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I just started university and am wondering what’s the best way to meet girls and make new friends. I’m here alone and don’t know anyone so I don’t know how to start. I tried introducing myself to other people and making small talk, but I’m not sure how to make them my actual friends. And do I just walk up to random girls and talk to them? What happens after I talk to them? A rough step by step guide would help, and sorry for the autism.


[–]trp369190 points191 points  (17 children) | Copy Link

Bro search university on this sub and the main one there’s a bunch of posts you can follow.

My advice in order: 1. Join a social team sport like rugby - biggest factor in you not being a bitch through uni, you’ll meet redpill guys and trust me girls in the social groups like cheerleaders are almost exclusive to guys in rugby.

  1. Lift like your life depends on it. From now on you’re the guy who’s always lifting and loves it. Again this has such high benefits that honestly you simply can’t experience a high value male life without.

  2. Go to every single class. Every single one. Even if the lecturer only reads of the slides or you will fall asleep through it or you’re hungover. You get no opportunities being sat in your room like a dickhead. Be outside as much as possible and simply having classes with other people will make you friends and girls to plate.

[–]zk299798 points99 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Coming from someone currently in university, number 3 is so important. Once you start cutting corners in school, you start cutting corners everywhere in your life. Don’t be lazy.

[–]sniper190523 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I completely get this too as well. OP, don't start slacking on #3 especially.

[–]lalola01010 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Honestly I feel like shit when I skip class, but I always feel like the time could be better spent elsewhere like hanging out with friends or even lifting. The lecturers just reads from the slides.

Any other reasons for me to not skip class?

[–]tai_kuen[S] 16 points17 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

Back home I trained MMA and plan on continuing it here at another gym. That coupled with lifting, I don’t think I’ll have the energy to take on a sport like rugby, which is a shame.

[–]throwing8smokes22 points23 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Dude start the f*cking MMA team at your school. I started the boxing team. official competitions and stuff. It was so much fun, met awesome people, and even though it was slow to start, it was an awesome ride. I don't go to school now, but the team is growing and a major presence now.

Rule in life - if you want something and it doesn't exist, make it happen, or settle on yourself for giving up (obv. more realistic for shorter-term goals)

[–]th33unsaltednutt0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

You are lucky. The boxing,muay thai and bjj team at my university are all ass. The skill level is really low and sparring is only about knocking the other person out. The only good one is wrestling but then again most of the guys have been doing it for their whole life. I just train at my mma gym since i get alot better training with my coach and other pro and amateur fighters. It is pretty cool when i meet people from my university come train at my gym since they realize the teams are a sham.

[–]ZeppKfw1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Why not be the competitive ceiling yourself in your university?

[–]throwing8smokes0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

oh that's horrible. jeez sparring to knock-out? wth how you supposed to get better? smh. yeah with combat sports real easy to let pride get in the way of getting better ("oh look at me, I can beat you up, I'm so much better than you, oh my footwork doesn't need work, I get all the girls") start a rival team XD jk

[–]OracleofFl7 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Join other clubs whether they are sports or not....but not geek clubs. Clubs women would also join.

[–]H8Rades0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Not Greek clubs? That is one of the easiest ways to meet girls as well as redpill guys I can think of

[–]Burton9696965 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

He said geek lol

[–]H8Rades2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Word my bad

[–]OracleofFl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

LOL!

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Why not join the ball team? ⚾️ 🏀 🏈 ⚽️ 🎾 🏌️ join the fuckin ball team

[–]VigilantSmartbomb43 points44 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Lol I just go up and talk to any and everybody! Flirt with everybody, be the voice in the room, people will notice! And it’ll make it easier to approach others, and stop hacking off so your confidence goes up! Uhhh, but yeah just walk up to people. Most people are starving for social attention so any reaction to them and they’ll open up if they’re not actively trying to close down lol. As for the girls, it depends, if they’re just studying yeah go for it! If they’re a part of some group, you might have some white knights to get through first, which means you need to go to the gym so they don’t fuck with you, and that’s also another place to meet chicks. Basically, just throw yourself into the fire lol

Oh and fuck one of your teachers if you can, you’re only in this moment once 😂😂 missed so many 😭

[–]latinasonly2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

elaborate on fucking the teachers

[–]VigilantSmartbomb2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

They want it so bad but won’t make the first move because they have their job to worry about lol, it’s generally not in the rulebook you can’t date a teacher but it’s frowned upon cause it pulls into question the grades of the university. But overall, if you make it known you’re interested, then pull back slightly, they’ll knock on the door you just left cracked open. Look for the signs, if you were them what would you do? Lol

I usually look for body language they try to pass off as natural or unconscious but was obviously directed in my direction

It’s hard to say forsure when to go for it cause it’s a little higher risk and reward, but shit I wouldn’t let that stand in my way lol, just don’t catch a case and respect the game lol

Edit: Overall, though they’re no different lol, besides being older and having less criteria you need to meet before they fuck you. The older they are, the more it only depends on looks, the younger, it depends on status and other SMV values.

