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This is why incels are growing in numbers. Tinder isn't real life, sweaty

submitted by bloyy

"Figure 1 shows updated smoothed graphs (using data from both the How Couples Meet and  Stay Together surveys, hereafter HCMST 2009 and HCMST 2017) of how couples have met by the year of  first meeting for heterosexual couples. Same‐sex couples (not shown) were early adopters of Internet  services for meeting partners. 

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*About 65% of same‐sex couples who met in 2017 met online, compared  to about 39% for heterosexual couples.*

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The 65% of recently formed same‐sex couples who met online is  very similar to what Rosenfeld and Thomas (2012; Figure 1) reported for same‐sex couples in 2009 using  the 2009 data alone. As the pattern for same‐sex couples has not changed as much, we focus here on  the changes in how heterosexual couples have met since 2009. "

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https://web.stanford.edu/~mrosenfe/Rosenfeld_et_al_Disintermediating_Friends.pdf


[–]bloyy[S] 18 points19 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

For further illustration:

https://qz.com/1546677/around-40-of-us-couples-now-first-meet-online/

Online dating is purely looks based, the normies say. Well, it's also the most popular way that people meet eachother. Over.

[–]sncvc7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yep, truth sure hurts, doesn't it? Everyone is overworked and underpaid and during the few hours of free time after work, what, you mean to tell me we need to go out and hit the bars and clubs and grilles and rooftop patios and blah di fucking blah to find our significant others? Drag our asses to and fro for overpriced drinks with Uber fares and subway fares and the time lost in and out of transit? No, of course not, which is why dating apps exist on the level they do. The only people who can't accept this are removed from reality or Boomers (often the same thing).

[–]bloyy[S] 7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

i don't even see many girls in bars anymore. why should they go? maybe validation? they're guaranteed to get approached by ugly guys, average guys, and the occasional chad. why deal with getting approached by dozens of guys you find unattractive if you can hop on tinder and find a guy you're attracted to?

[–]sncvc6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Exactly. I do remember reading a news story about NYC bars experiencing "ghost town" syndrome shortly after the rise of Tinder. The times are changing.

[–]le_ebin_trolecel6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

If i recall correctly a study was posted on braincels detailing relationships and how they were formed. Friend groups was still top dog but barely beating out online dating which rose to like high 20s to low 30%. Its over.

[–]bloyy[S] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

i wonder what the 20-30 age range is. i suspect it's higher than the older age ranges. and it just so happens most incels are in their 20s.

[–]LightofFate0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Most people I know met online. I'm 24.

[–]bloyy[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

my cousin is 5/10, not fat, average height. he met his girlfriend online, and she was an absolute fucking cow. 100lbs overweight at least. i can understand why a desperate dude would go for it. the only matches i get when i swipe right on 90% of girls are absolutely obese girls. I spent all year getting shredded, and fucking obese girls think they can sit around eating shit and get with a guy with abs. it's really sickening tbh

[–]LightofFate0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Most people i've met last few years, i'm 24, have met online. People are just lazy. There was one guy I knew, maybe 6/10 and he was cleaning up with below average girls. Average is bare minimum needed if you don't have high looks standards for women.

[–]LightofFate2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Online dating is by far biggest contributor to inceldom, it's not suddenly our fault like everyone tries to make out. So many women are dating people they meet online or at a bar/club. These things require looks flat out. If you're not good looking it's over.

Girls you meet through friends or whatever activity, they're more likely to already be taken by some guy they met online or online dating has raised standards so much they wouldn't be interested anyway and are even more likely to friend zone you.

It's should come as a surprise to no one that there's such a sharp rise in incels and men who still date sometimes but struggle a lot.

Online dating is the best ever thing to happen to good looking men and the worst for below average men.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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