I’m fairly new to the sub, so please forgive any misstep I may take!
Married 17 years, together for 20. Have a 14-year-old daughter and a 10-year-old son. I’m the primary breadwinner, and I work from home so I have a lot of flexibility in keeping the home and with the kids. Husband has an office job in the construction field. We were high school sweethearts, and both of our N counts are 1 - each other. We’ve had our ups and downs as all married couples do, but after this many years, I certainly feel like we’ve hit our stride.
Husband is not redpill. I’ve talked to him about it before, sexual strategy, concepts, etc, but he’s not really a social media guy so he’s never read into it on his own. He’s a manly guy naturally - I definitely have the type of personality that could steamroll a man very easily, but he never allowed it. That’s how we ended up married. He was the first guy I ever dated who would put me in my place.
I want to go the long haul. He’s the only man I’ve ever loved. The only man I’ve ever trusted (my dad is a monster - and the other men in my family also had many, many issues that have plagued them their whole lives). I’m trying to submit, but it’s not my natural state. My mom ran everything, because my dad was useless. Then after 25 years of marriage, there was a sudden divorce. Had she not owned her own shit, she’d have been in big trouble.
I’m not a girly girl. I don’t wear make up. I hate the way it feels. The way it smells. And the way it looks. If I wear a dress, I wear shorts under it. 😬 I can’t walk in heels - I look like a newborn baby deer. He seems good with all of this. The only feminine trait I have is my desire to serve. I home cook 3 meals a day for my family (kids pack their lunches and hubby comes home for lunch). I prepare their plates. I wash the dishes. I wash and fold their clothes. I strive to make life easier for them all, and I enjoy every piece of it.
My hobbies are cooking (including grilling and smoking meats), drinking beer, we boat and have a place at the lake and spend summer weekends there, playing cards, letting my husband explain what happened in a football game for the umpteenth time, and doing most anything with my girlfriends, who I’ve been blessed with and who hubby loves, too.
My question for those of you with 30 and 40 years under your belts - is this enough? Is submission enough without the “in-your-face” femininity that so many women seem to be blessed with but I wasn’t. Are there other things I can do to exude femininity without feeling like I’m playing dress up?
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