Just be a respectful horn dog 😂

[–]grandorder12340 points41 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

I had basically no friends my first few years of college. This year I said fuck it and rushed a few frats. I went in pretty drunk with no expectations and just tried to have fun. I came out with a bunch of new friends and an easy way to meet girls.

[–]AmIDyslexicStoner41914 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

What year of college was it that you joined?

[–]grandorder1239 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Senior year

[–]Ryzasu8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

What exactly is a "frat"? Is it an American thing?

[–]Hace_XVIII16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, it’s a American thing. Fraternities were formed more or less as social clubs. Most were formed in the late 1800s, although new ones still pop up today. For the most part they’re made to create private networks of individuals for the group's benefit. Considering most chapters within a Frat are subject to the same rules, regulations and processes, members know that they have shared experience and expectations, which can help a lot in the professional world. They also provide group activities to foster both chapter growth and camaraderie, which helps social skills.

There are two types of Fraternity: Social Frats and Professional Frats. Professional Frats are less stereotypical than social ones; they're co-ed much of the time, are usually based around one discipline (business, biology, engineering, etc), are more focused on professional networking and usually don't do much of what you typically think of Frats doing. I know a lot of people who are in both varieties because professional Frats are often seen as clubs more so than greek organizations.

People join Frats for a wide array of reasons. Some do it for the parties, some do it for service, some do it for professional networks. Most people find their own reason to join Frats one way or another.

[–]Oily13093 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The entire sub tends to be an American thing tbh. Whatever is suggested here usually applies way better in the US, as women (girls rather) are very one-dimensional compared to those in Europe.

It still can be applied to Europe in general, but there are more factors coming into play here.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah frats are party homes

[–]2stoned0jaguar9tre17 points18 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Be social, make friends, make connections for the future, do not Kino on campus, explore hobbies you enjoy, start figuring out where you want to be in 10 years and the things that will make it happen. Use school resources cuz youre paying for it. Go to those oncampus social evebts to your benefit, not detriment.

Get good grades, behave on campus, graduate and get a good paying job, then you can really focus on TRP, once the money side is taken care of.

[–]novalentineforyou1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Do not do kino escalation on campus?

[–]omarbradley420 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

When you pull to your place, then escalate. In campus kino seem childish and retarded.

[–]fartt12313 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

1) Be inline with your intentions. 2) set your expectations accordingly. and you will always be happy, then,

As Markus Arelius said when you cut a branch from adjacent branch. It is disconnected from the whole. Talk to everyone next to you. whether they are not that attractive or nerdy or not that good to talk to. Don't stop talking to the person because they are boring, nerdy, or talk on same subject over and over. give anyone you are talking to full attention sometimes it won't be possible and that's alright.. Just get in habit of conversing. This will teach you outcome independence and you will learn to converse.

This is where 1) comes in. Always remember why are you doing what you are doing, then 2) set your expectations accordingly. While doing this. some will not want to talk to you and that's expected. Some will think you are not cool and that is ok. You will find some boring. You will find some interesting. Then invite people to do shit. You will think some are too douchey, some will look too nerdy, some will be trashy, ghetto, too hot for you, higher league than you. Just invite everyone and you will be surprised at who shows up. Point is to not to think too highly of anyone and not to think too highly of yourself. Don't try to only talk to people who you want something out of. Sex, cool, status, whatever and it is why it's important talk to everyone.

[–]Jesusfeminist10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Are you in the dorms? Give more details

[–]tai_kuen[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No I’m not in the dorms. I live in a house near the university with some other students.

[–]MrAnderzon10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

College is no different from high school. Be active in some sport and invite people. Don't wait to get invited. And keep approaching

[–]YesVeryKewl8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

no matter what, DO NOT let your social life fuck up your grades. YOU WILL regret it. I know what you're thinking... ohh I'm in university this is the time of my life it's time to durr-durr EXPERIENCE and have fun!!!!

No matter how much fun you think you're going to have now, it will not equal the amount of fun you'll have when you graduate with top grades and earn 10x more than the average person your age. Take it from someone who had fun in college and still killed it to experience the after college fun.

Now I'm not saying you shouldn't have fun. You should. Join sports clubs, go to every class, join "nerdy" activities like professional clubs, public speaking clubs, do stuff with your study partners besides studying (e.g. go out for food), etc. (in college, nerdy = cool). Get a part-time job, volunteer, etc. It's not enough to put yourself in social settings, you must take it upon yourself to make plans with other people, groups, and start events (parties, trips, etc.). Have the attitude of I'm here to ace my courses and have a blast and if you wanna join me then you're welcome. Don't wait for the party.

[–]agjrpsl6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dude you got so many activities going on at your uni. Check the website see what's happening each night on campus. Football season is coming up. Parties, live music events. Make small talk with people and such. Ask a chic out to an activity that's going on. All she can say is no, and then you move on to the next one. Learn this now, and don't wait till you're a senior like someone else posted. Learn about your area it will make things much easier.

