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Well no shit (self.marriedredpill)

submitted by redpillreach

I want to show some gratitude.

I heard about TRP then followed MRP. I didnt take it seriously. The past 2-3 years my marriage/sex life sucked.

My back round I was a US marine solid frame cut with 6 pack. After marines played semi pro soccer and became a bartender to supplement the income in a sport few people in the US give a shit about.

I had a nice body and had more game than milton Bradley. Then I met my wife. I became soft and now struggle to talk to women. It's been 10 yrs with my wife. My wife runs works out at least 3 days a week. I have become beta AF. She has became "man" of the house.

4 weeks ago I decided to take my life back. I have not taken the red pill I have only reached for it.

So far I have been reading. I have been learning. I started lifting again. More importantly I have been STFU. I hold frame. Shit that has been bothering me around the house I have been taking care of. Not for validation because half the shit she doesnt notice. I feel accomplished I feel prideful my confidence shows

Already sex has increased her slutty side has come back out.

This is just the beginning I have a shit ton to learn, I have much more to gain. My road looks promising a as long as I stay on path. I havent even swallowed the red pill I'm still understanding it, and all ready benefits have shown.


[–]andyturbo2000 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy Link

You're seeing results? Don't go into this with your size 12 jack boots thinking in four weeks you can turnaround 10yrs of sleeping on the job. Study the sidebar, including Dread and take it easy, otherwise your RP attitude will go down like a cup of cold sick with your wife. Take it from me, I'm about a year into this. It's a rollacoaster of a ride. Two steps forward, one and a half back.

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Sometimes it's been two steps forward, 3 back. The important thing is to keep stepping forward. Over time, the gains will happen, they'll be slow (frustratingly so) but they happen.

You can even get the rare 2 steps forward, 0 back some weeks.

[–]andyturbo2000 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

Never a truer word said

[–]Punishermp62 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'll add be very aware of the impending anger phase as well. That Shit hit me like a freight train a few weeks in after noob gains initially had me feeling great for the first time in years. Thinking you can plow ahead without following levels of dread SLOWLY will fuck your progress up significantly. Slow is smooth, smooth is fast.

[–]MrChad_ThundercockPlaying the lead roll43 points44 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You go girl.

[–]OfficerWade3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

sigh //Upvote

[–]CrazyLegs7815 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hey devil dog. The corps makes riflemen. The corps makes alphas. The corps also makes you a professional cleaner of everything. This was a huge problem for me even 10 years into my marriage. I would lose my shit because it seemed to me that my wife was just a nasty slob that didn't give a shit how dirty the kitchen sink was. You seem to be on the right track in taking ownership and pride. It has helped me tremendously to simply remember that I am the one with the compulsive need to keep shit clean, and she is simply a 13yo girl in a woman's body. I can teach her how to clean things properly, but she may not always do it when/how I like. I've found that much of my own stress has been relieved by finding the extra money for a house cleaner once every other week or so.

I joke with my wife sometimes that for non-combat veteran Marines, the real PTSD is in trying to keep shit clean!

[–]hillbull8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Be prepared to back slide...be prepared for her to suddenly realize the shift in power and fight back against it...be prepared to doubt yourself and your journey.

Much like lifting gets you newb gains at the start, but down the road the PRs become farther between, injuries will set you back, etc. The redpill journey is no different. Be prepared to handle those set backs.

[–]stoicstephen5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I hold frame.

Give me examples.

[–]OfficerWade0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Frame is a note in a symphony. It doesn’t mean anything. Unless you’re out of frame and girl do this by acting weird, which might tell you you need to take a step back

[–]0io-Tsundere7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

STFU works really well. Lifting works wonders. The other thing to remember that a lot of guys seem to not pick up on fast enough is be in a good mood and be fun to be around.

Don't get drawn in to stupid arguments.

90% of the posts on askmrp are: "Wife said this, so I said that, and then wife said this, so I said something, then wife said something else and acted bitchy, so I said... Did I handle this right? Should I have said something else?" STFU almost always would have worked a lot better.

Keep it up!

[–]chrono23100 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

What's stfu..u mean not say anything? We should just be silent if wives argue?

[–]0io-Tsundere5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

STFU: Literally, "Shut the fuck up!" Don't say anything.

It's not so much for actual arguments where there is something of substance to be discussed, but for bitchiness, nagging, harping on pointless stuff. Lets say you bought eggs. "How come you bought Extra Large size organic eggs? I always tell you to get Large Size not Extra Large size!"

What you should not do is DEER: "Defend, Explain, Excuse, Rationalize". Don't ask "What difference does it make?" or say "they were out of Large Size eggs, it's not important" or anything like that. Just ignore her until it stops, or if she is going crazy and won't stop, then leave and do something else. Otherwise you can end up wasting time in an endless and pointless back-and-forth where she struggles to show she's the boss and you fucked up her simple commands. Instead just let her be like a toddler in a "time out". When she realizes you genuinely don't care and won't stick around for her tantrum, the tantrums become few and far between.

[–]Masterdan20154 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It really does work though, so it’s great that you’ve noticed. So it’s time to be the ultimate beast again, keep sharing your progress and follow the steps.

[–]RPWolfUnplugging2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Congrats, here's a Scooby Snack.

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Noob gains, keep working, reading and lifting. Start on OYS and come back in 6 months.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Good things are going well. Just a caution that this is likely going to be short lived. I found (as well as others) you get some amazing gains after 3-4 weeks. Then you can expect the cycle of shit testing, pass, more shit test, pass, etc. to start for a long time. Expect to ratchet up more and more for months.

[–]option_unpossible0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yup, I'm a bit over a year in, and the wife still shit tests as often as ever. Have to stay prepared to fuck off and do whatever the fuck I want to. She still gets pissy when I don't tell her ahead of time, or don't explain my intentions. Then she fucks me later that night.

[–]Ketonian_Empire1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm still learning. I have seen some progress, tough as shit to break a war hog.... I do the snake diet, that has seemed to have an affect on her, breaking her down a bit to diet. Anyways good job man, keep it up! I need to practice STFU more, do you just put your mind elsewhere?

[–]TendieMaster690 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Never stop brother

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Throw in some cardio too, gentlemen. Your heart will thank you as you age.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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