. So I want only to say congrats brother. It takes courage to do what you're doing, be consistent and in a couple of years, you'll certainly be an even better version of yourself. Keep it up!

Zoole · 2019-07-01T23:50:30+00:00

My friend, concerning on how to become a true alpha and full of substance, I believe I can answer that question.

A journey. You can never change who you truly believe yourself to be until you cause the catalyst of change. It can be anything, but to be a true alpha, you need to walk in the room and know that no man could stand before you.

It Doesn't require size, looks, hair, or anything. Simply true confidence in your power. A rich man can become alpha easily. I became one once as well, when I was young and the leader and role model of a large group of friends. My power over others gave me mentality of a father, or big brother, and I changed. Power comes in many forms, through your accomplishments, wealth, charisma, but ultimately it must be gained through trial and character for the poor or weak.

HIJKelemenoP · 2019-07-25T01:54:30+00:00

First of all this is the first post in a long time that I’ve said, “wow!” Out loud.

Good for you man. You’re fucking killing it. You’re not doing anything wrong from what I’ve read. Just keep on keepin on dude!

You’re talking to hotties, losing weight, improving your style all around, and are far and above a lot of the guys on this sub. Good job! Don’t change anything, just keep adding to it slowly. You know where you need to improve. We all know where we need to improve. It’s not about winning every single day but finishing the marathon. You’re killing it.