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To be honest I HATE the “so what do you do?” conversation thread so I typically try to find out what they like to do for fun with some light teasing if the opportunity is there.

However, I feel like my conversations can get a bit too intense/heavy for a bar setting, because I actually ask pretty deep questions regarding how they think, feel about things, etc.

I’d like to keep my conversations lighter, more flirtatious, and funny.

Any thoughts?


[–]Isbjornsolo82 points83 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

"If you could do anything or go anywhere tomorrow. What would you do?"

Was always a way to keep things fun and interesting. The basic girls will go travelling etc and they will get all excited about it. Really easy to push & pull then. The smarter girls will think and you'll still be able to push & pull a lot easier than normal. Girls just want to have fun, so let them.

[–]bigsunsetguy21 points22 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Delivery says everything too. Most girls can pick up on if you are a jabroni or not just by the delivery of this simple question

[–]Specialcz32 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Can you elaborate on what makes a good delivery in this case?

[–]Isbjornsolo1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I went one of two ways;

One with a lot of energy excited etc. Up the tempo of your speech, but try andremain in your normal octave.

Or drop your voice an octave like you're telling her a secret for just the two of you. This works well to isolate the two of you.

I would generally build to this once they mentioned anything remotely not positive. anything as small as "oh i've had a long day blah blah blah. "

[–]bigsunsetguy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Your delivery is a reflection of your demeanor, which often reflects your inner state; what headspace you are in and the image that you hold of yourself. Are you secure in yourself? And not because you’re delusional.

No discrete answer here. I can just tell you that girls in general are good at getting a feel for your internal state. Which reflects in how you speak. What you say. Why you do things that you do. How you do them. How others view you. Interact with you.

It all comes down to cultivating an appealing reality and inviting/drawing others into it.

Do things that you value. Increase confidence. A desirable demeanor should manifest itself.

[–]Isbjornsolo1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Jabroni?

[–]umizumiz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ayyy, this guy

[–]lugrulo37 points38 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You don’t trigger logic with women.

[–]babybopp2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

What do u do?

I put out oil rig fires and help old people cross the road in my spare time

[–]lugrulo1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Speak to them on an emotional level. Rile up their imagination.

[–]BgPB_949 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Since im working in a bar (in Europe) which is frequented by US expats and tourists, we usually go through the whole inch-to-cm stuff so those gals would know exactly what they're up for

[–]Vouch33r27 points28 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Leave deep questions for men. Women are fickle and the words should be merely a facade for your emotions engaging into sweaty, animalistic battle in which she can bathe in your masculine outbursts of pure passion. Go figure

[–]NabroleonBonaparte23 points24 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

It’s less about WHAT you say, and more about HOW you say it.

In bars I like to run jackass game or as the old folks like to call it “cocky-funny” game.

sees girl giving IOIs

You: “Hey babe, ever been with a bad boy?... You want to?

Or

pulling away from her after making out

You: “It’s my bed time, you can’t keep me up all night with this flirting”

Her: gets aroused and wants you more

You: “ok ok, lets go home and you can tuck me in ;)”

The funny thing is once you can pop these off without thinking, you’ll meet a lot more girls that can’t keep up so instead they just laugh and do whatever you want.

Bars are made for hooking up, so most dumb stuff you can blame on the liquor. Just isolate, escalate, and close. Nothing more, nothing less.

[–]oldschooltx5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This man. I get so wrapped up in reading shit that I forget what it is. It's just this flow of saying shit. For me what works is having my energy levels up and just rattling off banter, however lately I've been neglecting the gym and get caught up thinking too fucking much. What works for me is just overpowering with these wisecracks, rolling off if they aren't feeling it, and moving into the next thing.

[–]Schhwing6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

What’s your favourite thing?

[–]Tousen71[S] 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Film

[–]Schhwing12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Haha I meant ask the girl “what is your favourite thing”

[–]Tousen71[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Haha ah touché

[–]deadstick_it10 points11 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I don’t remember everything but I went with things like: what’s your name? I’ve never seen you here before. Do you come here often? Oh so you’re from XXX. Where to you cute girls hide? I haven’t seen y’all out when I’m there. Etc.

This was last weekend and I’ve had a huge approach anxiety issue and just said fuck it. I looked at my friend and pointed at the super hot blond and told him I’m going to talk to that girl, call me a bitch if I don’t. Then I went over there while she was talking with her friend and about four other girls nearby and busted out with “hey, what’s your name?” Then followed up with a bunch of that other shit I said up there.

And guess what? Holy fucking shit it worked and she talked to me and she wasn’t a mean bitch and she was only other person chillin on the earth. So there ya go. Do that. I’ve tried to work out a stupid plan and a line and all that shit but the “what’s your name” pickup line is all you need. Fuck the other shit.

[–]youcancallmedada26 points27 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Did you fuck though

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

He would have said if he did

[–]Vikraman111 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Haha exactly

[–]RossDDMarshalls5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah dude, way to leave us hanging.

[–]Proto_Sigma5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Whatever you want to. It really matters more how you talk to women that what you say to them. Just don’t be boring, try and have a good time with it.

[–]sayedhimself2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, it doesn’t matter what you’re saying in terms of overt communication. Women respond to the covert communication. The undertones of the conversation, Body language, emotions in the sub-communication.

Talk with your cock not with your mind.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Random shit that entertains me. Can go from me pretending I'm gay to a conversation about blood penis vs meat penises. Basically nothing usefull.

[–]boywonder2002 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Hold up

I'm gonna need you to expand on this blood penis vs meat penis thing. I am perplexed, yet aroused.

And on that note, yeh, I usually try to say the most absurd thing I can right off the bat to weed out girls that do not have an odd sense of humor like I do.

[–]ahackercalled4chan2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

blood penis = "grower"

meat penis = "show-er"

[–]Onidramon8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

and they say white people don't have culture

[–]EdvardMunch 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy Link

This needs to be a stuck on my wall. Ive totally forgotten this principle of energy behind words not the words for women. Im known to get really deep and my dates end with a hug and "youre so fascinating" with some advice and then a block or unmatch. But when I used to flippantly talk about simulation theory behind the eyes of I really want to fuck you it didnt matter.

[–]Ma_Junior2130 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Whats is a simulatoon theory?

[–]1XXXMersenne0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Whatever I find interesting or funny.

[–]andyturbo2000 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy Link

“Here, me and my buddies can’t agree on something. What’s your view? Is it okay to sleep with someone on the first date”.

Overt communication about interested in sex - ✔️

Keeping it light hearted - ✔️

[–]Tousen71[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That’s a good one

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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