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What’s it come down to? (self.askMRP)

submitted by sykepsycho

Lifts: bench 235 5x5, dead 405 1x8, don't squat. 6'1/190/too fat. We’re both 25. 5 years together and engaged.

Sex is often. She initiates a lot of the time. I'm half way through NMMNG and WISNIFG. Making large strides mentally. For the last ~2 months of implementing STFU/FOG/BR/DEER the relationship is recovering. We were both losing our minds for awhile there so it's been great.

Problem is that she may be cheating now. A couple months ago after we had a fight due to rambo instead of comfort, I walked in on her whispering to someone on her phone, "I'll call you back" and she hangs up. She immediately explained it was a co-worker that offered his number. I STFU waiting to see what she'd follow with. Then she puts me on full blast about the dude- tells me he's older (she has a fetish about older dudes), has kids, married but separated, is a lot more jacked than me, staring me down hard as fuck while saying all this. I kept it together and just said, "You have a good time with your friends sweetheart." and changed the subject to food. That was maybe the hardest shit/stare down I've ever experienced from her. She's usually easy. She rarely leaves the house outside of work and doesn’t stay out late, sleep anywhere else, or go to dinner with other guys, so many of the obvious signs aren’t there. Txting coworkers outside of work is somewhat normal as she’s very high paid and has an important role, but even she admitted this wasn’t work related.

Am I over-reacting? I feel like I am a bit but only in comparison to the obvious stuff I read here. My gut is telling me something is different this time and no matter how many times I try to let it go, so far it’s not working. Maybe this is my ego. I don’t want to be that dude more than I want to stop giving a fuck.

Update: Planned out financials and killed the puppy. This bond is gonna be hard to get over, but my gut agrees with everyone here. No pain no gain.


[–]hack3geRed Beret16 points17 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

God damn faggot life handed you a gift. Your cheating whore of a fiancé is getting cocks rammed in her holes by her coworker 100% and loving every minute of it. She needs all of 5 minutes to get railed in the bathroom or in a car at lunch break when she’s at work.

The fact that she openly said it to you shows how low quality she is - most wait until after the wedding to drop that shit on you and only after they slowly stop fucking you and only after they tie you down with some kids.

Any time there are no kids involved and you aren’t even married the only response is “Thanks for the memories and have a nice life.” Shit I pretty much did that to my wife and I have 2 kids.

[–]Cessna19973 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

^ THIS THIS THIS!!! ^

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret13 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

That was maybe the hardest shit/stare down I've ever experienced from her. She's usually easy.

She’s asking you to kill the puppy. Kill it

[–]hack3geRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah or she was trying to gauge how much of a faggot he is and she confirmed what she thought. He will be her plowhorse while she continues to fuck chad in the office supply closet.

Most divorced / separated men have a period where they inherently are alpha just because they are bitter. I’ve seen it with a few of my buddies - they go out and are complete asshole and literally just want to fuck and then they settle down for some single mom of 3 kids and go right back in their place.

[–]sykepsycho[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

What puppy? How?

Edit: Got it. Well if she was being a shithead since she’d of been gone. The fact it was such an isolated incident didn’t get her that result (yet).

[–]stoicstephen8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You are 25, not married and without kids.

Break up with her, be free, squat, and build your own business.

[–]JudgeDoom691 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

not married and without kids.

u/sykepsycho you dodged a bullet with this one.

More importantly, nice deadlift at 405, but why aren't you squatting? It's the best lift.

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

A guy hires a private investigator to follow his fiancee.

A few weeks pass, and the PI meets up with the guy to discuss what he found.

"Well man, I've got bad news. She met up with her coworker at a hotel. The guy is older, which I can tell she really likes, has kids, separated from his wife and is a lot more jacked than you. At least that's what she told him on the phone," the PI lays out.

The man asks, "Well what did they do once they met?"

The PI lays out pictures of how the night unfolded as he continues, "They started off by getting dinner. They were holding hands, and she was smiling and super into him the entire time. After paying, they walked to an elevator to their room on the fifth floor. I found out their room number ahead of time and had a camera pointing at the window from across the street."

The man asks, "And then?"

"Well, I followed them to their hotel room up until they closed the door. The first thing she did was walk across and close the curtains, which I caught on camera."

