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I’ve reached my breaking point and now I’m truly committed to getting over anxiety. Open to suggestions (self.asktrp)

submitted by A1M8E7

18 yo kissless and dateless with a body that looks like this 5’7” 185lbs according to my FFMI I’m on steroids but I’ve never ran a cycle. I’ve been too beta to approach most of the time and when I have been approached I’ve literally always cockblocked myself, I cannot understand what is wrong with me but I’m ready for change.

I’ve stopped porn and masturbating entirely. I’ve quit nicotine and I’m trying to cut easy dopamines. I haven’t quit cannabis yet but it’s next

I WILL follow this program https://www.goodlookingloser.com/anxiety/program starting TODAY even if it’s silly just so that my brain can readjust it’s stress response to talking to girls I find attractive.

In high school while all my friends got into relationships all I did was hit the gym like a fucking maniac and use powerful psychedelic drugs to destroy my ego. (Dmt, 5-MeO-DMT, 4-AcO-DMT, LSD analogues, shrooms and absolutely retarded amounts of cannabis) I probably have the prefrontal cortex of a fucking infant.

Anyways please share your advice wise pussy slayers.


[–]TehJimmyy69 points70 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

holy shit that physique. your age explains everything. no way you will not slay any time soon

edit : not on steroids ? Holy fucking genes

[–]A1M8E735 points36 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I know my genes are good but I’ve literally been lifting consistently since I was 12

[–]TehJimmyy20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sounds you are the strong silent type like me. But that's probably due to long term conditioning when growing up. I was a nice guy to girls also at 18-19 (doing favors and being silent expecting sex) which led me to oneitis then here. I am 22 now and still improving at that aspect and the only advice i can offer is it takes a long time to reverse this.

But honestly with that physique you could literally call girl names and get away with it. You are your worst enemy right now. In reality you shouldn't fear rejection now other girls do it for you.

[–]babybopp8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dude... u seriously look like those “engineers” from the movie Prometheus...

What’s up with the social anxiety? Don’t you get IOIs from women? Have u read sidebar well??

[–]eboyster0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That’s what I look like at 28 son. Great job!

[–]eagerlearner7321 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Someone’s pussy got WET!

[–]TehJimmyy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

rubbed one out

[–]AdeHMar67 points68 points  (15 children) | Copy Link

With that body, get a tinder account.

You will be drowning in pussy. Just post 3 of 5 shirtless pics, a stupid bio, and you are done.

Good luck.

[–]A1M8E716 points17 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

I don’t even use social media bro. Just social media for autists (reddit, discord, etc)

Does that matter?

[–]AdeHMar5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't use any social media except for facebook for proof that I exist and for college reasons.

Tinder is not social media like the others, it's media for fucking.

Again, create a tinder account. Get some decent pictures. Your body dictates 99 % chances of getting laid, and with how you look, it's gonna be easy.

[–]youngbull242 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

I feel like we’re being trolled at this point . Of course it matters . You sound like a creep when girls ask for social media and you don’t have anything. I don’t like it either but I have a Instagram with like 4 pics just so I can connect with people . It’s 2019 you meet people one of the first things they ask for is your Instagram especially at your age you’ll never even make male friends

[–]A1M8E77 points8 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Okay I do have an Instagram I’ll use it more

Dude I wish I was a troll I’m really broken

[–]youngbull241 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I’m not saying you need to be active and posting everyday but you need to have some kind of social media presence at you’re age . Be more active and talk to more people everyday especially if you’re at school , college and etc . After talking to someone exchange instagrams even if it’s just basic small talk then greet them when you see them but have some self awareness if you’re being annoying or if they’re in a rush when you see them. You sound like a Austic so you need to be more social with male and female and just meet more people in general . I know your probably have your circle of male friends and feel like that’s enough but while your being a weirdo and not talking to anyone their still making other friends . You should always try to get the number when talking to females you’re attracted to but a lot of girls around your age use social media to make sure you’re not a weirdo first so if she doesn’t give you her number don’t take it as a rejection and just walk away swap instagrams with her and start talking off there .

