Things have been going well, until Saturday.

Still keeping score, eh?

Our son was in the room sleeping and our baby monitor went off, she went and handled it, and came back. The second time it went off I was reading and as it went off she said "your turn". I simply was trying to finish reading the last part of the paragraph of the book (maybe an extra 10-15 seconds, this was non-emergency) and didnt respond (I assume in a timely manner suiting her) and she just snapped at me "are you just going to fucking ignore me?!"

So.... you didn't have to respond when she says "your turn", but it may be worth figuring out why you chose not to. Anything from "I got it" as you finished your paragraph, to a totally honest "a few more sentences and I'll get up."

You can't expect her to know you were 10-15 seconds away from a good stopping point, unless she's an accredited psychic?

told her not to be shitty with me, in firm tone.

"Learn to read my mind, bitch."

Got up, took care of kiddo, and then changed clothes and went to work out.

You're butthurt. Why? What bothered you so much?

When attempting to leave she insisted I stay with a compliance test "Wait, come here. Dont leave."

She was telling you she didn't mean to get shitty right here. Closest to a sincere apology you'll get in a situation like this, and she gave your fragile ego way more than it deserved, given the circumstance.

Came back, trying to bring good energy.

Good, you reset...

I told her I wouldn't fight or argue, and was in a pretty pleasant mood.

.....oh boy. You're idea of bringing good energy in is by bringing up previous negative energy??

She however was distant, obviously angry, and cold.

Just as expected.

I maintained my attitude but withdrew attention from her.

Punish her because your ego got hurt and you're too boring to shift the mood with actions? If you're gonna push, you better know how to pull. That, or give so little shits that you don't need to come here to recap the whole "ordeal".

The next morning I attempted a fresh start, and she was still clinging to this ridiculous event. So once again, withdrawal of attention and went on about my day. Even went as far to hang with the boys for a few hours that night.

What did you want her to do, sprout a dick and fuck you to break the tension? Seriously my man, you clung to it too. Get to the why.

Now for the interesting part, last night she left this elaborate page of a note detailing how she's worried for the marriage. How she wants love, respect, and compromise (interesting she says compromise, because I refuse to compromise on some shit I dont want to do). She also stated she doesnt want to have sex then go on about our separate missions (not sure what to make of that?) Long story short it was an emotional appeal for beta behavior and to give her power. Perhaps I've been failing comfort tests?

Perhaps she literally has no fucking clue if you even like her anymore. She told you she was worried about the marriage, the rest is the hamster wheel squeaking. She was worried you are ready to walk, who cares why she was worried, the fact she was fucking worried about losing you should be enough to show this woman is on your team. Figure out if you're ready to walk or not, then start acting congruently to that decision. Or, let the perceived power go to your head and spin your wheels for another 6 months. You do you.

I told her that wont change because I refuse to spend energy fighting. She played very female games, basically saying that I go on about my mission and dont entertain her, told her that's not my job to entertain her, but I've invited her multiple times to join me on my journey.

She's begging you to fight with her. What do you suppose her lizard brain is asking for here? Feelz, maybe? What do you suppose that means then? That you're boring, maybe? You decide.

She then hit me with a test, a hypothetical question. Saying she feels I only act closer to her if I receive sex, I told her yes that's the main way I feel loved. Never hid this, never denied this our whole relationship. She asked "What if I couldn't have sex for 6 months, or a year? Would you leave?" I answered honestly and said I didnt know.

You've been told to use AA or fogging by others here. And eventually, you'll get to a point where you can, and will, respond with some smart ass response. But if you don't understand what she's really asking you here, and what that kind of response communicates back, then that could only lead to more trouble.

She's asking a lot in that question. She's asking if you actually like her. She's asking if you enjoy her company enough to stick around without getting your dick wet. She's asking if you could leave the house and go get laid at any time. She's asking a lot. And "I don't know" said a lot as well.

And instead of understanding the fear behind your avoidance and lack of abundance, you choose to keep pointing the mirror back at her coldness.

I sharply (probably a mistake here) reminded her that when this did happen she was disrespectful, mean, and cold.

See? You knew enough to know it was a mistake, but not enough to start asking yourself the right questions. There's your que. When you hear that voice in your head saying "oops"....it's time to start digging.

So, advice? How do I move forward, keeping my frame and keeping attractive traits? What can I expect? Critiques?

Figure out if you even like her. Figure out what you want. Figure out if you're setting a good example of that want. Figure out what your frame even looks like. How it speaks, where it speaks from. And most importantly, quit worrying (past the point of learning from it, anyway) about this particular situation, and all other situations like it that will inevitably come.

And btw, do you see your own ego literally trying to cling to all of it's "progress" in your last rapid fire of questions? Are you afraid of losing all those attractive points you've got on the scoreboard?