The man exclaims, "Damn! We'll never know what happened!"

[–]umizumiz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"That'll be $2500."

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

If your girl isn’t talking to her friends about how amazing you are, you suck.

If she is talking to you about other men which are not family, you are fucked.

Imagine talking to her about another woman.

Faggot.

[–]umizumiz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Best way to judge their commitment is to find out what she tells her girlfriends about you... Easiest way to know when to cut and run.

[–]simbarlionRed Beret5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I am 100% sure she is talking to / about u/red-sfpplus

Be afraid.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I dont talk to THOTS on the phone bro.

Lol

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dude now the has judicial branch telling him he is a guy who looks like he could hurt people.

Be afraid OP.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

My gut is telling me something is different this time and no matter how many times I try to let it go, so far it’s not working.

A lot of guys on here are going to tell you it's an evolved mechanism. It may just be that you know her well and this is different. Either way, don't ignore it.

Stay plan is the same as the go plan. You do have one of those, right?

[–]sykepsycho[S] 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

There’s only ever been my plan for the most part. Part of me wants to disappear and ghost her and burn 5 years down, it was all worth it to learn what I’ve been learning recently and with a new girl there’d be no tarnished past. Part of me is saying that’s the easy way out, suffer and conquer this, and then dump her haha. Such a stupid incident is putting my ass to the test.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You've got your answers from others on here. Cut your losses, kick her to the curb and hit the sidebar on TRP and MRP so that you'll come back ready to WIN.

[–]sykepsycho[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am. It’s over. She’s been pulling out the crying/begging card all day, finally realizing I’m not bluffing and giving it up. Watching this play out like I’ve read here 100x here is surreal and unsettling. Heart is fucked, gut feels great.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Part of me is saying that’s the easy way out, suffer and conquer this, and then dump her haha

This is what a chick would do. Are you a chick?

Real men don’t act this way... just something for you to chew on

[–]wkndatbernardus4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sounds like you're living with this cheater. That's mistake #1. Move out and she'll be calling you on the DL instead of the simp.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Straight up easy as fuck. Just STFU

Start squatting, ass to grass

Answer all shit tests as you did, but add AM AA.

Stay Plan = Go plan. Ya, don’t be a fat, needy, whines bitch, either

[–]sykepsycho[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yea I’m leaning towards this. Leave my girly quads out of this bro.....

[–]InChargeManRed Beret3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Did you try telling her that you can't live without her?

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Awful, evil man.

[–]TaipanshimshonRed Beret2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Does it matter if she's cheating or you only think she's cheating ?

Engaged girls are easy.

[–]sykepsycho[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

What matters to me is my emotional well being. Seems like this comes down to me being able to let it go or not since there’s no evidence of anything. I’ll have to re-consider her value more closely.

[–]bowhunter62 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

JFC you’re not even married. Dump this whore immediately and quit wasting our time.

[–]FereallyRedHard Core Red2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Don't marry her.

You can walk away right now with zero costs but sunk costs. Always remember that.

MRP is for guys that have decided to give it a shot and stay until they've completed their own anti-pussification goal. But always remember cutting the cord is your first option.

Shit 5 years - 20 to 25 with the same woman? No wonder she's bored.

You guys are 25. You should have to peel her sweaty naked body off you to actually get anything done.

Archwinger wrote about how betas don't get to set boundaries.

So stick a broomstick up your ass to substitute for a spine until yours is finished growing.

[–]RStonePT1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Have a goal, orherwise this is all guesswork

[–]ReddJiveRed Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If you have that feeling in your gut. You’re about to get kicked in the nuts.

[–]ArborioRice1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She gave you a gift, congrats!

Instead of typical woman-speak, she communicated rather directly about her intentions; rarely are women as overt about such things as she was. Plenty of men here had their SO texting "coworkers" and being cagey with their phones, nearly all of them ended up the same with her getting dicked down. You already know it's not right, and you'll soon realize it's worse than you think as you dig far enough.

Kill the puppy and get into the sidebar.

[–]Over60_FireTempered3Red Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

G'Luck, puppy killing is nasty business.

[–]sykepsycho[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Knowing you’re too much of a cuck to replace a thot is nastier.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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