[–]SergiuIlescu3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Y the fuck does he need to be active and posting everyday on instagram? A post or a story during the week here and there is fine, what he should be doing is approach, approach and approach

Having social media while being socially autistic won't help him even if a 10/10 hoe invites herself in

he needs to start believing in himself first and to build that confidence, start by talking to everyone who you enter in contact with can be as short as "Good afternoon" or a simple greeting, stop making stuff in your head because the amount of pressure you're putting in yourself must be tremendous if with a body like that you haven't fucked a hoe yet (ironic but I'm not trying to pressure you, you'll get there someday)

Part-time / full time jobs in sales, retail or anything related to customers and team work will build your social hability

At this stage in your life you need to actively seek experiences, the best way to learn is to go out there and simply do, if you fail no biggie it's simply a lesson, learn as much from failures as you can and use that knowledge to make yourself better

At 18 years old you still have a long long way to go

[–]youngbull243 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Bro can you read ? I said he doesn’t

[–]SergiuIlescu2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

yeah man my bad

[–]1NathanHollister-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Just tell them social media is for losers and she should give you her number instead.

[–]MeansToABenz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You don’t need social media/tinder to slay u/A1M8E7

[–]youngbull2421 points22 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Lol don’t post 3-5 shirtless pics . Post the shirtless pic but be subtle . One beach pic no mirror pics

[–]RevolutionaryPea719 points20 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

You can get away with straight up shirtless pics at a high enough level of Chad.

[–]youngbull2412 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You can get away with anything if your chad

[–]ngyuhnang0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

My chad what

[–]TehJimmyy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

my chad me

[–]m-epictetus885 points86 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Start by talking to randos (uber rides, grocery, gym, etc) daily. The more you do this, the more comfortable you’ll be just talking to people. This should help you build momentum to approach.

Btw killer physique, brother.

[–]A1M8E739 points40 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thanks dude.

I grew up as an “introvert” thinking it was okay to avoid small talk and be the strong silent type, or the too serious type. It’s not okay anymore

[–]DiskKiller22 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Adopting the habit of casually talking to everybody does wonders.

I actually started doing this when I moved from my hometown to a new city. I wasn't the worst introvert, but it certainly wasn't natural – at first. I practically just imitated all the social, easy-going people I'd met earlier in my life. Most were Australian backpackers, I think, super out-going and laid-back guys who were friendly and confident. I'd just try to imagine how they'd behave and do the same.

Anyway, it was an act, a sleazy one actually, but everybody bought it. It helped that I changed cities. Now I was a guy who could talk to anyone. Try it. Memorize a few lines if it helps. You may also write a few canned 'funny comebacks' for the most usual questions / etc. Or just adopt a few from cold approach / day game books / posts.

(Just to add: I don't do it anymore, although I probably should. But at parties I'm the guy who introduces people to each other and at work I do most of the talking in sales meetings, etc. u/VasiliyZaitzev is the real expert here.)

[–]escapethesolarsystem2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This was the advice I was going to give, but it's here already, so upvote. To add: you really just need to focus on being social, don't worry about "approaching girls", just worry about talking to random people. After you're comfortable with that you can focus on girls specifically.

[–]stonewallair23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dude, that physique is fucking amazing. Respect for your work.

You say you're shy. I bet the reason the more outgoing girls themselves haven't opened up is due to their pure fear of rejection. I hope others help you out. I cant help you since I don't have experience with shyness.

I just wanted to pay may respects. Amazing work bro.

[–]1TyroneTheDriver16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hahahha my dude, this is EXACTLY the shit that blows my mind.

This kid is an adonis and cant talk to girls. Man, at your age, with how you take care of yourself, if you can get over the anxiety and develop a strong frame, you'll fucking SLAY. Women ALREADY look at you and ASSUME strong frame, this is a HUGE leg up and a reason why we maintain our fitness.

Good on you for getting ready to get over it. Quit the drugs, and start getting awkward. I GUARANTEE you with your body women will deal with your awkwardness to see what you're like in bed. You'll suck, but with enough experience you won't for long.

Welcome.

[–]hussamgm9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

This is so motivating to me. I love your post. Thank you very much.

[–]babybopp7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Dude is not getting laid... I guessing u are talking about the lifting..