[–]ugluk14 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Gain competence, look out for possible jobs.

[–]menial_optimist5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

study or you wont pass. don't be the retards who drink heavily 3 days a week.

[–]BurnoTaurus3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You need a friendo wallet in order to begin collecting friendos. then you walk up to a person you want to friendo and you have to tell them the three main points about why you would make a good friendo, and the three things you want most out of your relationship with your friendo. If you move on from this stage you'll have to compare each others schedules to ensure enough availability for friendo time. Every hour you log with a friendo is worth .0000147 friendo, having multiple friendos with you will compound your friendo earnings by hour per person. Its all very straight forward. If you have any questions feel free to send me or any of the other management staff an email.

Ok for real you need to understand that you dont make people your friends. you typically will meet people for proximity and utility based reasons. either they are in the vicinity regularly, or you need something done and interact with them through that. If during the course of one of these interactions, like "hey neighbour can you help me move my couch into the hall?" your neighbour cracks a joke "hey I heard that friendo thing is starting to get really big" and you reply with some witty retort that moistens his companionship pussy, after the couch moving you might chillax for a moment, some people crack a beer or go out to the alleyway to mutually complain about how fucking bad it smells out there.

After that interaction you're like "hmm, maybe next time I do something and want some company I think about couch moving buddy" or "he moved that couch good, might be a good dude to play tennis with next weekend?"

only maybe you dont play tennis, maybe you're into bum fights and you just want a buddy to bet against. Tailor the situation to suit your needs

[–]tai_kuen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lmao at the first paragraph. But I see your point, perhaps I was overthinking how to make friends. I haven’t had to try to make friends since elementary school so I was a bit confused.

[–]Drawman122 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You do whatever you can bro. All of theese advices are empty and worthless, at the end of the day you will be doing 'only' whatever you can.

So instead of asking for advice, do whatever you can and internalise that, only person who can help you the most is yourself.

[–]ArbitraryArlom2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Read my mind lol I’m in the same boat. I find it hard to invite a group of people to go out or do anything at night cause I don’t have liquor or weed as well.

[–]tai_kuen[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Is it your first year too? Have you made any friends yet or plated any girls? I find it hard to move past the initial interaction. I’m gonna try and join some kind of club to help with more interactions with people.

[–]ArbitraryArlom1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah it’s my first year. I have some friends but it’s honestly tough to go past the acquaintances phase. Girls think I’m beta because I don’t have alpha friends from high school that are also here and I don’t have booze. Hope that changes with all my classes.

[–]Greek-God-Brody2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Say Yes to most social events.

[–]carbonhexoxide1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fraternity

[–]Krebota1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

University is the easiest place to meet people like ever. I'm in Eindhoven, loads of study associations, sporting associations and student associations, and if that's not enough the nightlife is huge. The question is what do you not do and how do you limit the things you invest yourself in because there's just so much.

[–]latinasonly1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

talk and be friendly to everyone. also be tough if people try to bother you (this gains peoples respect) those people who enjoy your company the most and you like the most will become your freinds. you will become popular because a lot of people know and like you .

also don't be a dick to others to seem cool. you are loosing a lot of your potential "fans" that way. make sure to workout at the college gym . do join a frat if you have the time/money/interest.

be an expert in the college classes you are enrolled in . invite others to study with you and they will gladly show up .

PM me if u have questions

[–]tai_kuen[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

What do you mean by “don’t be tough if people try to bother you”? How does that gain people’s respect?

[–]latinasonly0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

typo . fixed .

[–]LeEbinConchShell1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

just join a frat dude. im serious

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

make an instagram / snap

meet people and follow them on insta / snap

display your personality and lifestyle on insta / snap

interact / invite people to hang on insta / snap

[–]trp3696 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This. Guys on this sub are so against social media. Don’t use it like a bitch scrolling through wasting your time and it can become a very beneficial tool to 1. Showcase high smv through your own uploaded picture/videos and 2. As a means to keep in contact with people you have met and casually send invites to

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Exactly

[–]tai_kuen[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Was not expecting this reply. I’ve never used social media seriously before. What’s the advantages to this method rather than just talking to people irl?

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You do both. Meet people everywhere you go, if you hit it off connect on social media. Instead of trying to hard close every chick you meet, you build a big network of people you’re friends with, and eventually you’ll close them or their friends because of proximity.

[–]celincelin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

“What are the advantages of a mobile phone rather than just talking to people irl?“

[–]Alexander290 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

Does this work when you don’t have many Instagram followers?

and where do you make a good picture for your insta?

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Take photos with friends / people while you’re out. The whole point is to display social proof / smv

[–]Ryzasu1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

My main issue is that I don't really know how to get good pictures

Any tips?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Take photos with friends / people while you’re out. The whole point is to display social proof / smv

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