[–]A1M8E74 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Those single vs in a relationship physique memes lol.. well when you’re single for long enough

[–]drqxx6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've been too beta too approach most of the time....

All she can tell you is No. Once you realize this you will be unstoppable. Remember most of all.

He who has the best story wins.

[–]VigilantSmartbomb7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Stop acting like the psychs did anything to you that makes you different. It’s a psychological block. It helped me. I thought the same.

[–]A1M8E71 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I’ll try to keep that in mind

[–]VigilantSmartbomb1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Man and you already kno yo higher self got a plan, or whatever you believe in! Lol gon act like you here but not “there” man you’re already there, it’s just that decision of being different than the day before. Or some shit, right?

[–]NabroleonBonaparte6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Keep in mind that by being extremely physically fit, many girls are going to auto reject themselves out of insecurity.

You really just need to work on your social skills and learn how to calibrate.

[–]Gaidsbola6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Here is my wise advice. Stop trolling this sub.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Why?

[–]setsuna06 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Bro you're only 18. I lost my virginity at 20. I wasn't in a rush and worked on myself. You are off to a great start.

[–]Erikacoleman2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah... And btw... Sex isnt really that good.. Maybe do arts or something.. Keep working on yourself.. I have a fuck buddy or two at 20 years old.. Only had 2 blowjobs and never bothered.. Its really just a stupid thing you do.. But girls who make it a big deal make it not worth the effort.. Sex comes easy if it doesnt dont work for it.. Sex happens unexpectedly.. You go for a date with a friend from colledge and holy shittt! (it was my third date ever) like just do you thing man.. And stop focusing on girls... But get in the habbit of randomly flirting and talking to strangers.. Youll get there

[–]mustache_ride_3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hey, it's the Engineer. Say hi to the xenomorph.

[–]Iticip5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Do some sales. You need a sales job. You’ll make money and learn how to get someone to buy a product, you’re an easy product to sell to women who want men.

[–]Kawhisintern23 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I'm similar to u, really young, introverted and hard working in the gym but clueless on other aspects. Life pretty much revolves around gym, school and video games. No social life except for gym and the time at school. Any advice guys?(I've already read some answers in the thread)

[–]A1M8E74 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Do nofap. I mean it. I wish I started it sooner.

[–]TehJimmyy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

also curious +1

[–]m-epictetus80 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Cut the video games and divert that time into a varsity sport (baseball, football, soccer, basketball, etc). You’ll not only make friends this way but also up your smv (assuming you’re in HS/uni).

[–]TheGoblinTurkey4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I would love to know more about your general training program, push pull legs? Strong lifts? How often do you train? Have you just been bulking for 8 years straight?

And otherwise yeah don't worry, my opinion is that confidence comes naturally when you do something a lot. When you see James bond in a bar talking to a girl, it's not his first time doing it. He's done it enough times that it's like tying his shoes; he doesn't have to think about it.

[–]1NathanHollister6 points7 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Stop smoking weed it takes away all your motivation in life. Makes you lazy.

Then just talk to girls. If you get shot down just take your shirt off.

[–]shaberone-2 points-1 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

It’s not the weeds fault you’re a lazy pos, that’s all you. Don’t look for excuses

[–]1NathanHollister4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Well if you choose to smoke weed then yes its your fault.

[–]alxjones-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

what's so bad about cannabis? has this happened to you?

[–]1NathanHollister1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

No, but it's happened to every friend of mine who smokes weed. They just sit around in a min wage job. They don't want to go to college, they don't look for a better job, they dont want to go to the gym, they usually get a fat gf.

Google "Weed takes away ambition"

[–]shaberone1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Your experience says that weed ruins people’s ambition, my experience says the opposite. Why do you think that your experience is the only one that matters?

[–]Uberfeedus2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yoga will get you very far.

[–]revaforce2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Your legs are fucking insane, what’s your leg routine?

[–]SouthernProcess2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

For me, I just got so sick walking by every girl like an opportunity that I was unwilling to capitalize on. Either start approaching now, or have it be a monkey on your back for years until it bugs you enough that you have to do it.

As others have said your physique is ridiculous. If you go the club, make strong eye contact with a girl and present your hand, twirl her, they will grind on you purely for your boy toy status

[–]oooKenshiooo2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You have only two obstacles. You are short and you wear glasses. Other than that, you are golden from an objective standpoint.

Get contacts, nice clothes, grow out your beard.

Invest in quality tinder pics. Get on tinder.

It will supply you with a never ending stream of shallow chicks to talk to. You will figure it out eventually. Some will fuck you anyway.

Remember: your golden years won't start until you are about 30,so there is plenty of time to perfect your pussy slaying abilities.

[–]brooklynbooked 1 points [recovered]  (12 children) | Copy Link

Just came in to say that you aren't natty. That's all.

[–]A1M8E710 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

That’s a widely held opinion, I have friends on gear that I’m stronger than. I know the chances of me being on gear are higher than the chances of me having elite genetics.

So statistically you’re not wrong and I respect you for doubting me

[–]AceMav211 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

He didn’t say he didn’t use SARMs hmmmm? Nah though 6 years that’s deff attainable natty. Here’s some advice... learn to welcome women into your life...! Remember man you’ll never be good enough even for a 6...Fr though they’re intimidated

[–]BluffButt1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

He isn’t on anything,

[–]dephchild1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

What do you eat for gains?

[–]A1M8E75 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

When it comes to high quality food, everything I can. I doubt I’ll be able to get away with that when I’m older and my metabolism slows down.

Most supplements are bs the only ones I use everyday are whey isolate creatine monohydrate and a multivitamin but these on their own won’t do shit and can be replaced through diet.

[–]1NathanHollister0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah fr man most supplements are ass. Just lift and eat a lot

[–]madara_on_reddit0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dont worry about metabolism slowing down! If you keep working hard and eat right they will never slow down till your like 40+

[–]TehJimmyy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

FOOOD

[–]youngbull241 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Honestly just talk to more people everyday . Get a tinder account to get that first couple of times off your back and add some experience . Find a cheap photographer online I found mine of craiglist and take 6 really good pictures can be done in one day . 6 pics 6 outfits make sure you show off the body with one pic beach , boat anywhere where it’s normal to have no shirt off Mirror pics make you look like a dweeb who’s obessed with the gym and copy and paste some bio you find online there is plenty .

[–]sjswander941 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Natty or not still takes dedication in and out of the gym .Apply that drive towards progressing with woman you’ll be a stud.

[–]RoccoPinkman1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Haters gon hate

[–]watchguy451 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Get a job in some type of sales. Retail... cell phones whatever. You will get comfortable talking to people.

Just like the gym... you make improvements over time by consistency and following basic principles.

Apply that to your social life

[–]Thelminator1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You look like the type of stressed guy at a party who gets drunk and breaks random objects to unleash his anger

[–]MeansToABenz3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

“In high school while all my friends got into relationships all I did was hit the gym like a fucking maniac and use powerful psychedelic drugs which destroyed my ego.”

I would not necessarily classify your high school experience as negative as you can now perceive that you want more balance. Psychedelics are great if used correctly in my opinion. Plus you got that physique, congrats.

[–]vicious_armbar2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

This is a troll post. Literally all this guy would have to do is put this picture on tinder, pick a woman, and tell her to come over to his place.

[–]A1M8E73 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

That might be true but my self esteem is fucked

I’ll try that when I move next month. TRP says women are attracted to you because you have a stronger frame than them. I just have a weak frame. Gotta build my confidence and start somewhere

[–]RoccoPinkman5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That doesn’t apply on tinder. It’s literally visual, you got that covered. Anyway it’s a feedback loop fuck a few HBs off tinder and that will raise your self esteem

[–]AstuteBlackMan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Whats your workout plan like?

[–]thepervypumpkin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Escitalopram/lexapro. 19 atm been on for 6 months. Virgin prior. Have since gotten n count to 4.

Anxiety was holding me back despite my gainz

[–]longjeep20050 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

How is your wardrobe? You have a 1% physique so make sure you show it off with clothes that fit you well. I dressed like a moron at 18 lol.

As far as the anxiety goes, try to focus on genuinely engaging with the other person, and smile. People like to be around the positive and engaged. Good luck!

[–]hrm08940 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Is this natty? How many calories u eat a day?

[–]Protocol_Apollo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You only need to work on your game/frame a bit and your results will just explode exponentially.

Start slow. Baby step it. Just approach girls asking small things eg directions if your frame atm is that low.

If not, you can just start talking and getting a number. Read up on the top posts of all time on the main sub and start approaching.

Make sure the clothes you wear are form fitting (not baggy), if you do, you have so many cards on your side before you have uttered a word to them (of course your talking can be the difference between a lay and not a lay but everybody has to start from somewhere)

[–]SilverFoxMarine 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

Not hating, but some of us have a trained eye. Nice delts/traps. Keep up the good work and find yourself a retail/sales job to practice small talk.

[–]A1M8E70 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

There’s nothing i can say to prove it but assume if i lied about that then i lied about everything. I should have zero credibility if this is the case.

I don’t want to doxx myself by being too specific but if you wonder why I don’t compete in a drug tested fed, I do. That’s the only reason I’ve ever stopped smoking weed, for the tests.

[–]JedYorks0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Mogs me to hell and back

[–]Nergaal0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

With those abs you hav eno excuse to not be proud of yourself. You need to talk IRL to real females. Doesn't matter if they are fugly. You need to get comfortable with female attention. That or turn gay.

[–]dsgk_990 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

What’s your workout routine/diet? I have visible abs but not nearly as pronounced like that.

[–]Aymane2210 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Natty really?

[–]A1M8E70 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

If that’s a lie then everything else can be assumed to be a lie as well. I swear on my life I’m natural.

I don’t care if strangers don’t believe me but it hurts when friends and family don’t. Like I have nothing against PEDs it’s your body to do what you want with but it’s fucked up to lie about it

[–]shitposterkatakuri0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Goodness your physique is amazing

[–]eagerlearner7320 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Say HI/HEY to girls and just stand there and let them talk.. isolate and tell them to kneel down! You got it buddy.. and yeah look into their eyes, RELAX!

[–]Gordon-G0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Say NO to all drugs bruh

[–]Invaincu0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

There is some priceless advice in the comments. However, one of the things that changed my life was getting a sales job. You will learn how to cope with rejection on a daily basis and learn body language if you take a face to face sales job.

Also, you will learn how to become an emotional psycho. Even if you feel like shit, feel "anxiety", the constant rejection and repetition will teach you to act confidently despite how you feel. You will learn true DGAF attitude and realize your emotions are meaningless unless you are able to control them (it took me a while before I could control my emotions and decide how I would feel like on a given day).

Take a part time sales job, preferably something hard like telemarketing or door to door, and don't quit for at least 6 months. Then, the skills you acquire can be used everywhere in your life, especially in dating where you are selling yourself.

You need to realize that anxiety is an emotion that will always surface from time to time. However, just like every emotion, it has to be controlled or eliminated through sheer repetition of the task that gives you anxiety. Letting yourself be affected by how you feel like will prevent you to live the life you want to have.

Good luck.

[–]SAddy970 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I competed at the same powerlifting meet as you this summer (TSO) ur strong af

[–]A1M8E71 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lmao exposed

[–]realityisperception40 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dude just post that pic on tinder and you’ll be laid by the end of the week.

[–]skrrrttt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I kiss you no homo but all jokes aside what's your diet like?

[–]Endorsed Contributor: "The Court Jester"GayLubeOil0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Women your age are just as retarded as you are so they won't be able to tell how retarded you are. My advice is to have retarded conversations with your fellow tards and that should lead to copulation at some point.

[–]DaMayorOfTittyCity0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Start going on tinder dates bro. Even if you don’t smash it’s good practice. The more I go on the more comfortable I am on a date.

[–]ChangeMyViewBoiz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Check your chats

[–]jm51-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Give up any thought of having sex for half a year.

By acting asexual, any creepy vibe is gone.

Talk to everyone, incuding the fugly girls and the socially awkward dorks. Doesn't have to be long convos, just enough for them to feel better for having had a chat with you.

That will show that you are approachable. (Who wants to stroke a very nervous dog?) Won't be long before you get IOIs.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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